Am I unreasonable for getting annoyed that my boyfriend drips onto the bathmat when he pees?

Let's be clear, you are asking if you're being unreasonable for expecting your boyfriend not to piss on the floor?

Why do men like this keep getting girlfriends.

Remove the bathmat from that area when not used for showers etc.

AND make him clean the bathroom. It is now his to clean.

I had 3 kids. 3 chores.
They rotated through the chores each week.
Two were bathrooms and one was stairs.

When I notice that the boys were peeing all over the bathroom, I let them know their sister would not have to clean a bathroom until there was no pee on the floor. The 3rd week when she didn't have to take her turn, they changed pretty damned quick.

this is a whole entire adult man, and he isn't potty-trained, he's peeing on the floor. how on earth does someone live 27 whole years on this planet and not learn to not pee on the floor.

Yuk, if he drips then he needs to wash the bath mat and put down a replacement. How is that hard?

The internet is teaching me so many things about men I didn’t want to know.

Tell your boyfriend that since he’s not properly toilet trained, he needs to move the bath mat and put down newspaper on the floor before he pees, just like you would for a puppy. He’s choosing not to address the issue because he finds it less of a bother to pee on your rug than to not pee on your rug, and you are 100% in the right to find that repulsive.

Have you ever considered dating a man who was not raised by wolves? I can recommend it.

I gave my husband a choice. Sit down to pee, or become the official, permanent bathroom cleaner.

Guy here.

Give him two choices: either he get a towel and mop and clean up every time he pees, or sit the fuck down

Third choice is he's fired

Tell him to wipe himself after he pees so there is no risk of dripping anywhere! Lots of men do it! I’m convinced all should….

I'm a man and we always drip, it's impossible to avoid BUT that's why you grab a piece of toilet paper and clean the tip of your penis after you're done pissing. It's very simple and easy to do.

It's bad enough that he does it, but that his response to being asked not to piss on the floor is to be annoyed that you expect him to... well, to stop pissing on the floor, is just... astounding. It's disgusting and inconsiderate and yet he treats it like you're the frustrating one for expecting him not to piss on the floor. Incredible.

Da fuck, ask the dude to use a piece of paper or pull up the rim or some shit

Dude is 27, he should be able to handle his firehose at this point

Yikes, my dogs are better house trained than it sounds like this guy is!

Step closer to the loo, your little friend is smaller than you think.

Joking aside, why can't he just sit down on the loo all the time? It's not like a man cannot pee while sitting down. I mean, I'm pretty sure he can pee when taking a shit (which, hopefully, he does not do on the floor while standing upright). Why is it so hard for him to do the adult thing and sit the frick down so he doesn't pee on the floor? It's not even like someone is watching him sitting down. Hopefully.

Ohh this is disgusting! I’d be so upset!

jfc if he's that bad at aiming and cleaning up after himself he might as well just damn sit down. wtf

I started peeing sitting at home right around the time I had to, like, clean my own barthroom in my own house and stuff.

But what am I saying, if he's unbothered by having his mat soaking in piss when he steps clean out of the shower, perhaps there's just no solution here.

I personally do my best to be patient and give things a few extra shakes to wring out the last drops and put everything in the bowl as it should be done. I've hopefully impressed this onto my son as well.

Unfortunately, I've also been in way too many public men's rooms and seen the mess on the floors beneath urinals and know that its not a standard many men care to reach for.

I'm a dad and it's one of my all time pet hates, my sons have actually caused a bleach mark on my blue mat at the toilet, In work the guys use my workshop toilet and one or two of them must stand 5ft away an piss everywhere bar the dam bowl, I will find out who it is and he will get a boot in the bollox !!!

But I also have a daughter who will leave the under side of the seat wet at times, so 🤷 who's worse, all as bad as each other

Mine isnt that he misses, he's just so tall that it splashes out(?!) and sprinkles on the floor. So I have a halo of toilet water urine radiating from the bowl out. I've seen it. I couldn't believe it. Like a f***ing horse.

If he drips he should sit down. No one wants a pissy floor

1. Your boyfriend is gross

2. Having a bath mat at the base of your toilet is gross.

This could be an embarrassing issue to deal with and that’s why he may be getting defensive. It is absolutely reasonable to not want to step in pee whenever you use the bathroom. It’s being considerate of others least of all your partner. Maybe talk to him about getting a mat he can put down before he pees? If he seems unwilling to compromise then you gotta understand this is one of those relationship issues that is more about the bigger picture than the actual issue.

