How does it feels like to be in your 30s nowadays?

Like your twenties, but with more moneys and less insecurities. Best decade so far!

I’m 31F

I still freaking like Regular Show, Bluey, Anime… the list goes on. I still like video games too. I still love going to concerts and going out clubbing, but only once every 2 months lol. I’ve fallen in love with sleep so much more when I got older, as well as cooking, keeping my house clean, and loving my own company.

I feel more secure, I am wealthier, but even with this wealth, I have found living simply is the most fulfilling part of life. I also keep only certain people close to me.

I found awesome hobbies like lifting, playing a new instrument and gardening.

The only thing I miss in my 20s is my metabolism. Just need to spend more time working out / being particular with diet.

I am 39 but in my mind im still 25.it’s crazy cause i need to act my age but my mind is still not ready for this

Everyone is looking at you like you’re an adult and you’re like WTF all of the time plus your body hurts

The hangovers are brutal. Having a few drinks and pushing through work the next day is no longer an option.

I’m strictly a “no alcohol on weekdays” guy now. Better for my health and wallet too.

Life has lost all meaning to me.

Your results may vary.

1. Your 30s is when you realize life doesn't end in your 20s...

let that sink in for a minute...

1. If you want to kill yourself in your 20s, don't, because you probably won't want to in your 30s.

let that sink in for a minute...

1. Your 30s is when all those over-amplified emotions and pesky insecurities that affixed themselves to your spine when you hit puberty really start to lose their power over you. If you are not at least starting to feel more confident, you are definitely starting to feel less bothered, even when life gets genuinely shitty (like getting a divorced or burning through all your savings to switch careers). Part of it is biological. Part of it is you understand the world more, which informs as to what is and is not in your control. Knowing where free will stops and where the great machine starts can bring a lot of peace in circumstances that in the past would have created a lot of fear and/or frustration.

2. Going back to "[understanding] the world more", most of the major lessons I have learned in life occurred in my 30s or just before. Which surprised me, because I thought personal growth was mostly a young person's game. Those lessons did wonders for my outlook on life.

3. Home ownership... happens for a lot of us in our 30's, was probably the most pleasant surprise I've had as an adult. I was getting pretty content before I bought, but this thing I thought would just be one big headache turned out to be a major happiness booster.

4. If you aren't enjoying old hobbies in your 30's, it is probably because you found awesome new hobbies that you picked based on a better understanding of yourself... Same goes for vocation. I quit being a lawyer at 38 to became a software developer. My parents thought I was nuts. I knew it wasn't because by then I knew me. Turned out to be the best decision of my life.

I'm getting towards the halfway mark of my 40's. Jury is still out on that one...

Best thing I ever heard that helped me shift into adulthood. Stop using your weekend to escape the life you have and start using it to build the life you want.

You are always you. People grow over time but they’re always still essentially themselves

I'm 33 and video games no longer interest me and I'm starting to slow down and find hobbies for myself. I get bored way too easy, but I'll still check once in a while. Hoping the Ubisoft f2p FPS hooks me for a bit when it releases at the end of the month .. played games as a distraction, to escape, and no longer feel the need to do so.

Sports , walks, meditation, VR, gym, anything to keep my body moving and Ive lost 40 lbs :)

Trying to do things with and for my fiance and my future, I'm definitely a late bloomer but it is what It is

You’re finding yourself in your 20s, you become who you always were in your 30s; you have more money and probably the start of a few joint pains, but in my case I feel like my ability to handle stress and pain is much higher. Like oh, yeah, my knee pain? Eh got things to do. I finally feel like I have some goal to work towards. I’ve read enough philosophy to communicate my worldview

Awesome. So much better.

I was about to answer but then I remembered I turned 40. Time doesn't mean shit to me

I spent my 20s traveling around the world. Now I'm 32 and a lot more concerned about the future than before.

I still have a lot of hobbies I enjoy though!

Tired of clowns..

