> * [Support](http://bit.ly/1MjyTEE)
> * [Advice](http://bit.ly/1PRM2M9)
> * [Rant/Vent](http://bit.ly/1M2yLxC)
> * [Progress](http://bit.ly/1jStxds)
> * [Question](http://bit.ly/1jStwq9)
> * [Update](http://bit.ly/1KGD3W4)
> * [RBN](http://bit.ly/1XzS7OH)
> * [Tip](http://bit.ly/1HczHKe)
> * [Happy/Funny](http://bit.ly/20bcsfp)
> * [Media](http://bit.ly/1YbVZEO)

---
####**For those struggling with suicidal thoughts and feelings:**

>* /r/SuicideWatch
* [Hotline Numbers](/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotlines)
* /r/SWResources
*  [Hotline FAQ](http://redd.it/1c7ntr)

#**If you think you may hurt yourself or others, please call your local emergency services: 911, 999, 112, etc.**
---
#####**[Questions? Concerns? Message the Mods!](http://bit.ly/20bctQq)**-
> *Please don't send your posts to modmail.  Given the high volume of modmails the mods receive, we aren't able to individually respond to posts sent to us*

####**[Click me for RBN Acronyms and Terminology](http://bit.ly/1MjA1bt)**

---
#####**[Helpful links - click!](/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/helpfullinks)**
---
####**[Click here](http://bit.ly/2qHpGGP)** for an amazing post with resources for ACoNs.

####**[Click here](https://bit.ly/2UDZMkZ)** to open all the other RBN subreddits multi

---
######**This is a [support group](/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/support) for people raised by a parent with toxic, self-absorbed or abusive personality traits, which may be exhibited by those who suffer from cluster B personality disorders.** 
>Because narcissists rarely seek care, few of our parents have a formal diagnosis. So in this space, "narcissist" is a term used loosely to refer to a variety of conditions, and is not used in a clinical sense. We are not professionals and cannot diagnose anybody. Please share your stories, your histories, your fears, and your triumphs.

---

#####What is a narcissist?  
>Trait lists are [**here**](http://bit.ly/UGimaE) and tactics that narcissists use can be found [**here**](http://tcat.tc/29lJchB).  While they are titled traits specific to mothers, fathers can have these same traits.


#####If you fear you may be a narcissist, check out this post: [HELP!  I think I am a narcissist!](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/tpl9q4/help_i_think_i_am_a_narcissist/?)


#####If you **know** you are a narcissist, if you identify as a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath or have a diagnosis of NPD or ASPD, 
consider posting to /r/selfimprovement or /r/DecidingToBeBetter  as  **you will NOT be allowed to post or comment in this subreddit.**

---

######**BEFORE YOU POST OR COMMENT, READ THE RULES:**

>[Click here](/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/rules) for more detailed information on the rules of this sub, our trigger warnings and our tagging practices.

>**When you comment, assume a [context of abuse](/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/assume_a_context_of_abuse) to all posts.**  

>**Be nice.** No personal attacks, name-calling, or bigotry. Exercise empathy. Respect boundaries. No [slurs](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/slurs) or [victim-blaming](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/victimblaming).  [Don't downvote.  Speak with your upvotes](/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/downvotes). No fatphobia, transphobia, etc.

>**No advocating for someone else's narcissist or golden child siblings.**

>**No posts about politicians or political parties.**

>**No diagnosis by media/drive-by diagnosis.** Do not post about celebrities, people in the media, random strangers or anyone else that you don't personally know. This subreddit is for posts about abusers that you know personally, and that are abusing you personally.

>**Advising anyone in this group to commit suicide or referring them to groups that give this sort of advice will result in an immediate ban.**

>**Respect each other and follow Reddiquette.** Mods may remove posts and comments that are hurtful or not in the spirit of the subreddit at their discretion. Help us preserve a respectful, supportive atmosphere. Your tone matters when responding to others (especially when the post has a "Suppport" flair), so please be kind! 

>**Do not [derail](http://bit.ly/1M2zdvP) the posts of others.**

>**No generalizing about groups of people.** This includes race, religion, profession, gender, political party, age, ethnicity, etc.

