AITA for confronting my friend about trying to embarrass me?

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Confront your friend? I'm not sure they are your friend. After you read this, you might see why I'm not sure it's worth the effort to confront your friend. Maybe if they approach you to see why you're no longer talking to them anymore then you might answer their question. But if they don't ask, I'm not sure it's worth bothering with.

No, you're not being too sensitive. Clearly, they're not nice.

You're almost done with highschool - hang in there - everything changes once highschool is over. You either go to college or get a job, start making new accquaintances and this stupid highschool drama that kids do - is away from you (and you can block it if you still see any of it.)

Suddenly, those people who act like this end up having to find their way in the real world of adulting... They don't get to treat people like this and still make their way forward in jobs etc., so this is going to all be behind you.

On another note... I don't see you as being sensitive here. If you think that you are a sensitive person or a "deeply feeling person" - you're not alone. I listened to part of the audiobook called "Highly Sensitive People" by Elaine Aron, and it is estimated that 15-20% of people are HSP - it's not a handful like other people would make people think.

HSP's have all kinds of giftedness, and the sensing of things is one of them. Examples of HSP people are - say you went to a restaurant and the waiter came out in a tuxedo. The HSP person might notice the person's clothing, unbuttoned cuff, whiskers and slight unhappiness and downcastness in their facial gestures that the waiter is trying to hide, now the HSP thinks that the waiter isn't doing so good today (and they might be right!) The NON-HSP person sees the white and black of the uniform and wants the menu and they're done. Another example... Two people are asked to sort oranges. The HSP person sorts them into seven categories - fresh and looks great, slightly green, dented, bug bitten, too soft (etc.) while the non-HSP person puts them in two categories... Best and worst.

HSP people are often might enjoy things in their hobbies or professions as authors, artists, photographers, etc., caring roles, might be caring people, could be designers and more... Musicians, etc...

So you hang in there and don't let it get you down. Next time someone calls you "too sensitive" - you might respond with "no actually, you're insensitive" or - "what is it about my response that is bothering you?" LOL... Turn the tables. Hang in there and don't let this get you down.

Make new friends in your sport!! You dont' need to be with people who are uncaring and insensitive and all about themselves. Also, you can do the opposite... you can be a caring person, caring about others, and someone who is not all about themselves. It's an ugly thing to be uncaring, insensitive and all about ones own self.

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I, 18 FM, currently a senior in highschool have a hard time finding solid friendships. I’ve been through a lot when it comes to friends and I can’t seem to make good ones because they’re either jealous, projecting insecurities, or belittling me. When it comes to friendships I’m always the pushover, and I’m sick of it so now I’m finally defending myself. In the span of 2 years I’ve been the loneliest ever because I cut anyone off that I feel is wrong for me. So recently in class, I’ve had a girl that I got along with really well. She always wanted to be my friend and even asked the teacher to sit next to me. We were very cool at first until this guy came in the class. At first he both made us uncomfortable and we shared this discomfort together because of weird comments he makes. He’s been a jerk ever since he tried to hit on me and I declined. Turns out this guy starts to sit right next to us and all of a sudden he’s friends with her boyfriend so they became friends. Now, she’s had a change of heart by constantly coming to his defense when he says something weird to me when I defend myself. Once I expressed my new excitement for a sport I’m trying and he tells me, “Why don’t you stick to what you know you’ll never make it” and she laughed but I didn’t say anything. This guy is very creepy though, always calling my name in class then laughs when I turn around and always watching me. He even made a comment about me eating a lollipop talking about how I was ..”sucking” it..and she didn’t say a word to defend me. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t expect her too, but as a “friend”, I should. I even have this girls number and we texted a couple times. Anyway, everyday she makes small snarky remarks to get everyone to laugh at me. For example yesterday she was like, “you keep an umbrella?? Who keeps an umbrella??” Trying to get everyone around us to laugh at me for something so simple. Or when she would try to provoke a reaction out of me when I don’t respond. So yesterday after she tried to get me to talk I didn’t engage. I stared at her dead in the eyes and told her, “what do you want me to say??” I told her, “you always act different when people are around and you’re trying to be funny”. She acted confused when I told her how I felt. I said, “I don’t act that way with you so why do you feel comfortable doing it to me?” She just tried to say I was being sensitive and gaslight. I told the creepy guy, “I don’t understand why you keep talking to me either, you make me uncomfortable” and then the teacher got involved afterwards. I’m probably not friends with that girl anymore, but It is what it is. Im just upset because we planned on trying out for the sport together and I’m honestly sad i won’t have any friends with me during the experience..I just hope I’m not actually being sensitive.

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NTA. These are not your friends. It’s hard when you’re young because of pressure to assume the appearance of the pack, in order not to look like a loner, so we sit and stand near kids we know, even if they sometimes treat us poorly. Young people have so few positive healthy relationships modeled to them to know what one looks like. You’re not being sensitive. What they’re doing is trying to establish a pecking order and they’re giving you a hard time on purpose to rattle you in order to establish themselves as dominant in the group. Kids who feel driven to do so largely do so because they don’t have a sense of control at home. Often this behavior is modeled to them growing up by toxic family members. You have to be prepared to give it back to them, and depending on the vibe and the space that can be varying degrees of fact and humor. It’s hard when you’re put on the spot. Here are some examples:

“you keep an umbrella?? Who keeps an umbrella??”

“Over 33 million umbrellas are sold in the United States each year.”

“People with a dry sense of humor.”

“Me and your mom.”

ESH. Leave it be and move on, all of you.