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AITAH for lying to my ex wife and telling her that our dog died to stop her from texting me?
Edit 4: OH MY LORDDDD, it’s deleted 💀
Dw, I’m confident in saying this post is fake and everyone can just downvote it. Watch it remove itself
Edit: it doubled in upvotes 😭 what are you doing, Reddit?
Edit 2: wow, it halved. Imagine if I say I lied o.O Dw I didn’t… but what if?!
Edit 3: eyyy we did it! Good team effort, hive mind!! 👍👍👍
no guys, it's true.
Source : I'm the dead dog
It’s a miracle!! The dog that never died got resurrected and got a Reddit account 😭
Teach us the making of life pls!
to revive the dead dog, we're going to need your credit card number, the three numbers on the back, the expiration month and year, but you have to hurry, before the dog's soul crosses the sacred gates and reaches doggo heaven!!1!
I'm pretty sure I already saw this episode of American Dad
Why are you confident it's fake? Repost?
New accounts with one post and no comments, it’s likely fake.
Oh because it’s been a trend recently where the posts asks if [bad action] is justified because it was done to [bad person]. That and OP isn’t interacting in the comments at all 🤷♀️
Edit: Oh and I find it hard to believe the wife wouldn’t say anything to being told the dog died. The dog that she specifically primarily took care of but was given to OP by… who know who cause OP didn’t specify.
Double the pride, twice the fall. Like count dooku said.
Found the cheater
Or turn the notifications off and read them later or not bother. Telling her the dog was dead was cruel. If she was the one who took care of the dog and loved it enough to to be wanting updates, why not just let her have it, and let her be gone from your life? YTA
If you tried asking her to stop texting you and she refused. If you blocked her and she still found a way to contact you. Then NTA.
If you went 0-1000 with that lie, then yikes.
So, telling her to leave you alone, quit texting, and then blocking her would not do the job? Really?
Just give her the damn dog if it bothers you that much!
Exactly… give her he dog and that’s it!!
ESH
You should have just said the texts are getting annoying and asked her to tone it down.
She sucks for cheating but a dog is like a family member and it's cruel to tell her the dog died.
She sucks for cheating but a dog is like a family member and it's cruel to tell her the dog died.
Don't stress. There's a lot of fake content at the moment that boils down to "I did this toxic and unreasonable thing to a woman, but she cheated/I thought she cheated/she supported a cheater so it's okay" and it's just embarassing.
I wonder, by percentage, how many of these specific types of stories are fake?
I'd feel safe going with 90%. Way higher for when classes are in session and people need to work on their storytelling writing.
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I am a real life person who has actually had multiple partners that cheated. I was admittedly stupid, because they had admitted to cheating on previous partners and I for some reason thought something would change because that's what you do for people you love, right? You change?
Well, one of my exes slept with two men in 24 hours after getting into some coke at a party she was at.
That same ex cheated with a coworker after I took her back, supported her for three months while she had no job when she got let go 6 or 7 months after the first incident, after I helped her get her badge to work in the cannabis industry.
Another one of my exes got drunk and got fingered by a guy at a party she was having at our apartment while I went to sleep early because I had to work early the next morning. I woke up to find them locked in the bathroom together. Took every ounce of self control not to put hands on anyone.
People are shitty. Just because YOU haven't witnessed it doesn't mean it isn't out here happening. Be thankful that none of this foul shit has happened to you. It is absolutely soul crushing and takes years to recover from mentally and emotionally.
Ehhhh, speaking as a 34F Canadian woman, the crazy shit does happen in real life occasionally, but waaaaay less than Reddit would have us believe. I have only met one IRL person I know of whose husband cheated with her sister (she told me that even 15 years later she’ll never trust her sister the same way). Most people don’t mess with the in-law families, at least. I’m surprised to see that pop up so much on Reddit.
