Alr so rn I had a BIG realization about life and myself and idk if I’m just delulu and cuz I’m drunk as a mf rn but yea, it’s mostly about my self esteem, social skills and character in general. All my life I’ve been very antisocial and shy and self conscious about myself for some reason even tho I was an all star baseball and football player since I was 4 years old(stopped playing in the pandemic and never got back to sports).
So yea idk if it was cuz I’m over here on vacation in this tj resort with my family and my parents let me get drunk, and I may have gotten a couple more beers than they let me but still. I realized it when I drank 3 beers(doesn’t really matter just saying cuz that’s what got me a lil more drunk) and yea when I went down to the lobby to ask for the WiFi password I saw these group of girls and they were around my age and they were in front of me but it’s like we connected automatically without even saying a word to each other it was crazy.
I was behind them and as they were leaving so I could go ahead and ask for the wify password one of the girls looked at me and we kinda acknowledged each other for a bit but we went our separate ways. And idk if it was cuz I was drunk af but it’s like she COMEPLETELY understood me somehow and somehow made me realize that all I needed in my life to grow as a person socially, emotionally, psychologically, and in general character wise was just some unconditional love.
It was so fucken weird the way she looked at me was as if she knew me comepletely inside and out, we ovb didn’t talk or nothing and even tho if we had the chance we prob wouldn’t cuz that’s not how I am, if I don’t know u I’m not gonna talk to u no matter what especially if ur a girl my age or around.
But yea sorry idk what tf this shit is, all my life I struggled with depression and other shit but it’s just weird what I realized, like I said idk if it’s cuz I was drunk af and on a beautiful vacation get a way but still. A little background of me is I’m 17 and got big parents issues, their narcissists and never showed me unconditional love as a kid and till this day nothing, not just that but they used me as a emotional toy as a kid and drained tf out me which more than likely caused my mental issues and social issues I got.
Idk it’s like just from that “experience” with that random girl made me realize a whole bunch of shit, the thing is tho idk if I’m just being delulu or not. Another thing I got really big issues with girls for some reason, I got no female friends and for some reason look down on girls ALOT, every time a girl shows interest in me and stuff like that I comepletly shut them down.
And ik for a fact it’s cuz my mom made me have this unconscious image of girls in my head which led me to be like that towards girls. Trust me their is a whole bunch of other shit I could say rn but for some reason every time I try to tell stuff like this to random people on the internet it’s hard for me to explain my thoughts idky.
( edit, I also feel like I need a girl to help me let that big guard up I have down since my mom never showed love and basically “betrayed” me so many times and let me down so many times as a kid to help me “build” myself up and grow.)
Rn as I’m writing this I’m sitting beside the pool drinking a modelo smokin my geek bar and just chillin listening to music in the night sky. And I’m writing this on my journal cuz the wyfy here is acting stupid and not letting me download Reddit so ima post this in the morning.
But yea it’s fucken crazy wtf I realized and btw before this interaction with that girl my mood was bad and everything but once I got that realization from that interaction kindve when I went back up to my room to give my mom the wyfy password code I felt like “myself” and was energetic af and brought the whole rooms mood up for the better.
But at the same time idk if it was cuz was drunk af and hitting the vape a lot, BUT at the same time i was vaping and drinking before that and wasn’t in that same mindstate for some reason. The mind is really weird, but yea sorry ik it’s a lot ik my bad, could it be I realized all my life’s issues?? Or im just delulu af??
So basically to put it in short terms I realized just from that not even interaction but “situation” with those girls and that one specific girl made me realize I NEED a gf and need that love I never got from my mom, and basically somehow need it to fill in that void my mom never filled up ever since I was a kid.
Not just that but my parents are also the same way, their antisocial and people don’t really like them much, luckily I’m at a trade school we’re I live there Monday through Friday so I’m away from them most of the time and basically growing away from them and bettering myself for the better slowly and slowly but could that be really it?
And sorry rn as I’m looking back and reading this it doesn’t sound much as how I pictured in my head so ik for a fact ima get hate from people and say that I’m basically gonna “use” them for my character development or shit like that cuz that’s what happened last time I posted something similar like this.
But yea that’s about it, I can’t really think about much else to say cuz it’s like I’m fried from vaping too much. But yea could that be it? Or im just trippin thank u for reading all this ik it’s a lot sorry.
Another thing sorry, I never had a real gf I’ve had a couple gfs when I was younger but nothing serious at all, every time a girl showed interest I’d lose interest real fast and never took it serious but would basically “date” them.
(Edit sorry I just remembered something, if I never got drunk I would’ve never got that realization if I was in a sober state)
(another edit sorry😭, reading this a couple minutes after writing this, it does not sound at all as what I pictured in my head so if u find it stupid or as if I’m stupid sorry that’s not how I really am it’s just hard for some reason writing my thoughts, I never went to regular hs, I basically dropped out and never did one full semester (or even a full 3 months☹️)of hs and was supposed to graduate literally yesterday but I’m at a trade school and never went cuz of mental issues so bare with me.)