My 18 year old son has a girlfriend. She is also a high school senior, although they attend different high schools. I have many concerns about her, but I need my son to understand that it is not just a me as his mom issue, but to see that other people recognize these as red flags also.
-when they have a disagreement, he tries to talk it out. She goes no contact. Worse, she will text him then call him to make sure he got the text, but refused to speak to him when he answers the phone.
-she gets angry when he doesn’t buy her a gift but doesn’t buy him anything in return (I.e., Valentines Day)
-tonight is prom at her school. Because of a variety of issues (including her, not naming the florist they were supposed to get their matching flowers from) he was unable to get her a corsage. When he told her this, she canceled his boutonniere. I tried to help him out and found a last minute corsage. She then got furious with him, because he was going to show up with flowers, and she had nothing.
Then I find out they are not going to prom because she forgot to buy tickets. 😡 I wouldn’t have hunted down flowers had I known that but too late now.
- I gifted him money for the evening so he could eat at the restaurant before Prom. He told me before and texted me from the restaurant that he didn’t like the menu items and what he really wanted was a burger. He spent his dinner money on her meal. (His choice, but he swore to me she wasn’t going to touch his money.)
-here is the part that makes me 🤬 they borrowed a car from her parents to go to dinner. He just texted me that they were “on the way to the dance.”
Me: I’m confused, she didn’t buy tickets. Don’t do anything that will put your enlistment at risk. Him: no, she didn’t get ME a ticket, I’m just going to drop her off and hang out with her parents.
What the actual fuck?!
I replied that I hate this for him. He is acting as her chauffeur, bought her dinner, and then she’s gonna go and hang with her friends at prom and leave him sitting at home. THIS IS SO WRONG.
He deserves better than this. I drew my line in the sand “I am done helping you see her, be around her, or do anything that involves her. I cannot support someone who regularly abuses kid.”
Do you see 🚩🚩🚩🚩or is it just me?