It’s terrible. The point of existence is to work your life away because everything is so expensive now, and everyone around you tells you to just try harder and it’s better than it’s ever been. I have to approach and be romantic and sexual immediately with hundreds of people if I want a small chance of finding someone compatible. I’ll never own a house. I need to work 60 hours a week to get ahead, which leaves me drained for my passions and hobbies, the things I really care about. It’s extremely depressing and everyone here on Reddit is just thriving because they make so much money. Makes me not even want to engage with people anymore.!

You will to live is pretty much gone. Just running on fumes.

I am still me but less chaotic, probably. In my 20s it was all about the experience. I just wanted to do and try everything. Now I've done and tried a lot and have a bit more of an idea of what I like and don't like.

I don't have any physical issues slowing me down but I like getting at least 8 hours of sleep. I wish I could go out and party more but most of my friends are married or are parents so - they're more home bodies now. So on that note, I need to start looking into getting different hobbies that don't rely on a social aspect. My personality and behaviors are still the same, if not more confident.

My thirties is - by far - the best.

Fitter. Stronger. More money. More freedom.

No manager. No alarm clocks.

Your thirties is when your lifestyle choices start to stack up and deliver results.

Whether those results are good or bad is on you.

health issues will come up immediately. I got them a week before i turned 30 lmao.

Back pain probs. Forget going hard on the drinks, the hangovers will suck. More money is great. Still love all my hobbies but gave up content creation. The realization that i was wasting years flogging a dead horse really set in and i got massive clarity on the time i had been wasting.

Also the crushing realization that turning 40 is less than 10 years away and the fear of not having your life together in time sets in.

I finally found a gf right before i turned 30. Literally a week before. I'm convinced shes the one as well. Basically i wanna be married with kids and own a home by 40. Thats my goal.

You realize your health is slowly declining. You can't party until dawn and work the next day.

Like I'm finally getting somewhere as my body begins to quit on me.

Honestly when i turned 30 i realised i felt great. I'm 35 now and I'm in good shape, my children are happy and healthy, I'm much better at managing my finances than i was in my 20s, my relationship with my wife is stronger, i did a masters degree and got a better job.

My advice: Play the long game at work, dont just keep hopping from job to job, pick a career and work on it.

Read books about how to manage your finances.

Dont just ditch relationships when they get difficult, work hard on them and they'll become more fulfilling, you'll also grow as a person.

Have children.

Edit: obviously I'm not saying everyone should do these things. OP asked for experiences, theae are the things that worked for me and make me happy.

For me it is fantastic. More money, more confidence, less care for what others think.

Have kids, so much less time for hobbies, but that could be expected. Much more money for them, though. What I don't like is that I lose weight less now, so have to take more care what I eat.

Some say hangovers are worse, but I did not experience that. I know what and how much I can drink and always drink more mindfully (only one type of drink, one glass of water between alcoholic drinks etc.). I am hungover less now than in my 20s.

You take saving more seriously and have more autonomy so as not to be accountable to anyone, you make practically the same jokes as always but certain interests also change and you hang out less with your lifelong friends, some married, others involved in other topics, etc. , the most brutal difference in my case is that you look more towards the future and the stress of achieving goals increases and time flies by, in your 20's you live practically day to day, living intensely

Married person here. Not much changed except for the fact I have a life partner. I plan to never have kids so I don't think much will change moving forward either. 

So much more peace, self respect, friendship, and success than in my 20s. I'm more "me" than ever because I've been able to pursue the interests that I always had.

But this is a decade where I see the impact of youthful decisions and overall luck start to take a hold in a big way. Everyone has potential in their 20s. Not everyone is able or willing to make good on their potential.

My biggest advice is to be careful who you tie yourself to. Once you realize a friend, intimate partner, or job situation isn't a step forward on the path to becoming the best version of yourself, make plans to get away as soon as you can. That doesn't necessarily mean ghosting someone or yelling "I quit!" or anything like that, but making a decision to find a responsible exit strategy.

In my 30s, 4 kids, house is paid off, love coming home to my kids all running up to me and hugging me as soon as I come through the door. No matter how bad my day at work was, I get excited on the drive home because of them.

We play Minecraft together (I stay up late after they all go to bed and grind and build some cool stuff to surprise them when we play next), we play outside, watch goofy/fun YouTube sometimes board games or random trivia.

