Continuously Improve Yourself!

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Ask Arnold for AdviceTips and Tricks

I’ve been all over the world to talk about my book, but I hadn’t been to reddit yet and I had to find a way to chat with all of you. And I’ve done so many AMAs that it seemed boring to me. Hell, I’ve even had redditors to ask me to yell out their favorite movie lines.

I told my team, “What if instead of asking me questions, redditors ask me for advice?” The whole reason Be Useful came to be is that I accidentally stumbled into being a self-help guy. I am all about vision - and my vision was being the greatest bodybuilder of all time, getting into movies, and becoming rich and famous. But I never envisioned that my life would become about helping other people. The more I gave commencement speeches and grew my daily newsletter, Arnold’s Pump Club, the more I realized there was a need for a positive voice out there in all this negativity. People were asking me for advice every day, and I realized I loved helping them more than I love walking down red carpets. So I finally gave in to my agent and wrote my tools for life down in Be Useful.

And now I’m here, to give you guys any advice you want or need. I asked around and I was told this community would be the perfect place. Let’s see how this goes. Give me whatever questions you want me to answer. Ask me for advice. Let’s see how I can do. Trust me, I have been on reddit for a decade, I am not a forehead. My advice will never be “Buy the book.”

Let’s go. You guys start and I’ll give you an hour to get some questions going and start trying my best to give you my take on whatever situation you’re in.

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SUCCESS SUNDAYS (September)

  1. What are you working on?
  2. What did you accomplish this week?
  3. What didn't work?
  4. What can you improve?
  5. What are your goals for next week?

Update each Sunday to keep track of your own weekly progress. Comment and help others if you can.

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Honestly? That feeling where you're not suicidal but you also don't want to exist. So you often just spend time thoughtlessly and blankly staring at the wall, waiting, for nothing

What did you not appreciate until you had it?Question
What did you not appreciate until you had it?
What has a 100% chance of happening in the next 50 years?nsfwSpoilerQuestion

What has a 100% chance of happening in the next 50 years?

Songs that make you feel good/better/motivated? Tips and Tricks

I have 3 that have been getting me together lately:

  1. SZA - Good Days
  2. Vince Staples - Magic
  3. Vince Staples - Lil Homie. (The hook is literally, “life hard, but I go harder. Life hard, but I go harder.” 😤😤 it gets me soo hype)

Anyway, drop yours below? Any genre. Couldn’t hurt to add more to my list.

What would you do if your wife wanted a boob job?Question

I'm a pretty competent DIYer but I would definitely outsource this request.

I need help, I'm the black sheep of my family and I can't cope anymoreVent

I can't cope any longer. I wish I was happy. I wish my family loved me. I wish I could keep friends. I wish I didn't think everyone would just be better off if I wasn't here. I'm in so much debt I can't breathe. I really want to be okay and get through this I'm so self aware and I know I'm the only person who can fix this. No one else but me

I guess I'm posting this for some help seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Maybe my family so love me but they just don't like me. I love them unconditionally but them, not so much. I've never really fit in anywhere, family included, but since my spiritual awakening in 2020 I feel more isolated than ever.

I am so lonely. I'm 24 and I have no idea what I'm doing with my life. Just desperately trying to stay alive. I don't want to hurt anyone by my leaving but they're hurting me so badly whilst I'm here. I'm also hurting myself.

I can see this doesn't make much sense, however, it felt good to get my thoughts out somewhere.

If you read this, thank you 💖 sending you love ✨✨ x

Tips to help a porn addictnsfwTips and Tricks

Title is self explanatory. Took me a very long time to come to terms with the fact I’m addicted, after seeing it influence me in every single way possible.

My grades have slipped up at a very bad time, I’m doing my A-Levels and I only have 2 years to cover an insane amount of content, so the fact that I started prioritising porn over studying hit hard.

I’ve had less motivation to work out, which has come at bad timing considering I’ve got a part time job now which limits me to going to my college gym once a week (and right now I’m not really able to get a public gym membership).

Just generally in life too I’m always a lot more down, things I used to really enjoy (developing games/websites) don’t hit the same as they used to, I feel like a shell of a person eith no real hobbies and no real push to achieve anything in life.

I lack self confidence too, but thats probably to be expected considering that for the last 2 years I have been through more videos than some people get through in a lifetime, and I definitely elty do not feel like speaking to anyone close to me because this is something I view as a taboo topic. There is absolutely no way I could tell my friends or family that this is what is going on behind the scenes.

To put it simply. If anyone who can remotely relate to this has any tips on what I can do to put this need for stimulation to bed? This has been something that’s been on my mind for weeks and I’ve decided rather than pushing the date to face it further and further away I might as well undergo changes to actually try and improve myself so when I socialise or go about my normal business I do not feel like a total douchebag.

Thanks for rea

Self-improvement has decimated my dating and social life. How are you guys meeting people?Question

Previous to my sobriety I was a regular at all of the local bars. I'd make friends easily, and girls would constantly hit on me. It was easy to talk myself into "getting out of the house" instead of watching porn or sitting around with friends like I did for most of my 20s. I had a great social life but ultimately my life cascaded into an unsustainable abyss with the constant rotation of drugs, alcohol, and bad influences.

Now it's 10-11 months later of sobriety. Been meditating daily, back in the gym, better job, and clean off of everything except weed a few days a week. Thing is, I never run into any cute girls or meet people in my day to day life. I just go to work, go to the gym, go grocery shopping, then come home and watch TV or read sometimes.

I'm starting to have FOMO, ultimately I've learned from my mistakes but I still feel it. How are you guys maintaining a social life around everything that comes with self-improvement?

the self improvement routine im starting this Monday!Other

Wake up at 6:00 6:05-7:00 - Cold Shower & Breakfast 7:00-8:00 - Read 9:00-10:00 - Gym 10:00-12:00 - Eat/Chill/Help & Shower 12:00-1:00 - Study Session 1 1:00-6:00 - FREE TIME! 6:00-8:00 - Study Session 2 8:00-9:00 - Help & Eat 9:00-10:00 - Sleep!

(“Help” means like helping my parents or siblings, for example cleaning the house, my room or taking care of them.

This Monday I’ll be doing this every day for the rest of my summer! (Or at least try, of course it won’t be perfect every single day and things can happen) I’ll update you guys how it goes every week or so. It’s a big and sudden change in my life but I think it’s for the best and I’ll be able to do it.

Any thoughts or questions? If you all out there are trying to improve yourselves I hope you succeed.