>**No advocating abusive practices.** This includes current controversial ideas in discipline, medicine, or science that are abusive or misinformative. We stick to the verifiable truth as best we can on RBN, and to advocating healthy practices. This also includes anything relating to theft, slander, lawbreaking, as well as all forms of corporal punishment (i.e.: [no pro-spanking posts or comments](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/spanking)), anti-vaccination and other pseudoscience. 

>**No encouragement of illegal drug use or self-medication** without medical supervision, and no advising against proper medical treatment.

>**No asking or offering of gifts, money, donations, etc.** No GoFundMe, crowdsourcing or fundraising sites.

>**No links or recommendations to hate groups.**

>**No posts or comments advocating violence, murder or revenge (even in jest).**

>**No posts about N-kids.** 

>**Narcissists are NOT allowed to post or comment here.**

>**No [platitudes or generic advice or motivational posts](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/rules#wiki_No_platitudes_or_generic_motivational_posts)** Solicited in advice in comments to posters is fine.  Making generic advice posts, such as this title example, is not allowed: Three tips to shut a Narcissist down! No posts like "ACoNs are an inspiration to me" or or "I feel so bad for all of you and I really love my normal parents" or "IF I CAN DO IT, YOU CAN TOO!" or "You make me a better parent because your posts about the trauma you experienced shows me how to not mess up my kids". Instead, please support our posters directly by commenting directly on their posts.  Let's keep the people who NEED support in the spotlight and give them direct support!

>**No graphic or clickbait titles.**  [Examples here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/7gav2n/read_me_new_guidelines_for_titles_and_trigger/)

>**Please flair triggering content such as graphic physical abuse, sexual abuse or animal abuse.**  The flair button will appear under your post after the post has been submitted.  

>**Maintain anonymity and privacy** [No linking to personal or public Facebook pages, Discords, chat rooms/groups, or identifying information.](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/chatgroups) Do not ask OPs for more identifying information if it is not provided. Posts that contain an abundance of personally identifying information may be removed to safeguard the community and the poster.

>**You may link an entire sub (for example, /r/BPDlovedones or /r/suicidewatch), but not directly linking to a post/comment.  When you link to a post or comment, please use a np.reddit.com link.  Posts or comments that encourage brigading will be removed.**([Further explanation here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/linkingexceptions)).

>**No pure image posts** - Memes, etc., must be contained within a self-post. ([Example.](http://redd.it/220out)).

>**Moderation in this group is always biased FOR the OP (the person who made the post - not the commenters).**  For example, if an OP does not appreciate comments of a religious nature, the moderators will defend the OP's boundaries.  If an OP prefers comments of a religious nature, the moderators will also defend that boundary. This is a support group - we are all here to support the OP. We often see commenters confused and feel that any comment should be allowed. But, we are biased FOR the OP's needs and boundaries.  When you write your own post asking for support, we will also be biased for you.

>**Please keep in mind that the mods here are unpaid volunteers with their own busy lives and jobs and struggles.**  We are not online 24/7.  We cannot read every post or comment.  We are not omnipotent.  We aren't aware of every problem, so **please use the report button to flag the mods for problematic posts/comments you see in this group.**

>**While you're at it, [check out Reddiquette](https://www.reddithelp.com/en/categories/reddit-101/reddit-basics/reddiquette).**  Not all the guidelines are appropriate for this group, but most are.  It's a good baseline for behavior on Reddit.com in general!

>**Disagree with a Mod decision?  Modmail us!**  Modmail reaches the entire Mod team, we will review and respond as soon as we reasonably can.  Rules lawyering will not help your cause.

---

#####RBN Network

>* /r/raisedbynarcissists
* /r/LifeAfterNarcissism
* /r/RBNBestof
* /r/RBNstudies
* /r/ShitNsSay
* /r/RBNLegalAdvice
* /r/RBNFitness
* /r/RBNLifeSkills
* /r/ManagedbyNarcissists
* /r/RBNAtHome
* /r/RBNBookClub
* /r/RBNFavors
* /r/RBNMovieNight
* /r/RBNSpouses
* /r/RBNRelationships
* /r/RBNChildcare
* /r/RBNImages
* /r/Nrelationships
* /r/RBNMusic
* /r/ACoNLAN 