My husband was cheated on (before we got together). And I can think of an idiot colleague who got busted for cheating because he posted an Instagram photo with two ramen bowls and a “warm” caption during a trip and his girlfriend (whose family he was living with!) figured it out from there. I know one guy who conceived a child on a vacation, cheating on a kinda-longterm girlfriend who’d nursed him through a really difficult health event … he’s no longer together with either woman but he IS active in his daughter’s life. Relationships are complicated.
Infidelity, interestingly, is something that’s really correlated to social circles. If we hang out with cheaters, we’re more likely to cheat, since it’s kinda sanctioned/permitted in that moral environment. Good on you for surrounding yourself with people who honour their promises. I’m pretty careful with my friendships now, lol. But colleagues can be wildcards.
Two of my coworkers were regularly knocking boots at work and the woman was engaged... and not to the dude. It was really gross and I always wished that I knew who her fiance was so that I could let him know. Her name has never changed in our system so I wonder if the wedding got called off, or if she just decided to keep her maiden name. But EVERYONE knew she was engaged and pretty much everyone knew they were screwing around, cause they weren't even remotely subtle.
You don't know my sister.
now i must question the veracity of your comment as well, and my entire life...
I wonder, by percentage, how many of these specific types of stories are fake?
I'd assume most, honestly.
It's really popular for karma farmers because they know it'll get engagement from the redpills and incels looking for an excuse to post misogynistic nonsense in the comments.
What exactly is karma farming good for? I just don't get the end game I guess.
Sometimes it's an attention thing, sometimes it's to push people with certain thought processes even further into that mindset, and sometimes it's for monetary gain. For that last one, people will make an account to gain lots of karma, delete all the posts and then sell the account. I'm not entirely sure what good an account with tons of karma is, just that it's something people are willing to buy.
An account with lots of karma is more likely to be permitted in subreddits with restrictive access to posting. Meaning if a company wanted to advertise somewhere specifically they could buy an account with lots of karma already and be able to post in really popular subs right away because the account’s karma factors into being able to post.
Example: on the main AITA sub, if a thread gets locked down / put into proctologist only mode, only accounts with a certain amount of karma can comment, in order to prevent hate spam, bots etc.
I think that’s how it works at least.
Ah, okay! Thanks for explaining. I've never known what karma actually does (like, I didn't know that posting can be restricted by how much karma an account has, lol), only time I've ever seen karma brought up is in situations like this where someone's suspected of karma farming, or someone having a lot of karma being used as an insult.
I have that same question. I understand people doing it for fun or writing practice, but it seems that most of these accounts exist only for the one story and any updates. Maybe the karma is just a metric for how successful you were at engaging people?
dopamine from people telling you “right on, your shitty ex deserves to suffer!”
Yeah, but if it's fake for karma farming then there really is no ex lol
Makes sense. A strong dislike for cheating definitely creates lots of engagement.
It’s literally the next comment I read. “She’s a cheater, she deserves a it”. Lol
I’ve always struggled with the narrative that some wrong-doings in a marriage completely exonerate the other person from everything they have done to contribute to the deterioration. And that some wrongdoings give the ex spouse full rights to mentally, emotionally and financially abuse the other.
Reddit is obsessed with (1) how shitty can I be to women who cheat and (2) specifically what circumstances can I hit a woman and get away with it?
Who cares if it's fake or not? As Dan Savage, the famous sex-advice columnist always says, "Every letter is a hypothetical situation to all but one person anyway." Or maybe to everyone. If this guy didn't do this, someone probably did. You're never going to meet this guy, so who cares?
on advice forums it’s often that the OP makes up a fake woman for people to get mad at and replies are people happy to have an excuse to express misogyny
Agreed. This is my impression as well.
I'm just happy that the dog is actually still alive & OK
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Coulda blocked her number and just sent her a pic of the dog whenever youd have potential downtime on a holiday.
She cheated on him the selfish bitch could of at least let the man find peace
Yta
You could of blocked her and moved on.
My ex wife admittedly took a lot of care of the dog.
Clearly the ex loved the dog more than you did and out of petty spite you kept the dog.
I hope she finds out
YTA. That's like telling her that her child died after consulting with the stepmom. Be an adult a tell her to leave you alone or give her the dog since she clearly loves it more. It's cruel and immature.