My wife loves cooking with me so we usually make dinner together. Walk around in the garden for a bit. Take care of my bees. (Just got a new colony!) Usually I’ll spend a few hours after everyone’s gone to bed playing some video games or just chat w the wife if she’s not doing something else.

Don’t know if life could be better. Sure, budget is tight but we still make room for date nights and smaller vacations. God is good.

Regular Show is still funny at age 32, can confirm.

I’m far happier in my 30’s. I’m not so interested in gaming anymore but that’s okay, I have more of a focus on financial stability and personal growth. I’m still fit as a fiddle and nothing hurts, but I do take care of myself. I’m very content and feel far more established 😊

Not 30 yet but it’s coming fast, I’m 28, 29 in September. Throughout my 20s I’ve found myself again.

I’ve lost over 196lbs and I’m just continuing to better myself. I work full time, I train Muay Thai, BJJ, MMA and lift throughout the week and I’m also building up a clothing brand.

There aren’t many hours left in the day by the time I’m finished but now as I’m starting to get older I’m giving less of a shit about money, I’m becoming more open and just living a bit more.

I’m quite a private person so as I’m growing up I’m starting to shelve that side of me which I’m liking more and more

I need to sit after about 10 mins of standing.

I'm 28. But I feel like I'm still a fresh out of high school 18 yo. Barley aged a day. Except my back a bit.

But I also feel like I'm 45 with a mid life crisis everyday.

Everything is better in your 30s except the fact that you start aging. Aside from the small things like grey hairs and small wrinkles the worst thing is RECOVERY TIME. I remember i could go to the gym 5/6 times a week with crazy volume and show up on monday to do the same again. Now i get injured just looking at those kids benching with wrong form let alone try doing it myself.

I feel like I got robbed of my late 20s

I am well into my 30s and there are pros and cons. The pros are independence and stability, but that depends on circumstance. The con is you realize a lot of the ideologies and narratives from the adults are flawed. As a teen/young adult I always assumed the adults had it under control despite differing ideologies. In my 30s I was terrified to find out that some of our leaders are very flawed people.

Insecure as fuck. I had 1 job and rose up the ladder in my 20’s. At 36 I’m on my 4th job under contract for a year.

I’m making more money but way less stability.

It’s great Same as always and more money to do what I like Back pain is becoming an issue that I need to be mindful off and my need for viagra to back up consecutive sessions and diet and sleep are more important but apart from that 😂 it’s great but yeah definitely more mindful and less carefree but still fun

Most married people are miserable. Facts. The dirt comes out when they divorce about how unhappy they were for most of the marriage. Kids are overrated. Many people have them for selfish reasons or irresponsible behavior. They complain constantly about them...money to raise them, behavior, etc. Stay single, don't get married and don't bring living beings onto this planet to suffer their whole lives.

In my 40s but I wanted to weigh in. At 43 I still enjoy Regular Show. Offensive things it varies. For example I loved Drawn Together in my 20s thought it was hilarious. Rewatched it recently and it actually didn't age well just seemed mean spirited to be mean spirited. One of those shows that was more about "how much grossing out can you take" than any entertainment.

I still swear, I still enjoy my hobbies. I will even still crack a dirty joke. The biggest difference is that when I was a kid I watched Who's the Boss and thought Samantha, played by Alyssa Milano who is older than me, was cute.

Now I'm like "damn Mona you're hot"

Just expensive mostly.

not good

Lost strength and I don't push the limits as much anymore.
But I know who I am now. Became more relaxed and tollerant.

going against the grain - so much scarier than my 20’s.

Basically trade instability for stability.

I was 31 when my gf got pregnant with our first child. Luckily, I landed a good job before she was born, and I found my place in that job. Five years later, still there.

Before my thirties, I would go from job to job every six months. Smoke weed, drink, skateboard a lot (got a couple of tricks under my belt but mostly cruising), go to concerts, go to my friends' band backyard shows.

Now, I only skateboard when I don't feel tired from work or from getting emotionally and physically beat up by my two toddlers. Don't go to backyard shows, don't go to concerts much, I only take edibles to be able to sleep deep when my kids are staying at their grandparents. I only drink every couple of months if I go out with my best friend.

