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Just rubbed a quick one out to you brotha
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Nyom.
Oom! Vroom!
Me too
Do you think god kept us separated from his other successful creation in outer space?
Compassion is human, and it is beautiful. Do you need me to eke one out for you too, chief?
One for me please 🥺👉👈
I gotcha fam
Hell yeah brother
Dicks out for sadako.
Whereas, I am taking my time with him.
We are not the same.
I'm sure someone as attractive as chemotherapy will find you tolerable one day.
Aww that's so sweet 🥹
When has been ugly ever been a limitation on having children or finding a partner?
Lots of people dont
I can barely keep a plant alive, and you want me to be responsible for a human?
I killed a succulent.....that's like killing a God.
I killed a cactus... because of lack of water ....he was Infront of my TV ...I saw him daily
I once killed a plastic plant. I have no idea how but it withered. How?
Too much sunlight makes the plastic brittle
And too much heat make plastic sadge (sad/sag/age?)
TIL I have sadged.
You win.
That’s actually gotta be a world record or something
Imagine killing someone that was designed to not be taken care of lol. (Tho in all fairness, I would prolly do it too lol)
I'm assembling a team...
So you are doing team building?
/s
i also killed a cactus but in all fairness it died from the fire
I am the fire, I can confirm that I did indeed kill their cactus.
Did the cactus have it coming?
It was a prickly bastard
This is giving, "the devil whispered in my ear..."
how do you even keep your self alive at that point
I killed a cactus too and I did water it, it just didn’t want to live anymore.
I had 2 succulents and 2 cactuses. I had.
Now, every plant in my home is plastic. It does the job of having a little green in my environment without the need to throw away because I'm dumb
I legit can't tell if they have too much or too little water or new flowers are replacing the old
Easiest way to see if they need water is to lift the pot. If it feels heavy it's still wet, dry it will feel light. Some plants don't like to dry out but many houseplants like to get fairly dry between waterings.
Still not having kids even if I've kept near 100 plants alive at one point 😄
Truth be told, keeping kids alive is WAY easier than keeping plants alive. When a kid needs something they complain about it, when a plant needs something it doesn't.
I'd remember to water my plants too if they screamed at me
Have killed plenty of plants in the last four years. Haven't killed my daughter. Not one single time.
Can confirm. I've never been able to keep a plant alive for more than a week, but my human child is 2 years old and still very much alive. And loud.
Damn I managed to keep a plant alive but killed like 3 kids.
Stop drinking and driving
I mean yea I wouldn’t expect an autistic chihuahua to know much about taking care of kids
When your kid complains then you water it with vodka
Come one now, whiskey.
Vodka is too high octane. You've got to save that stuff for rough bed times or when you and the wife want some "cuddle time."
I under watered a cactus 🌵 😐
lmaooo
This is real, I feel it takes so much work just to keep what I have going and to properly take care of myself. Although I could most likely rise to meet the challenge, my other fear is that my indifference would show. I help my family out a lot currently and I wish I could say I do it cause I love them but I think it's more of a duty type situation. I feel I should and need to be doing these things because they are my family.
Sure, having kids is great, but wouldn't it be nice to have a few more faces to express your existential dread?
It's almost painful how relatable this is...
why don't you want kids
I just don't.
I don’t understand why so many people on Reddit want to make their decision not to have kids into some grand, self-less gesture.
Personally, I don’t have kids because I’m a selfish bastard. I don’t want to spend the time and money needed to raise them. I want that time and money for myself, and for my hobbies and interests. It’s as simple as that.
True but people don't want to be selfish because that's bad so you see long paragraphs about how having children is bad and what not, also there is an inverse of this, people who derive their whole self worth from their kids. Not gonna say both of them are bad but not really good either somewhere in between is good but I don't know where that is.
I don't quite see why not wanting to have kids is selfish in the first place
I mean, you can't deny that our future depends on them
Is procreation really just a big ponzi scheme?
Yeah, I have no real reason other than just not having any desire for them. My wife is the same way. Our families just assume we can't have them because their brains just can't comprehend the fact that some people just aren't interested in procreation.
Heck, its not even selfish to acknowledge one’s financial limitations
I agree. I respect people who don't want to have kids. Whether it's financial problems, growing up in a bad country, health issues or simply that they want to live life alone without a child.
But what OP wrote sounds like something out of a Wattpad fanfic that a 14 year old typed out and was like "yeah, these are some sick lines".
