I moved at least once ever 18 months until I was 30yo AMA
like burning literal bridges. so you travelled with your dad when doing the seasonal guiding work or just alone
Metaphorical bridges. He has a tendency to rub people the wrong way so living situations didn’t usually last long.
We did a lot of work trade for housing and sharecropping when I was younger so kinda like seasonal work, but I had moved out before I got into guiding.
are you still in contact with your family. also what about any friends you made. someone that stuck even after you travelled this much
Haven’t really interacted with my dad for 7ish years, was strained for a while before that. Still talk to my mom pretty regularly, she’s actually coming to stay for a week soon.
I have somehow managed to keep the same best friend since we were 7yo, despite living in different states for most the time. We try to get together 4-5 times a year. I’m relatively close with his brothers but usually only talk to them if I’m in town.
Not many other close friends from being a kid. Have made some really good friends guiding etc that I try to stay in touch with and put together trips when we can.
Nice. My moms visiting too. Missed her cooking man. What cause the strain in relation with your dad? Oppoeing views?
Yeah it will be nice to see her, though I can’t say she’s particularly known for her cooking, lol
He’s always been a bit of a narcissist, could be pretty abusive. I probably would have stoped contact closer to 16 if not for my little brother who has a different mom. Even as it is my brother used to have some resentment about me leaving.
Youre still in contact with ur brother Im finding myself at odds with some of my views with family but i also know they done their best to raise me up and shit, so bit conflicteda
We’re pretty close, he’s 8 years younger than me we mostly agree on stuff.
He can be a oddly boomer like sometimes but is generally open to change his mind when given evidence.
He doesn’t talk to our dad either though. When he was 15 his mom had a falling out with our dad and my brother has only talked to him a half a dozen times since.
are you guys fine cutting your dad off
like no regrets regarding that
Nah, leaving at 16 was probably the best mental health thing I ever did, followed up by going no contact.
I was back where he lives on and off the last couple years and interacted with him briefly once, totality reconfirmed the decision, lol
have you got kids
are you a better father
did seeing him turn you to do better
No kids, Don’t ever plan on it, luckily found a girl who doesn’t want any. Did a lot of time raising my brother which kinda put me off the idea but I’ve never really desired it.
Definitely try to be a better person due to my relationship with him. Have found my self projecting some of his negative traits over the years but try to be really cognizant about it.
how does having no kids work?
are you put off by just the thought of it? what exactly about it is not desirable for you and your partner? just curious questions. i can notice that the phrasing of my questions sounds a bit direct lol