YTA: Many other ways to block texting. You went the very low path, no excuses.
Diagnosis: block button sorely underused
Uh honesty would have been better. I.e. "The dog is fine and unless you have an update from me otherwise, the dog is fine. I would like to move on with my life and my new relationship and the weekly check ins make me uncomfortable given we are both in new chapters of our lives. I do hope you understand. I will let you know if there is any noteworthy news on dogs well being. Thanks."
Yes kind of an asshole for that.
I'd just have told her that I'm not talking with cheaters and block her phone number.
INFO: Why did you keep the dog if your ex took care of it the most? Was the dog closer to you or your ex wife?
It would have been easier to tell her to stop texting/calling, then blocking her when she didn't
YTA
YTA and yikes.
as someone who was long-term cheated on, this is meaner than that.
Like yeah maybe my now ex husband slept with his assistant over years of but at least he didn’t take my dog in the divorce and then “kill it off”
YTA. You could have just blocked her but you obviously still harbor a lot of resentment so why not be cruel instead, right?
Yeah you're an asshole. A dog is a member of ones family. You easily could have asked her to reduce the texts to every other week or once a month and if that didn't work, block her number. But to lie and say the dog passed away is an asshole move
ESH
You’re a sick fuck if this is true.
You have sole ownership of the dog. Just block her. Problem solved.
Why did you want to keep the dog if she's the one who took care of it?
Why did you want to
Keep the dog if she's the one
Who took care of it?
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Sorry, OP. YTA in my book. My pups are treated like my kiddos. You said you got a dog because your wife unfortunately struggles with infertility. So you got a dog because you couldn't have kiddos... making the pup your "kiddo." You said she took care of the dog more than you, yet you got the dog in the divorce. I'd be devastated if my pups were taken from me, and then I couldn't ever see them or even hear updates about them again. That's like taking my child from me.
I have friends who divorce and share custody of the family dog because the dog is that important to them. You should've let her take the dog when you divorced or when you moved away. Or you could've offered to give her the pup when you and your gf decided you couldn't handle a weekly text from your ex-wife. I mean, thank God ya'll didn't have children and needed to co-parent.
wow, you immature pos. it's pretty obvious why she cheated now. YTA.
No kidding. I'm sure he's totally a victim! /s
YTA
My ex wife admittedly took a lot of care of the dog.
You could have just asked her to reduce the text.
Very cowardly move.
YTA
You clearly are 100 % the ass
You didn’t have to lie to her you could’ve just set a boundary to stop texting as your life had moved on. It’s a huge red flag that you lied… not an ass just a liar
So she took the most care of the dog but you got to keep it? And you’re mad she misses the dog? The dog that was the closest thing to a child for her? YTA. You should have just said something like “I’ll send you a pic every Friday” or given the dog back.
YTA she took care of that dog more than you did that is HER child and you tell her it's dead!? Dude what's wrong with you?
Yta
Taking a picture of your dog that big of a hassle?
Yes, OP, YTA. Instead of blocking her number, you chose to hurt her in one of the worst possible ways. At least you and your new gf are happy now.
I'm pretty sure cheating on someone is one of the worst ways possible to hurt somone...just saying
NTA.
Though you should have just blocked her after everything divorce-related was settled.
YTA
Wow…that’s effing mean. I hope this is fake
YTA. What an asshole move. You don't fuck with peoples dogs. Imagine it being the other way around.
Hard to have sympathy for a cheater. He should have just blocked her but meh
I mean, many people treat their dogs as if they were their children, they certainly form a strong emotional attachment. It sucks that animals are legally property and must "belong" to one side after a divorce.
I don't disagree
I agree. It would be better to just completely ignore the womans existence.
I find status updates about an animal you co-owned a reasonable thing to do if you ended your marriage for any other reason but abuse etc.
Fuck. Now I feel sad because I imagine what I would feel like if my ex girlfriend would tell me that our cat died. She's an old lady now and it could happen any day, really.
You are 100% the AH. TIMES 10,000.