Yep, exactly the same for me, I don't want kids because I don't wanna spend extra money that I don't have and trade my comfort for that of others.
It’s not a grand selfless gesture, it’s just true. Why would I want children when I’m completely uncertain about them having a livable future?
And making up shit about how things are to serve their story. Things are as good as they've ever been for the average human on earth, and they've been getting drastically better year over year basically forever.
It's ok to just not want kids. No need to pretend like the world is on fire around you. It's election season in a super important election, I totally feel that, but average people are experiencing more awesome bread and circuses these days than kings had a hundred years ago.
Thank you.
More people need to be honest with themselves like this.
I have kids because I want them. If you don’t want kids, I don’t want you to have them. Kids should have parents that want them. There’s nothing wrong with not having kids because you don’t want them
Yeah, I never understood how anyone could think it’s selfish to not have kids. “I don’t want to have kids…so I won’t” “well you’re just being selfish” vs “I wanted to have kids, so I did” “wow, how altruistic, this is definitely the choice that doesn’t come from self-interest at all.” Like both cases are just people doing what they want? If one is selfish then both must be. Or neither are.
If you follow through with that pro-natal logic, every moment you spend not having sex or being pregnant is a waste of potential human life.
Anyone who says it's selfish to not have kids is a moron.
Growing up in a religion where your life milestones were constantly told to you from birth. It was a real struggle to figure out if I wanted kids or if I only wanted them because my religious programming told me I did.
I understand how it feels to have people telling you what to do regarding things they have no business being involved in.
If you want kids, I'm sure your kids will appreciate having a parent that actually wanted them.
Not someone who has more kids than sense because God said so. Whom otherwise does not really care for or even like their kids. Except to pressure them to repeat the experience. Not because those kids want to, but because God wants them to.
Breeding in religion is quite literally passing the abuse forward.
Exactly
Yeah I don't hate the world, children, society or anything like that. I'm not bitter about my dating prospects. I just...don't want them. I don't want a lot of things. There's plenty of people in the world and plenty of them DO want kids. So I'll focus on me. And respectfully, if you're going to tell me I shouldn't do that, you can kindly fuck off.
The best answer here.
We will have kids as a species until the bitter end, through good times and bad. Regardless of risks.
But if you don’t want kids don’t have them. No reason to explain beyond that.
I can hardly keep myself alive some days and you want me to make another me???? Nah I’m good
No need for excuses, I just don't want any lol. No need for a reason.
Edit : Tho I also believe I'd be a terrible parent, I have too many issues with myself that I wouldn't want to put a child through. I'd rather be childless than an abusive father.
This is the best reason. The idea that 'the world is so terrible it would be bad to bring more people into it' is just kind dumb when you consider the arc of human history. The modern world is unambiguously better for humans than at every other time in human history and the people who don't understand this tend to just be overly romanticizing the past.
The core of it is when people say "the world is too terrible to have kids" they imply you're a bad person for wanting them and that they're morally superior.
I think i know why i don‘t have kids..
A more succinct way to put it "we don't need more people, we can't even take care of the people we've already got."
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If we don't have kids, we won't have an aging population in 60 years, problem solved!
Old people used to die a lot younger and more frequently, and give their money to their family. Now they live forever and spend everything on vacations and healthcare. It's good that medicine has advanced. But it's not just that people aren't having "enough" kids to sustain capitalism, old people are living too long and there are too many of them and they're hoarding the wealth instead of being generous and living poor so they can get grandkids.
Caveat, many old people absolutely do live poor and in modern america and that can mean a very depressing lifestyle. I'd rather grow old and live poor in some kind of mixed age family based farming community or something like that.
Old people used to die a lot younger and more frequently, and give their money to their family. Now they live forever and spend everything on vacations and healthcare.
To add to this, and even when they do die the people inheriting their money are also old as shit now. My grandmother recently died at 95 and my mother inherited some money but she's 68 and also retired!
My in-laws live way below their means and still sit on their wealth just waiting to die and will it all to us and my wifes brother. Like why? We’ll be in our 50s or 60s by the time we could afford to have a kid after inheriting their wealth, basically too late at that point.
Yeah my parents realized about 5 years ago (they're 73 now) that they should start giving us our inheritance early and I'm actually almost in a position to buy a house. Luckily my sisters have kids already so the pressure is off of me. The parents did help my sisters out quite a bit which is a big part of why they could afford kids
Also the funeral and medical industry milking everyone dry. My grandpa died with no debt and we barely broke even after selling his house. I was going to get gifted his car but had to end up buying it to help cover expenses.