Unfortunately, I still suck at managing my money. I'm bad about going to the doctor (my dad always said, why go to the doctor if I can just use ducktape), and a couple of other habits that keep me from adulting.

My humor is still the same, dark/cruel/taboo/self sabotage/immature. I guess the difference is I just have to be mindful if my kids are around.

It sucks

Less insecurities, more confident, more money, mentally stable, but somehow with much less friends, single, and sometimes loneliness takes over.

Very much still myself, got ten years on you.

The offensive jokes get tired after a while as you're exposed to more real people's struggles/lives and you either double down and put your hands over your ears like a boomer or you realise you were passively increasing the latent asshole factor in the world and tone it down. The offensive jokes that remain are of excellent quality and involve wit.

I have a buddy my age and a couple times a year we get high eat utter junk and play videogames or music. You don't have to lose yourself at all. You can choose to improve yourself and curate your life to be the shape you want it to be.

All with the caveat that you will NEVER have enough time. That thing that you're planning on doing one day, if you aren't doing it today and tomorrow it's not gonna happen.

PS. Don't stay loyal in one job for 5 years hoping to one day get paid, sad reality is job hopping for the same career every 2-3 years ups your salary immensely, at least in the desk job world.

I turn thirty tommorow!

(Male)

I had many of the same thoughts at 25 as you do. "Saving money" is well and good but spending that money to invest in yourself is the best thing you could do. Learn a new skill or language. I had a dream where I was going down a river, the current swept me up, I was stuck in the eddys and rapids. I did not know how to steer the boat. I ran into someone offering to teach, but I was reluctant to give up the money to learn. Eventually I gave up a measly sum of ten dollars and I was moving down that river like a professional.

I went through a bunch of crappy jobs. Now im back in school to finish the last semester of my chemistry degree. I quit drinking entirely and removed friendships that were not conducive to bettering my self and life (negative thinkers and gossips). I go to bed at 9PM and wake up at 6AM. I play one hour of video games before bed then I read (I tried cold turkying video games but I love them and its part of my life, I just play games with other people for communication skills building).

I made some money, but it comes and goes. I have more skills and most of all have gained wisdom. I really don't limit myself in terms of how I will be viewed by other people. I have more confidence. No kids or wife but planning that part of my life.

If you are looking for a good self help mentor, Jim Rohn is a good source.

"Be as water" Bruce Lee

I'm in late 20s, and I believe that human brains don't fully mature until they are 24. So, 24 is actually the only available start of a mature life a person can have.

The most noticeable thing is that you become less tolerant of bullsh*t haha. You easily ditch/avoid toxic people. And you don't care what other people think of you or your interests anymore.

Keeping your body and mind young is the key to living your 30s. Get rid of unnecessary social baggage and excessive “experiences” like raves, night clubs, EDM concerts, and opt to use those time to build stronger relationships with the close friends. Your ears will thank you too. The friends that stayed with you heading in your 30s are the ones likely to be lifetime friends.

Im more me than I have ever been. Spend a huge amount of time pursuing my hobbies, have a really meaningful and enjoyable job, house dog and a really supportive and loving girlfriend. Honestly, my 30s is kicking the snot out of my 20s

Feels good to be happy man

32, married, 2 babies and just bought our first house 6 months ago! Started my career one year ago. Hubbs and I work at same place so we drive together. Yes more money! Old hobbies like cycling, reading, gaming, TV, hikes....and new like baking and crocheting. Being a mom is incredible, having my own home is incredible, securely married is incredible. But, I have LOVED every phase of my life besides 2 years in middle school. What I hate is not I may move in a wrong way and I'm Injured. My knees hurt and my sriat hurts all the time.