Pets are family. To tell someone their beloved friend died, before it's natural time, when they couldn't even say goodbye is vicious and unconscionable cruelty. Truly sociopathic behavior. You were only pissed that she cared about THE DOG and wasn't trying to get you back, you thousand foot high gaping anus.
Your lack of humanity and any moral compass other than "what's easy for you is objectively good" is disgusting. I hope she finds out about your lie... and that you pass on before she does so that she can do her own "walkies" on your grave.
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Hahahahaha this 100%
She knew the risk when she started getting sidedick. She trash and deserves it.
YTA. New GF should take a hint at what life will be like with you.
YTA- telling her and letting her believe the dog died is fucked up. You’re better than that. Grow up and start enforcing boundaries if her texting is too much for you.
What you did was so cruel. You should be ashamed of yourself.
YTA - what she did to you sucks. And, the constant requests for updates understandably got to be too much. Still, doesn’t justify what you did. You could block her and then unblock her long enough to text her some pictures of the dog once a month.
ESH
Her for cheating, and OP for his lie. I love my dog. He’s like a furry child to me since I have not made any little humans. I’d be devastated if something happened to him.
OP does not mention asking her to reduce and/or texting him. Failing that, he could have just blocked her number.
Why lie when you could have gone no contact with her and blocked her number?
Why not take a picture of the dog in front of a mirror where you are clearly doing your new GF doggy style visable in the mirror? Send that to your cheating ex.
ESH you should’ve just manned up and told her it’s none of her business anymore and blocked her on social media/your phone.
Nta she cheated you have no need to be nice to her.
And if he got custody of their kid and had done the same, what would you say then? Pets are family. What he did was cruel. So now she's a cheater and now he's a liar and a sadist. ESH if ever there was one.
A child and a pet are completely different. I have a dog and kids. I love my dog, but my dog will never be on the same level as my kid. Also, he got sole custody of the dog. If she was so worried about the dog, she should have fought harder for said dog.
That dog was the ex wife’s kid. She couldn’t have kids due to infertility. I feel bad for your dog. Dogs are family not pets. That’s why it’s called adopting a dog now. They are mentally a 2-3 year old and are loyal to you no matter how you treat them. Your dog is your child. Blood doesn’t matter. Be better.
I wonder if she paid child support for it
He got sole custody of the dog. If the dog meant so much for her, she would have made sure to see the dog or got custody of the dog. Better yet maybe she wouldn't of cheated and broke up their house and her kid would still be there.
Sounds like she did. And lost. They don't have a child for a frame of comparison. The dog was it. There are a thousand things he could have done that weren't to tell her a cruel and calculated lie. He's an asshole.
Well, I have to just disagree. Was it mean what he did sure maybe a little. What's cruel was to cheat on your partner when you could of just separated/ divorced
I literally can’t even believe you people who think cheating is the absolute worst thing a person could ever do. Telling her that something she cared about is gone forever just because he was sick of it is not “a little mean.” 5 years later, I still miss my dead cat. I think about her all the time. You know who I don’t think about? My ex who cheated on me. Faking a whole ass death is not even remotely on the same level as having an affair. Both are horrible, but they’re not comparable.
And there's a thousand ways she could have gone about her relationship and yet she did a cruel and calculated thing. She's the asshole.
One thing this sub has to remember is just because you do something bad back doesn't make you an asshole. He's a victim being harassed by his abuser. Stop white knighting a person who betrayed the one person she swore not to.
One thing society has to remember is just because someone did something to you doesn’t mean you’re free to do whatever you want back :)
You are actually free to lie to almost anybody you want for your own benefit we have a whole political system based on it.
So I guess Society is a great moral judge.
You’re also free to sleep with almost anybody you want if we’re going on that logic
Being an arsehole is always a choice available to you, yes.
One thing this sub has to remember is just because you do something bad back doesn't make you an asshole.
You are so fucking wrong. Like we teach toddlers that two wrongs don't make a right yet that lesson completely missed you.