If he pisses outside of the toilet he either cleans it up immediately or he sits to pee. End of story. He does not get to be a gross piss baby because he can’t aim for shit.

imagine getting annoyed because your girlfriend is asking not to piss on the floor…

Dude here. What he says is true. Sometimes I piss and something unpredictable happens.

Which is why you gotta prepare for that. You don’t have to stand BEHIND the bowl to piss. I don’t care how big you think you are, you can get closer and aim into the bowl. If you’re over the bowl, you will drip INTO THE FUCKING BOWL.

Listen fellas, I’m tired of going to my guy friends’ homes and needing to pee and stepping in a piss puddle. I don’t want to have to put shoes on going into your private bathroom that only you use and for me to feel like the park bathroom is cleaner. For fucks sake, you know what happens so that means you can fix it. Stand closer. Be better.

He should sit if he can’t manage to aim right or not clean the mat. But then he should go to the doctors. Excessive dribbling can be signs of cancer. That’s how my Dad’s started.

Ask him to keep a piece of toilet paper handy, and to wipe the end when he is finishing off.

Why is the bathmat so close to the toilet? Move the bathmat or buy a smaller one. Then he can clean up the floor the same way he cleans up the rim.

How has he not learned to pee at his age? He just needs to dial back on the force/amount being released at the start to see where it’s going.

He would rather die than sit down. And that's ok

Is the bathmat located under, next to the toilet or is he peeing and then turning around and that's when it drips? If it's the latter, ask him to please pee and then use toilet paper to dry the excess pee from his penis before turning around.

Yes, because it will start to stink. Everything else will be clean, but your bathroom will still smell. I've been there, and my husband and I now have separate baths.

Has he not learned the shake?

Also a mat in front of the toilet is just asking for trouble. Sometimes it just goes in a direction other than where we’re aiming.

If my cat can use a litter box without missing, your boyfriend should be able to use a toilet.

Also, back in the day, my mom once accused my cat of peeing all over the place so I got one of those black light flashlights and turned off all the lights and made her follow me around the entire house searching for piss. The only place we found piss? Around my little brother’s toilet. Not even a drop on the rim of my cat’s litter box.

I mean, I never enjoyed going into the kindergarten bathrooms either

No. Tell him to aim to please.

not unreasonable at all. that man is a menace

Remind hi it’s a bathmat not peemat

Sex/masturbation is most likely causing the "blockage". And he should know that at this point. 

So you are not being unreasonable. When I take a leak post orgasm I usually sit down because I have had some pretty epic urination splitting in the past and I don't really care to constantly mop the floor or wash rugs. 

You just learned the reason why some bunkies/cellmates in some federal prisons require inmates to sit down to piss. It's an occasional rule made by inmates when they are housed together in a cell. So there can be no splashing mistakes...reading your post seems just funny to me. I'm sorry. I'm a dude who lives alone, yes, I sometimes do the same thing as your bf. Good luck

Ever watch the Soprano's episode when Paulie talks about shoe laces being unhygienic. Dudes pissing at a urinal and splashing their shoelaces and touching shoelaces with hands? Removing shoes, etc

Do you have a guest bathroom? If yes, I would ban him there and he can clean that bathroom by himself 😅😉

Brother, ewww. Definitely an ick for me. 🤢🤢

My brother has Usher Syndrome which means he has very bad eye sight and balance issues. My whole life living with him he has never dripped any piss on the floor. Ever.

My cousin and uncle who are perfectly healthy kept leaving drops on the floor when they lived with us for a bit.

Take from this what you will.

Yeah you are. If I get 99% of my pee in the toilet, that's still 1% on the bath mat. And although gross, isn't a condemnation of character or cleanliness. 

Peeing with erection,  peeing when it's dark,  peeing when half asleep, peeing 1st thing In morning,  peeing when in a rush...just a few examples of things that could lower accuracy. 

The solution is make him pee sitting down. But is that a battle worth fighting amd winning? 

I have unpredictable streams, so I just sit down to pee most of the time. I don't see why this isn't a solution for him.

Nope. It's a reasonable request. However, I think women should be told the truth. We have no idea which way it's going to come out. You would think it would be point and fire, but no. That first visit to the gents in the morning can be dicey. But what he can do is sit down. Medically it's better for you as a man anyway and cuts out the whole peeing sideways problem.

Here where I live (Switzerland), boys are taught since early infancy to pee in sitting position and to wipe their penis before standing up. It doesn't prevent the urine to spill out of the toilet bowl from time to time but it hugely improves the cleanness of the bathroom.

