Terrified about my new job! Changing adult diapers. Advice?
I recently got a new job after being out of the workforce for about 2 years. I’ve been battling severe depression and anxiety and borderline agoraphobia. I’ve been doing therapy, self care, going to the gym, and other things to improve my well being. I can’t say I’m completely healed but I’m in a much better place now. I’ve been blessed enough to have a partner who can financially support us. But recently his income changed drastically and we are living paycheck to paycheck. I’m tired of feeling sorry for myself and I can’t stand feeling like a burden to my partner. So a few panic attacks later, I’ve built up the courage to fight my own demons and apply for a job using my unused degree. Luckily, I was able to find one quickly and I’m already employed 3 days after applying. My start date isn’t until a couple weeks from now since I have to do drug tests, live scan, physicals, etc.
My new job is to work at a day care for adults with disabilities ranging from autism to epilepsy. I never thought I’d be able to get out of this funk and get a job. So I’m proud of myself for going to the interview and acing it, let alone even applying for the job. Things that would give me panic attacks just thinking about it.
I was feeling great about everything up until I found out I will have to change and wipe some adult diapers every now and then. It won’t be a daily task but it will be required of me. Most of the adults can do it themselves but there are a few severe cases. For some context, I have a super weak stomach. I gag at bad smells which leads me to vomit. In fact, I actually did vomit at just the thought of cleaning an adults bottom. But I don’t want to make excuses anymore. I don’t want to let my fears ruin opportunities for me. How can I over come this? Any tips on how to toughen my stomach up? Is this something that I could improve? Or is it something that will always trigger my gag reflex? I just want to know if it’ll get better. This job is the perfect schedule with decent pay and it’s a 5 minute drive. Not only that, I see how happy and relieved my partner is that I will be able to help out now. I don’t want to let him or myself down :(
In short, is it possible to strengthen a weak stomach? Does changing adult diapers become easier?
EDIT: Thanks for the tips! Although I am still nervous, you all have made me feel encouraged knowing it gets better. This is a small portion of the job so I should be ok. I will definitely use vaporub & a mask/gloves. I know to use “brief” instead of “diapers” now. I will think of my client as if it were me or a family member. And I will treat them with dignity. Thank you again for sharing your experiences and being so kind to me. ❤️
I asked my husband, and he’s worked with adults with disabilities. This is what he said:
You’re helping someone who can’t help themselves and are potentially open to being victimized. You can bring comfort and dignity to them by being a caring person. The main thing is, they don’t want this to happen any more than you do. You know how you would like to be cared for, gently and with dignity. Before it happens, you think about it from your perspective and it being about you. Once you do it, it’ll be all about them and their needs. If you can’t take the focus off you, it’s probably not the best job. This is a really important job and society doesn’t pay enough for this kind of care. One stroke or head injury and it could be any of us.