Yeah we also tell toddlers that santas real and a big bunny places eggs around the house, but that doesn't make either of those things true.
You think 'two wrongs don't make a right' is on a level with the effing Easter Bunny?
The difference being that we want to make the world magical for kids, where as you just want an excuse to be an asshole to someone.
Dog custody isn’t court mandated in any country as far as I’m aware. Blocking the ex may have led to them showing up to find out how the dog is. Cheating makes maintaining any kind of contact much worse. While it is necessary for children and I hate the idea of a dog losing one of their humans, this may have been the only way OP could see to end things.
Dogs are considered property in the eye of the court.
My point was property doesn’t get a custody order the way children do because of the expectation being that both parents need to be involved in their children’s lives to whatever extent the court deems appropriate. The court hopefully gave ownership of the dog to the owner that they believed would provide a better home.
Setting up a Facebook page for the dog and posting regular pictures as long as she doesn't contact him? Telling her he will file for a restraining order if she doesn't cool it? Getting a restraining order? Buying her a damn puppy? Any or all of these could have got her to leave him alone without being a sadistic, lying arsewipe.
YTA. She loves that dog too. And that's her child. You both may have divorced but she didn't divorce the dog. As ridiculous as that sound bec it's not a human baby, the feelings for the dog is the same. So imagine the feeling if she told you your child died.
Of course YTA. Would you have said your kid died to get her off your back? You both cared about the dog and cared for the dog, her infidelity did not change that. You’re an asshole and a little bitch.
YTA. What she did was wrong but you could’ve used your words and just expressed the constant contact was an issue for you and blocked her number. Just sent updates and photos through emails at your discretion. More than likely, because of the infertility, that dog held an extremely important place in her heart. Considering you said it was really her dog that she took care of, it sounds like you took the dog out of spite and then told her died just to drive the knife in.
Yta. She's genuinely care about the dog and you lied
YTA.
YTA for refusing to be an adult. Just tell her that you don’t want to stay in contact and that you’re done giving her updates on the dog.
You are the asshole for getting ownership of the dog and for telling your ex wife the dog she took care for has died even though it hasn’t. You obviously don’t care or deserve the dog and are only keeping the dog out of spite for your ex wife cheating on you. Dogs are family and was her child since she couldn’t have any of her own because of infertility. Give your ex wife the dog and you’ll never have to hear from her again since that’s what you care more about than the dog’s health and wellbeing.
yes, you are the asshole. You could just create a shared album or something for her to see photos of the dog.
YTA
YTA. A lying one at that.
YTA.
Why didn't you just tell her you're not comfortable talking to her anymore? That was somehow harder than lying about her dog's untimely demise? You could have just texted her that you’re done and block her. Now she’s probably going to beat herself up believing she let you have the dog and you let it die. Unless the dog was already old it’s going to be a shock to believe it died.
YTA
Yes. Big AH
YTA. Big time
ooof… yta. there is zero excuse for her unfaithfulness, and you’re not wrong to feel annoyed about her trying to contact you. but you originally got the dog together, and you admitted she took care of him a good amount of the time. she’s attached enough that she’s texting to check in on him, and what you did is not cool. getting custody of the dog doesn’t make that ok fr. she’s literally going to grieve her pet now, thinking he is dead. like that’s not an acceptable thing to put someone through, and her cheating isnt a justification for you doing something seriously cruel, the same way nothing justifies her cheating. you should really tell her the truth.
you can downvote and ignore the people telling the truth all you want, but being butthurt over cheating isnt an excuse to fake someone’s pet’s death. period. everyone indulging you is just hurt that they got cheated on and using it as justification for hateful ass behavior.
Info: if you knew she had a deeper connection to the dog, and took care of the dog more than you, why did you not let her keep the dog? Out of spite? If so, Y T A. You already "got her back" by keeping the dog. Twisting the knife isn't necessary. If she simply wanted you to have the dog, N T A.
You are the A$$hole
Yes
YTA because why would you even lie about that? You’re basically jinxing the dog’s life and manifesting its death. There are certain things people shouldn’t lie about. You should’ve just gave her the dog and went about your way
ESH.
