Some time ago, I went on a date with a guy i met online.
Things went amazing, and honestly, at the end of the date, I wanted to sleep with him. I asked him if he wanted to stay over at my place, after we had made out and he said no.
I figured no big deal.
The next day he texted me and said he had fun, but didn't think we were gonna work out.
Fast forward a few months and we run into each other again, we catch up for a bit, and I couldn't help but ask him what went wrong with out date.
He asked if I was sure I wanted to know, I said yes.
He said the he didn't want to be with a woman who would sleep with someone on the first date.
I felt insulted and wanted to say something, but I couldn't really say anything, cuz he did reject me after all.
Idk, am I overreacting?
I mean, you didn’t really react. You felt insulted. You recognized that he didn’t lead you on. He didn’t sleep with you and then break up with you for being willing to put out on the first date. He didn’t slut shame you, you didn’t tear into him.
People all have different standards, and you seem to recognize that. Your views and values just aren’t compatible. It sucks you had a good time with this guy and it’s not going to go anywhere, but it’s just a fact of life that every time a door opens, another closes. Some guy is going to go on a great date with you, love the fact that you invited him in, and share your views on sex and you’ll have a happy and fulfilling relationship. He’s gonna meet some girl who feels the same way he does and they are also gonna be happy.