---
#####RBN Allies

> - /r/internetparents
- /r/survivorsofabuse
- /r/CPTSD 

[**New to reddit?**](/wiki/reddit_101)

<div class="md"><blockquote>
<ul>
<li><a href="http://bit.ly/1MjyTEE">Support</a></li>
<li><a href="http://bit.ly/1PRM2M9">Advice</a></li>
<li><a href="http://bit.ly/1M2yLxC">Rant/Vent</a></li>
<li><a href="http://bit.ly/1jStxds">Progress</a></li>
<li><a href="http://bit.ly/1jStwq9">Question</a></li>
<li><a href="http://bit.ly/1KGD3W4">Update</a></li>
<li><a href="http://bit.ly/1XzS7OH">RBN</a></li>
<li><a href="http://bit.ly/1HczHKe">Tip</a></li>
<li><a href="http://bit.ly/20bcsfp">Happy/Funny</a></li>
<li><a href="http://bit.ly/1YbVZEO">Media</a></li>
</ul>
</blockquote>

<hr/>

<h4><strong>For those struggling with suicidal thoughts and feelings:</strong></h4>

<blockquote>
<ul>
<li><a href="/r/SuicideWatch">/r/SuicideWatch</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotlines">Hotline Numbers</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/SWResources">/r/SWResources</a></li>
<li> <a href="http://redd.it/1c7ntr">Hotline FAQ</a></li>
</ul>
</blockquote>

<h1><strong>If you think you may hurt yourself or others, please call your local emergency services: 911, 999, 112, etc.</strong></h1>

<hr/>

<h5><strong><a href="http://bit.ly/20bctQq">Questions? Concerns? Message the Mods!</a></strong>-</h5>

<blockquote>
<p><em>Please don&#39;t send your posts to modmail.  Given the high volume of modmails the mods receive, we aren&#39;t able to individually respond to posts sent to us</em></p>
</blockquote>

<h4><strong><a href="http://bit.ly/1MjA1bt">Click me for RBN Acronyms and Terminology</a></strong></h4>

<hr/>

<h5><strong><a href="/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/helpfullinks">Helpful links - click!</a></strong></h5>

<hr/>

<h4><strong><a href="http://bit.ly/2qHpGGP">Click here</a></strong> for an amazing post with resources for ACoNs.</h4>

<h4><strong><a href="https://bit.ly/2UDZMkZ">Click here</a></strong> to open all the other RBN subreddits multi</h4>

<hr/>

<h6><strong>This is a <a href="/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/support">support group</a> for people raised by a parent with toxic, self-absorbed or abusive personality traits, which may be exhibited by those who suffer from cluster B personality disorders.</strong></h6>

<blockquote>
<p>Because narcissists rarely seek care, few of our parents have a formal diagnosis. So in this space, &quot;narcissist&quot; is a term used loosely to refer to a variety of conditions, and is not used in a clinical sense. We are not professionals and cannot diagnose anybody. Please share your stories, your histories, your fears, and your triumphs.</p>
</blockquote>

<hr/>

<h5>What is a narcissist?</h5>

<blockquote>
<p>Trait lists are <a href="http://bit.ly/UGimaE"><strong>here</strong></a> and tactics that narcissists use can be found <a href="http://tcat.tc/29lJchB"><strong>here</strong></a>.  While they are titled traits specific to mothers, fathers can have these same traits.</p>
</blockquote>

<h5>If you fear you may be a narcissist, check out this post: <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/tpl9q4/help_i_think_i_am_a_narcissist/?">HELP!  I think I am a narcissist!</a></h5>

<h5>If you <strong>know</strong> you are a narcissist, if you identify as a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath or have a diagnosis of NPD or ASPD,</h5>

<p>consider posting to <a href="/r/selfimprovement">/r/selfimprovement</a> or <a href="/r/DecidingToBeBetter">/r/DecidingToBeBetter</a>  as  <strong>you will NOT be allowed to post or comment in this subreddit.</strong></p>

<hr/>

<h6><strong>BEFORE YOU POST OR COMMENT, READ THE RULES:</strong></h6>

<blockquote>
<p><a href="/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/rules">Click here</a> for more detailed information on the rules of this sub, our trigger warnings and our tagging practices.</p>