Make the dog an Instagram account and post a weekly picture or two. Make the profile public but disable comments.
Then tell the ex to stop messaging you, she can see the dog via Instagram - without any contact between you.
You're the AH. You were fine getting the texts till you got a gf. Until YOU fully moved on, and if your current gf condoned this, I'd be wary of her as well. You put your ex in a state of mourning over something that is honestly life altering... And a lie.
She got her just karma for infidelity by losing the marriage, and her dog everyday. The death of a pet, especially one that was specifically gotten for a woman who has fertility issues can be devastating. Doing that to another human being - causing that kind of heartache and emptiness and pain that will NEVER fully go away or heal because you were "annoyed" by texts?? That kind of mentality and the fact that you could so easily do that to someone else might be part of the real reason of why you're not married anymore.
YTA
Just as well you didn't have kids
YTA
This is cruel and you need therapy.
Yes. What was the reasoning behind this decision? Do you know how easy it is to cut contact with people who aren't in your vicinity? Why lie?
ESH- She claimant have cheated on you but you admit that she took care of the dog and instead of being honest or blocking her you decided to lie and say the dog died.
Yes YTA
Once a week check in annoyed you? Or was it you being vindictive?
Granted, what she did sucked. But what you did sucked as well. Lying to her and causing her emotional harm over the loss of a dog she didn't get to say goodbye to, can hurt emotionally for a while.
ESH
ESH.
You should have just blocked her.
Not sure on a verdict, so let's work this out together.
You mention she took care of the dog a lot and was close with the dog. This would explain why she messaged you so often about the dog. This animal was a sort of child to her (this is how it is for pet owners and I'm not gonna argue otherwise) and now you have sole ownership? Ofc she is going to worry about the dog and ask after it often.
Now this is where it gets messy, and without further info its hard to draw conclusions. You don't mention anything regarding steps taken between initially being irritated by the texts and lying about the death. If you took other less serious actions first, such as voicing that she was annoying you, asking her to message less, maybe working with her to set a schedule that she feels gives her peace of mind regarding the dog without annoying you, and those actions did not result in improvements, then maybe I could understand the lie as a last-ditch, no other options solution. In this case, NTA or possibly ESH cuz it still sucks that she thinks the dog is dead.
However, if you were annoyed at your ex for being interested in the wellbeing of an animal she cares about and helped raise, and without any other actions taken resorted to lying to her and telling her the animal was dead, then YTA. If I spent years caring for an animal, lost contact due to relationship issues, and then learned out of the blue that the animal died and I was not there in its final moments, that would destroy me.
That dog had a name and a personality and she loved that dog. You told her it DIED. Jeeeeeeepers. YTA, like a lot too.
NTA she cheated on you for a year and didn't give a fuxk about how you felt. Screw her and her feelings towards the dog. take pictures of your new girlfriend and the dog. Her holding him and cuddling him and post them on your instagram so she can find out and block her number completely. Post the pictures and make a reel after about 6 months to were her mind feels she somewhat healed and then she gets shocked by the pics and reel of your new gf bonding with her dog and the dog wagging its tail next to her all happy.
Yes YTA
ESH mostly you.
Cheaters suck but lying in the manner you did was extreme. Instead of communicating like an adult, you lied about an innocent dog.
when she finds out that the dog is still alive and kicking... she will lose it. lies never end up well.
How will she find out? He lives in another state and doesn’t initiate contact with her.
normally by a coincidence, a social media post or something... it's not worth to lie. Just ask polite to "be contacted less" or not to be contacted
She lied and cheated for a full year, she deserves the hurt.
so the OP should be now in the business of "payback"?.....
ESH.
She is the AH for cheating, but you’re a massive AH for telling her that. That is absolutely despicable of you and you clearly just wanted to hurt her.
Just block her, good lord.
NTA cheaters deserve nothing. Hope she's crying right now
Yes you are
Was his name Old Yeller?
You are amazing AH
Yta. Terrible. Terrible. Terrible.