Just turned 30 this year. Honestly, it’s really hard to be 30 nowadays. Not only am I not where I thought I’d be, the world itself is just harder to live in. And it takes a toll on your mental health if you're not ahead because it's all on you. Truthfully, I am disappointed past me didn’t try harder to get into a solid grad program out of my Bachelor’s degree because current me is feeling the economic effects now. On the positive side, I did transfer to my dream Uni, graduate, get a job in one of my fields of choice (STEM), start a tutoring business, get an awesome gf whom I love dearly, and I LOVE the freedom of having more money, not relying on someone if I don't want to, and not caring about what others think in my 30’s. But on the negative, that is unfortunately not enough to maintain the same level of happiness as I had in my twenties given how expensive everything is now, how everyone's getting laid off, and how I worry about money too much. I only make $60k which is hardly half of what you need to not only survive but also get a house and start a family these days. I stress about productivity a lot, things hurt in my body if I don’t take care of them (you start putting on weight if you aren’t super active), and it’s just way harder to maintain friendships out of college given life pulls you and your boys away from each other. More: I quit drinking because it made me act a fool, the hangovers started lasting too long, and it got too expensive. I can't sit and play video games anymore as I seem to need way more mental stimulation with something like a documentary, chess, or whatever I can learn (that's probably a mixture of getting older as well as algorithm-dopamine). So yeah, it’s overall easier now to have freedom, you're smarter, and you have the discipline to save $20k rather than just $2k, but you have to really manage your life early on with your education and career so you aren’t super stressed about money and can actually make time and enjoy your hobbies and friends. I am still me, but only just able to slightly afford the luxury of being financially somewhat independent. I am looking into the next step to get more educated, earn more, and learn to have fun again.

33m, I'm bitter and blunt after getting fucked over so many times. I'm not broke anymore, but I miss that hopeful idealist of my 20s.

I'm almost 30 and I feel a lot more comfortable in my skin than I did in my early 20's. Career and family is established. Finances are in check. I've mostly kept up on my workout routine and am slowly working on my diet to stay leaner. Just need to buy a house and settle down somewhere when it becomes possible.

I'd say my early 20's were a mix of hope and worry that my hard work in college and working those shit jobs to pay off college and keep myself afloat would work out; thankfully it did. I wasn't as comfortable with myself back then and life felt uncertain which I think made it an arduous effort to get through those years. I'm definitely a lot happier now and wish I can tell my past self not to worry so much; everything will be ok.

I (35) am still the same person mentally in many ways as I was in my early 20s but with two kids and a mortgage I have a ton more responsibilities and no time. The biggest difference is that in your late 20s, your friends all seem to start dropping off. I miss being able to drop by a casual party, go out for drinks on the spur of the moment, or pulling all-nighters just chatting with friends. Now to do anything it's a whole production if you can even make it happen.

It was all a lie and I want to speak to the manager

It’s a little depressing because I was pretty wide eyed and hopeful in my 20s and now I’m jaded af. I’m a stereotype of a divorced veteran though.

The good thing is I have my skincare and makeup routine down to a science now though! And no wrinkles or grey hair yet so I’ve got that going for me. Plus I own a home and my dogs have a fenced in yard, which is really why I show up to work every day 😂

Your answer will likely vary if you were lucky enough to buy a house before 2020 or not.

30s ppl with children keep posting about their kids on social media

30s ppl without children keep posting about their travels on social media

Everything hurts and I'm permanently tired but I'm much more at ease with myself, I understand who I am as a person so much more than I ever have before and I'm happier in my own company.

My focus has shifted from money and things to family and experiences.

I’m still the same person but I have so little time do anything outside of work and family time now.

I’m so hyper aware of it that it makes me reject almost all plans that aren’t deemed mandatory. Because saying yes to something means I’m saying no to my rare instances of free time lol.

Apart from growing old health issues, nothing much has changed.

I’m only 25 what are you talking about

I'm 30, still feel the same as when I was a teenager. Only now I have a full-time job and bills to pay, so my priorities are different and I'm wiser about saving money.

I still feel about 22, that was a great year for me. I grew heaps in my 20s and had a lot of good luck. Husband and I bought a house in 2019 when I was only 25. I turned 30 this year. I definitely feel tired because I grinded in my 20s by studying my postgrad and getting promotions. Now I'm happier to lay back and let others do the hard work. I've got a great paying job. We've got a plan to retire in 10 years, when I'm 40. I just want to retire and spend time with my husband and loved ones :)

You are wiser and you know yourself better. You don’t make patol basta basta, choose your battles ika nga.

