I know! This is a horrible, horrible thing to say, but I have to say it, it’s a throwaway account.
My husband and I are in our mid forties, married over twenty years and have three beautiful children, all double digits. I do love my husband, but I don’t know if I am physically attracted to him, not because of his looks but of how he lives his life.
My husband is a good man, treats me very well and is an amazing father to our children. Physically, he is tall, broad shoulders, no skinny or athletic, but not obese. He is a big guy with a big beard, big arms, big hands, he is built like a line backer. He can physically intimidate people with just his presence, although he never goes in to intentionally do that. He can control a room and has a very “masculine” job he excels at. However, the manliness ends there.
This is why I may not be attracted to him anymore, if I ever was. He is not handy. It’s not that he doesn’t try to fix or do things around the house, but he cannot build anything. Anything he does fix never looks or works right. A lot of times we have to hire people to do fix or build things for us. He doesn’t drink, he will go out once in a while and have a couple of beers, but he doesn’t drink at home. My husband isn’t into any “manly” stuff. He doesn’t hunt or fish or do anything with automobiles, and is not big into sports. He has taken the kids fishing and shooting, just so they have the experience, but he does it just for them.
He really doesn’t have any hobbies. I begged him to take one up, so he started building Lego sets? He’s in his forties! He loves going to movies, he likes cooking (I never have to cook when he is home) and he does a lot of the house cleaning.
I will give him this, he doesn’t play video games or board games (unless family time) or do animae or any of that. He is not controlling in bed, sex is ok, but I want him to take charge.
I won’t say anything about this to him. I wouldn’t know where to start. I do love him. It’s not that I want him to be a drunk or macho aggressive jerk, but sometimes I just want a man to take charge and fix things and be a man!
This is bad, I know. I feel bad saying it, just needed to say it.