It will take you some effort to convince him, but once he agrees to pee in sitting position, things will certainly improve.

I think maybe you should just leave him and marry me. I'm very particular and anal as well and I often sit down when I piss so it doesn't make a mess. I know a bunch of macho men are about to hop on and criticize me for it but idc. Truth be told they are doing the same thing when they piss. Sometimes it gets on the toilet seat and it'll sit up on the underside and stink. Some of those misses splash on the bathmat. Some hit the floor. That split stream thing happens to all of us. Say what you want but it's alot more sanitary to just sit down and piss.

If his pee pipe was blocked then he wouldn't be able to pee or cum without great pain and difficulty, so that excuse is absolute bullshit. How exactly would cum block up his pee pipe?? It makes NO SENSE!! If he keeps insisting that's the issue then force him to go to the doctors and get it sorted. Then, send him back to school to learn how his bits work. They'll soon let him know he's just a lazy POS who doesn't respect his gf enough to try and aim. Honestly, lady, WTF. Get some self-respect and dump this loser, or at the VERY least don't let him come around anymore. This would be a conversation I'd be having once with someone, and then I'd be done. I don't need someone pissing all over my house, I've got enough to do. He's in his 20s. He's not a 3yo learning to use the toilet. I grew up in a house with four brothers and a step dad. You know who got pee on the floor?? Nobody. Because it's NASTY, and they respected us girls too much to let us step in pee

I think this is most men. They are gross

That is why my bathmat is rolled and placed into a corner of bathroom-I put it on the floor before I go into bathtub.

And yes, guys have trouble with morning urinating. But they should clean their mess( wich my son never does).

I’m 37, and I pee (at home) sitting down. A significant number of my friends do the same. It really wasn’t even much of a debate. My wife cleans the bathrooms, so I wasn’t going to argue. You get used to it pretty quickly.

My dog knows not to piss on the bathmat.

Why isn't he ashamed enough to throw the bathmat into the laundry machine at least?

If he can’t pee straight then he needs to sit down. Ffs

If you watch him pee. You will see how it drips back. Just saying 😌

My ex went pee in the tub after I complained too much

When I was a kid I learned to pee sitting down because my dad did. When I got to school I got made fun of A LOT for it and that didn’t really stop until college even though I started predominantly standing very early on.

Now you get out of college and settle down with a woman and all of a sudden you need to revert back. Even if your aim is perfect there is always residual splash and it is impossible to stand and not get pee out of the toilet.

The answer is sitting to piss but y’all are all fooling yourselves if you think men are just being blatantly inconsiderate by standing. This is a constant back and forth societal problem that many men struggle to strike a balance with.

Hell to this day if my fiancé mentions I sit to pee around any members of my family it sparks an entire conversation centered around how I choose to fucking piss. It’s so annoying, and reading all of these comments that refuse to admit that men are constantly getting mixed signals about this, are equally annoying especially when you guys use vernacular meant for fucking dogs to describe humans.

Another post that has such an easy solution. Hang the bathmat right after using it. That way it dries faster and stays cleaner

Pick the bathmat off the floor if he refuses to sit down. He can wipe it off the floor instead. (You should hang your bathmat either way tbh.)

I’m amazing that you have been able to maintain any kind of sexual attraction to someone who pisses on the floor.

It absolutely is possible for him to not piss on the floor. He can sit down if he really hasn’t mastered the art of pissing in a toilet at 27. What’s worse is that he’s then leaving the pissy bath mat on the floor… Foul.

Maybe he just sit down to urinate.

I love this subreddit for post like this. People really will date anyone lmao

Why over think it? Just tell the lunkhead to stand close enough to the bowl so that his knees are touching. If it continues make him clean it. You shouldn't have to suffer for his inability to follow his mommy's potty training instructions. Btw I'm a guy and yours should probably figure out the basics real fast or he's gonna have difficulty maintaining any sort of romantic relationship. It sounds like he needs a mom more than a girlfriend.

This is such a common guy thing and it's so gross but no one else seems to notice it!

If he cannot hit the toilet he needs to sit to pee, or personally Clorox the floor daily and move the bath mat. That’s foul.

Frankly most people with penises should sit to pee. There is always some splash around and if you say there isn’t, you just aren’t aware of it. There is.

I mean, our 3 year old has issues with getting things in the bowl - but yes, it is reasonable to expect adults to be fully housebroken. 

