About a year and a half ago me and my fiancé moved away from the few family and friends we had for a job opportunity. My fiancés friend was the one who got him the job so he came here with friends. Shortly after moving we found out we are having twins(so 4 kids under 4). For the past year and a half we would get invited to hangout every few months with everyone but my fiancé would get invited over constantly on his own to stay the night. He already goes away for work and I have no one that is able to come help me so I would rather him stay home and do stuff with us on the weekend. I feel like I would be more okay if I was also invited to do stuff just me but I don’t get invited. We only all get invited every few weeks and it’s last minute. Then there’s a whole boys weekend where there are wife’s and other women there but I wasn’t allowed cause I have too many kids. I didn’t expect to be invited the whole time but to just include me and my kids for a few hours considering there are other kids there.
AITA for not letting my SO go out for the night when I’m alone with 4 young kids?
Not the A-holeUmmmm, Are you sure he isn't cheating on you? You can't go because you have too many kids? He is sleeping over at friends houses? He travels for work, and isn't around on weekends to spend time with his children and SO?
If he isn't cheating, he is isolating you and that is a form of abuse.
I’ve met the family and people he is hanging out with and he works with the same people so I really doubt it, I’m just rarely invited because we have too many babies, I have 9 month old twins and a 2 year old, plus a 5 year old. I understand why they wouldn’t always want us there all the time but then maybe we should find other friends that accept us all.
Is he and his friends aware that you didn’t have those kids alone? That you both have babies- not just you
I guess not, only two of these people don’t have kids the others are literally grown ups with families of their own, the kids are older though
Would you be able to get a babysitter? Since he is their main friend, I can see why he is always invited. They probably have nothing against you, they just don't want little kids ruining adult fun.