<p><strong>When you comment, assume a <a href="/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/assume_a_context_of_abuse">context of abuse</a> to all posts.</strong>  </p>

<p><strong>Be nice.</strong> No personal attacks, name-calling, or bigotry. Exercise empathy. Respect boundaries. No <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/slurs">slurs</a> or <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/victimblaming">victim-blaming</a>.  <a href="/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/downvotes">Don&#39;t downvote.  Speak with your upvotes</a>. No fatphobia, transphobia, etc.</p>

<p><strong>No advocating for someone else&#39;s narcissist or golden child siblings.</strong></p>

<p><strong>No posts about politicians or political parties.</strong></p>

<p><strong>No diagnosis by media/drive-by diagnosis.</strong> Do not post about celebrities, people in the media, random strangers or anyone else that you don&#39;t personally know. This subreddit is for posts about abusers that you know personally, and that are abusing you personally.</p>

<p><strong>Advising anyone in this group to commit suicide or referring them to groups that give this sort of advice will result in an immediate ban.</strong></p>

<p><strong>Respect each other and follow Reddiquette.</strong> Mods may remove posts and comments that are hurtful or not in the spirit of the subreddit at their discretion. Help us preserve a respectful, supportive atmosphere. Your tone matters when responding to others (especially when the post has a &quot;Suppport&quot; flair), so please be kind! </p>

<p><strong>Do not <a href="http://bit.ly/1M2zdvP">derail</a> the posts of others.</strong></p>

<p><strong>No generalizing about groups of people.</strong> This includes race, religion, profession, gender, political party, age, ethnicity, etc.</p>

<p><strong>No advocating abusive practices.</strong> This includes current controversial ideas in discipline, medicine, or science that are abusive or misinformative. We stick to the verifiable truth as best we can on RBN, and to advocating healthy practices. This also includes anything relating to theft, slander, lawbreaking, as well as all forms of corporal punishment (i.e.: <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/spanking">no pro-spanking posts or comments</a>), anti-vaccination and other pseudoscience. </p>

<p><strong>No encouragement of illegal drug use or self-medication</strong> without medical supervision, and no advising against proper medical treatment.</p>

<p><strong>No asking or offering of gifts, money, donations, etc.</strong> No GoFundMe, crowdsourcing or fundraising sites.</p>

<p><strong>No links or recommendations to hate groups.</strong></p>

<p><strong>No posts or comments advocating violence, murder or revenge (even in jest).</strong></p>

<p><strong>No posts about N-kids.</strong> </p>

<p><strong>Narcissists are NOT allowed to post or comment here.</strong></p>

<p><strong>No <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/rules#wiki_No_platitudes_or_generic_motivational_posts">platitudes or generic advice or motivational posts</a></strong> Solicited in advice in comments to posters is fine.  Making generic advice posts, such as this title example, is not allowed: Three tips to shut a Narcissist down! No posts like &quot;ACoNs are an inspiration to me&quot; or or &quot;I feel so bad for all of you and I really love my normal parents&quot; or &quot;IF I CAN DO IT, YOU CAN TOO!&quot; or &quot;You make me a better parent because your posts about the trauma you experienced shows me how to not mess up my kids&quot;. Instead, please support our posters directly by commenting directly on their posts.  Let&#39;s keep the people who NEED support in the spotlight and give them direct support!</p>

<p><strong>No graphic or clickbait titles.</strong>  <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/7gav2n/read_me_new_guidelines_for_titles_and_trigger/">Examples here.</a></p>

<p><strong>Please flair triggering content such as graphic physical abuse, sexual abuse or animal abuse.</strong>  The flair button will appear under your post after the post has been submitted.  </p>

<p><strong>Maintain anonymity and privacy</strong> <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/chatgroups">No linking to personal or public Facebook pages, Discords, chat rooms/groups, or identifying information.</a> Do not ask OPs for more identifying information if it is not provided. Posts that contain an abundance of personally identifying information may be removed to safeguard the community and the poster.</p>

<p><strong>You may link an entire sub (for example, <a href="/r/BPDlovedones">/r/BPDlovedones</a> or <a href="/r/suicidewatch">/r/suicidewatch</a>), but not directly linking to a post/comment.  When you link to a post or comment, please use a np.reddit.com link.  Posts or comments that encourage brigading will be removed.</strong>(<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/linkingexceptions">Further explanation here.</a>).</p>