I pee sitting down at home and at friends, I only pee standing up in public bathrooms

there are signs above the toilets in our office washrooms that say:

STAND CLOSER, AIM, IF THAT DOESN’T WORK: SIT DOWN.

If he won't do anything to prevent himself from peeing where the bath mat is, he needs to move the bath mat before he pees. And when he pees on the floor, he needs to clean it, not just wipe it.

Like if he insists on being a problem the least he can do is mitigate and clean up after the problem he's causing.

Is he uncircumcised? Sometimes if you don't pull back your aim can be kinda shit and you'll be way more prone to making a mess.

The solution to that is simply to clean up.

I don't keep a bath mat near the toilet because it would catch spills like that. Much easier to wipe up the floor without

TIL some men drip pee on the floor and either don’t notice or don’t care. Gross.

The question is have you communicated it with him?

As a man, our pee streams are unpredictable 100% of the time. I'd say more often than not it goes as expected but there is no guarantee that it won't split into 2 random ass streams at any given point lol. We could have peed 5 times that day and the 6th pee, for whatever reason decides to split up...

Personally, I'd never ever sit down to pee unless I have to take a shit too.

Message to all the guys out here. It's not emasculating to sit while you pee. It's relaxing, you get a few minutes to fuck around on your phone, and you don't need to continuously clean the toilet. You're not less of a man.

It could be a medical issue. Sometimes men get split streams and the pee sudden comes out in a V-shape before converging into 1 main stream. Also, the pee stream is not a single straight line. It is like multiple lines bunch together. Some of the lines can randomly shoot out in different directions from the main pee stream. Also, some medications may cause men to dribble pee. So after peeing, there are still drops at the tip of their penis that can fall to the floor when they put their pants back on or even in their underwear (in which case, his underwear will have lots of pee stains and smell like pee.

Maybe he needs to go to a urologist and make sure he doesn’t have any peeing problems. 50% of men over 50 and 90% of men over 80 have peeing problems.

Tell him to start applying pressure to his perineum to empty his bladder. Maybe mention it to doctor just to rule out prostate probs.

5 years before you say something? How odd...

girl he is 27 and pissin on the bathmat, you are under-reacting

Maybe he needs to grab a couple of sheets of tissue before he starts to catch the dribble... Or maybe an adult and control it...

I can't understand why it's so difficult to not miss

Exactly, you can't understand. It's not easy to control everytime because it never flows out the same way. And after sex, it just flows sideways (and never the same side).

The only way to fix it 100%, would be for him to pee sitting down

Why is the bathrug deployed when not in use? That is disgusting. Especially when man pees and toilet water mixed with piss start splashing up and over the bowl. And shit particles flying around when doing your business.

Also from experience it is close to impossible not to drip sometimes. I just wipe afterwards.

You’re not unreasonable. He should clean the bathroom and maybe he’ll learn to clean up his own mess.

To be completely honest, besides sitting down (which is borderline impossible when hard), it’s genuinely impossible to control the tiny droplets from the non-laminar flow from a dick. I’m not talking about split-streams, that’s something totally different, and I’m not talking about full size drops either. Droplets probably 1/10th the size of a regular drop, they scatter pretty wide and I doubt most men are even aware they exist. The best way to deal with those is to just not have a mat by the toilet and mop regularly.

You're both unreasonable.

Your boyfriend is a grown man who habitually pisses on the floor. That's disgusting. He needs to sit down if he can't reliably get all the piss into the toilet.

And you need to stop leaving bathmats on the floor of the bathroom. That's just unhygienic, even if everyone in the house is toilet trained. A bathmat needs to be dry when you step on it after a shower; if it's sitting on the floor all the time it's just a festering bacteria colony. It also tells me that your bathroom floor isn't getting cleaned often enough.

If you don't want to pick up the bathmat after a shower, get a duckboard, which can stay on the ground. However, you'll still have to pick that up to clean the bathroom floor. Which should be the boyfriend's job, since he thinks it's fine to piss on it.

I’m going to buck the trend. Seems to me it’s a simple function of anatomy. Many men often have a drop that escapes after shaking, and imo this is the point of the bathmat. He wipes the seat which is more than a lot of men do. Just wash the bathmat once a week.

I am a man... I cannot fathom this being a problem... this is definitely just him and maybe some other lazy/weird dudes that do this but that ain't the norm lol

Edit: whoever downvoted me clearly also dribbles all over the seat lol. It really isn't remotely hard not to to do that

Drips WHAT ?!? Absolutely not !!!

No tell that slob to sit to pee if he can’t control his stuff.