Anyone 25~30 ago still still go the the local college pool and swim I feel like that is my go to exercise routine. I meet people my ago group to hangout.

Yes I am more humble now and pragmatic in my thinking.

I’m 36 and I feel how I thought I would when I was nearly 30.

Honestly 30s is prob the best ages.

The sistem

"You" is an evolving thing. When I started to think more about the impact of how I was acting effected everything around me, I began to change. This was not because I lost myself but because my priorities shifted. In some ways, it feels like I became more of "me" rather than less.

I feel 28. No complaints.

I aint in my 30s so i cant help you with that

For me, late 20s to early 30s was the best part of my life. There's a bit of an adjustment period mid-late 30s as things start to hurt a bit more. It's harder to go without a full night's sleep, etc

I am way more confident.

It’s awesome

Dude 30s are awesome. I feel more like “me” than ever. Still make time for all the stuff I enjoy, and have much more stability. It’s great.

I grew out of a lot of the stuff you like, but adapted in others. For example, I no longer find adult cartoons or offensive memes/jokes entertaining, and I only care that my car is functional and looks decent.

I still love music, video games, and have picked up a bunch of new hobbies like hiking, biking, and cards.

I'd say the biggest thing that was normal in my 20s that's abnormal in my 30s is making irresponsible choices on a daily basis. I'd often eat like crap, drink a ton of energy drinks, stay up till 3 gaming or partying and then go to work/class (or miss them). I spent a bunch of money I didn't have going out and eating junk food.

I've slowed down a bit and still feel like me; just a more refined version. Less fun, more contentment.

(38F) I have more laundry and house tasks now, but that is primarily because I got married, not because of my age.

I am still me. I am still huge into video games and Disney movies and Bluey and stuffies and Star Trek and card games and board games. I don’t have as much time to devote to them. And since I don’t have as much unstructured time as I used to, I don’t get the opportunity to be silly as much as I used to. I do miss that sometimes.

So I’d say that it’s not that I’ve changed as much as my priories have changed (by necessity). But I love my wife and our life together, and that makes up for life being busier.

ETA: I think I also give less f*cks now, generally speaking. I am more comfortable with myself, and I don’t obsess about fitting in. Other people may think I am strange, because I am strange. And that’s okay. (I was also diagnosed with ADHD and Autism last year, which helped a lot with self acceptance)

I dunno, I got a house, little girl, basically married and some sort of career. It seems mega stressful all the time and wages dont really reflect wealth.

Little one is great but job satifisfaction is pretty crap! Waiting on exam results impatiently, maybe thats why I feel abit down about it all.

Ah well 3yrs time it will be fine and thereafter be fine!

In it for the long haul right...

I’m where I wanted to be when I was 25. 25 was a hard for me due to family issues. I was so desperate to get to where I am today, and rightfully so. I’m 32, live with my husband and have an 8 month old baby. Life is wonderful now! I’m no longer dependent on my family’s tantrums, I’m building the family I’ve always wanted! Lots of fun, laughter. Right now, life is good…

like your twenties but with more money, less insecurities, hangovers that last for days instead of hours and sudden anxiety and panic attacks for no reason

30’s rule.

Might have less “free time” but I have more money, less bullshit and am having the best time of my life rn.

Set up a separate savings account with limited access and move over a good portion and budget money to spend on every day whatever

30s have been great (I’m 36). Better job/established career, married, two kids, house, just more of a rooted feeling where I don’t feel as anxious or insecure.

You’re still you, but a wiser more established version of you. Experiences in life change a person no matter how big or small, so you’ll never be the same from your 20s no matter how hard you try.

Since turning 30 6 months ago I feel so much more confident, I'm entering that "don't give a fuck" era where I'm working on myself, improving my fashion sense, exercising, doing hobbies and more importantly not giving a fuck what other people think of my choices (within reason obviously, I'm not going around treating people like shit), I'm enjoying myself a lot more and Ive realised that I'm at the age where if I want something then I have to go and do it, during my 20s id talk about all the holidays I wanted to go on but would never do them. Now, I have the kick up the arse (and the money) to go do it.