<p><strong>No pure image posts</strong> - Memes, etc., must be contained within a self-post. (<a href="http://redd.it/220out">Example.</a>).</p>

<p><strong>Moderation in this group is always biased FOR the OP (the person who made the post - not the commenters).</strong>  For example, if an OP does not appreciate comments of a religious nature, the moderators will defend the OP&#39;s boundaries.  If an OP prefers comments of a religious nature, the moderators will also defend that boundary. This is a support group - we are all here to support the OP. We often see commenters confused and feel that any comment should be allowed. But, we are biased FOR the OP&#39;s needs and boundaries.  When you write your own post asking for support, we will also be biased for you.</p>

<p><strong>Please keep in mind that the mods here are unpaid volunteers with their own busy lives and jobs and struggles.</strong>  We are not online 24/7.  We cannot read every post or comment.  We are not omnipotent.  We aren&#39;t aware of every problem, so <strong>please use the report button to flag the mods for problematic posts/comments you see in this group.</strong></p>

<p><strong>While you&#39;re at it, <a href="https://www.reddithelp.com/en/categories/reddit-101/reddit-basics/reddiquette">check out Reddiquette</a>.</strong>  Not all the guidelines are appropriate for this group, but most are.  It&#39;s a good baseline for behavior on Reddit.com in general!</p>

<p><strong>Disagree with a Mod decision?  Modmail us!</strong>  Modmail reaches the entire Mod team, we will review and respond as soon as we reasonably can.  Rules lawyering will not help your cause.</p>
</blockquote>

<hr/>

<h5>RBN Network</h5>

<blockquote>
<ul>
<li><a href="/r/raisedbynarcissists">/r/raisedbynarcissists</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/LifeAfterNarcissism">/r/LifeAfterNarcissism</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNBestof">/r/RBNBestof</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNstudies">/r/RBNstudies</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/ShitNsSay">/r/ShitNsSay</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNLegalAdvice">/r/RBNLegalAdvice</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNFitness">/r/RBNFitness</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNLifeSkills">/r/RBNLifeSkills</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/ManagedbyNarcissists">/r/ManagedbyNarcissists</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNAtHome">/r/RBNAtHome</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNBookClub">/r/RBNBookClub</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNFavors">/r/RBNFavors</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNMovieNight">/r/RBNMovieNight</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNSpouses">/r/RBNSpouses</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNRelationships">/r/RBNRelationships</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNChildcare">/r/RBNChildcare</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNImages">/r/RBNImages</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/Nrelationships">/r/Nrelationships</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/RBNMusic">/r/RBNMusic</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/ACoNLAN">/r/ACoNLAN</a> </li>
</ul>
</blockquote>

<hr/>

<h5>RBN Allies</h5>

<blockquote>
<ul>
<li><a href="/r/internetparents">/r/internetparents</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/survivorsofabuse">/r/survivorsofabuse</a></li>
<li><a href="/r/CPTSD">/r/CPTSD</a> </li>
</ul>
</blockquote>

<p><a href="/wiki/reddit_101"><strong>New to reddit?</strong></a></p>
</div>

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This is a support group for people raised by abusive parents (with toxic, self-absorbed or abusive personality traits, which may be exhibited by those who suffer from cluster B personality disorders).  Please share your stories, your questions, your histories, your fears and your triumphs. Significant others and friends are all welcome.

<div class="md"><p>This is a support group for people raised by abusive parents (with toxic, self-absorbed or abusive personality traits, which may be exhibited by those who suffer from cluster B personality disorders).  Please share your stories, your questions, your histories, your fears and your triumphs. Significant others and friends are all welcome.</p>
</div>

[**Read the rules for the sub before posting**](http://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/rules).
Please flair your posts as necessary after submitting. [Further guidance on flair can be found in the rules.](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/rules#wiki_titles_and_flair)

<div class="md"><p><a href="http://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/rules"><strong>Read the rules for the sub before posting</strong></a>.
Please flair your posts as necessary after submitting. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/wiki/rules#wiki_titles_and_flair">Further guidance on flair can be found in the rules.</a></p>
</div>

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