Nta
Kinda the AH but not really, you have the dog. She lost custody of the dog. There’s really no reason to text you weekly to get updated about the dog. But you could have handled it differently than you did. You could have simply only replied to one text every other month or made some other arrangement. But to tell her the dog had died is cruel
You honestly owe her nothing... BUT being a decent human being is always commendable. You could have just asked her to stop texting or block her.
A text would’ve sufficed, my dog is my bonus child. I’d be distraught
Maybe she cheated on this guy because he was an inconsiderate, insensitive, selfish a**hole when his ex couldn’t have children? He’s been an inconsiderate, insensitive, selfish a**hole by lying to her about her beloved dog dying. She can’t have children when she clearly wanted them, the universe has punished her enough.
There are two AHs here.
You should’ve just told her the truth to stop texting all the time. You’re chickenshit.
YTA. You couldn’t figure out how to communicate like an adult and just tell her to stop texting you, so you lied about the dog being dead. You’re like a cruel 12 year old. Grow up. You’re not a little boy anymore.
So you stole a woman's dog out of spite and then lied to her about it dying. Yeah, YTA if this were real.
YTA
You could have just been a grownup and told her you didn’t want to communicate anymore. Grow up.
NTA I’m going against the grain here. You got the dog. You didn’t have to ever send her anything. She was clingy. Would have been better to just not respond the first time but oh well.
NTA but I have to ask, wasn't it easier to block her? I mean she IS your ex after all.
That's a jinx !
You need to block her. She is experiencing remorse over blowing up the marriage and hanging onto threads.
Block her and go no contact.
YTA for that. You should have just blocked her. You have no reason to keep in contact with her. Make sure you block her on your social media too.
YTA that’s a terrible thing to lie about. You Could’ve just told her to stop texting you because you’ve moved on … I dunno, like a normal adult conversation.
NTA, She can get a new dog with her AP. If he stuck around, that is.
They rarely do, and it's already been a couple years.
ESH, almost YTA. "I know you love and care for dog, but I can't do the weekly updates anymore. I'm willing to send maybe a monthly update with a few pictures. That's it."
Or maybe he doesn't want a weekly reminder of "Oh hey, it's me, the wife that cheated on you for a year straight and broke your heart. Would you mind forgetting about all that infidelity for a moment and let me know how the dog is doing?"
Gotta do what you gotta do sometimes 🤷🏾♀️
ESH. You should have taken pictures of the dog with your girlfriend. Then your ex would have stopped asking for them.
Soft YTA. I get she cheated. But…that’s on her. She probably didn’t do that to hurt you. You are doing this to hurt her.
Dumb ass take. And you assumed too much.
Not how I would have done it but can’t lie, I think it’s funny
Yes but for good reason, you don't need to be nice to an cheating ex ;)
What a ah
Esh
INFO: why did you take the dog to begin with if she’s the one who took care of it?
Did you ever let her know that she was texting too much and asking too much of you? Or did you just resort to the very drastic and awful action of lying to her that something she loved died? Without answers to these questions I’m going to go with YTA.
YTA
Look, it sucks your marriage ended, but you kind of signed up to interact with her when you took the dog she raised. If you'd had kids together you'd have be forced to interact with her much more than this.
At the absolute bare minimum you should have just explained you don't want to update anymore, or made an IG for the dog or something.
Yes, YTA.
You could have said "I have sole custody of the dog, according the the agreement I am not obligated to send you regular photos and updates. Please move on and do not contact me anymore."
Then block her.
Lying was unnecessary, and cruel due to the nature of the lie. YTA for solving with cruelty what you should have solved with a little backbone.
NTA
Get ready for some dog lover hate coming your way. It's just a dog. Somehow you got it and she didn't, so she could be cool and leave you alone and move on. She obviously managed to move on in bed...
But yeah, you could have just been honest and tell her to fuck off and you won't be sending her any dogs picks. It's ridiculous she even tries to stay in vcontact for just that...especially weekly.
Why not just block her? You have no kids, the divorce is final. What reason is there to be in contact?