I absolutely hate this argument people make for having children. People argue we should have more and more children simply for the sole purpose of contributing to social security. This is simply just kicking the issue down the road, and the world could do without more people.
I wish more people saw this. Meanwhile some people out here having 16 kids still like it's the fucking Victorian era
Difficult to weigh the consequences of those 16 kids when your head is so far up a priest's ass he's feeding you the latest drip on your favorite fictional deity while he sexually assaults your boys.
Unfortunately, the people who are unable to think, tend to breed like rabbits. And as a consequence their kind is literally going to breed rational thinking out of the population 😂
And at that point I'll be happily dead and none of my offspring or their offspring will have to watch society further shit the bed in real time, because my line ends with me haha.
Same brother, same
Idiocracy.
Not having enough kids is directly linked to major societal problems on the horizon and is why 1st world countries were scrambling for immigrants.
The average person, especially in the first world, is more productive than consumptive. So this doesn’t really make any sense. One new person is a net positive.
if you do have kids then provide your kid with a life you would want to have 🫶
I don‘t want to be eaten tho..
i’m scared to know what this means
But you don’t understand, then they won’t know how bad we had it!
they won’t know either if they don’t exist 😭
even in the worst times, you can make a happy family; everything depends on you, your love, and your way to educate your sons ❤
edit: loving and caring a family obviously will not make poverty dissapear. comments below didn't understood the message at all. im saying this because sometimes, misery is completely unavoidable, and its worse if misery is within our hearths by these circumstances. by not giving love to a family that is hopeful for a better future you will make it even worse, its pointless; only people filled with an invincible pessimism would prefer eliminate a possible family than to make an effort and accept the harsh reality of things and keep going.
Being poor and stressed will literally kill you faster
Me and the boys burying 30 metric tons of toxic waste into your water table
It's a nice sentiment. I truly believe people are capable of being happy with just the basics and love/friendship. The problem is the basics are out of reach for way too many people.
I don’t think love can prevent poverty.
Sure, but if we add some incredible violence to the mix… nails looks like hammers or somethin idk.
"I grew up in poverty and my father beat me every day and I turned out fine!"
(They did not turn out fine)
Actually, it does have an effect.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/shouldstorm/201902/parents-love-goes-long-way
A new study out of Harvard has found that people who had loving parents in childhood have better lives later on. Parental warmth impacts well-being and health years later.
The study looked at parental warmth in childhood, and then at measures of flourishing in mid-life. The association was clear and consistent: People who recall their parents as warm and loving are flourishing at much higher rates in adulthood. This was true even when the study controlled for socioeconomic and other factors.
I don’t even want to exist in the first place, therefore providing my kid with the like I would like to have. Checkmate.
I will never have children because no one i know seems to enjoy having children. My father didn't want kids, my uncle never had kids and my other uncle lost custody of his kids to his wife because he was a psycho. I didn't enjoy being a kid and can't imagine creating a kid to live in this world. My wife didn't like her childhood either and fears the idea of having a child. I can't take care of myself very well yet people ask why I don't want kids... I don't approve of the direction the government is going in, the education system is wrecked and the country seems headed to civil war. Yes, let's have a baby. I can't pay my bills on time but what's another mouth to feed?
Broken minds bode broken lives.
I love being a dad, but I waited a good amount of time. It became immediately clear to me why my grandparents and parents who had kids "when they were supposed to", hated being parents.
You aren't crazy and you aren't imagining things.
End the cycle
Strange how every generation has it better than the last, but every day is worse than the last?
How op felt posting this
I didn’t want kids because I figured I was too fucked up to take good care of one. but working in early education has made me realize that on some level, I also had grown to resent kids more than they deserved.
it seems to me that they can tell as early as kindergarten that the adults are giving up on them. I do want kids now that I’ve worked with them, but I don’t want them to be mind if we’re not already taking good care of the ones we have
Oh so the problem is actually social media. Now that’s an interesting twist I didn’t expect
It’s going to be incredibly interesting to see all these people who are very anti-child when they are older. I’m genuinely interested in seeing that
I have 3 aunts and 1 aunt in law who don’t have kids and they always bring up how it was their biggest regret in life.
they are youth, they dont understand until they grow old and start regretting life desitions over what social media has shown them.
Edgy Reddit nihilism makes me sad. There’s a lot of good in the world. I am happy to be alive
I'm always confused by the posts idea. Do people actually believe having a kid in the 1500's was somehow better than now?
I've argued with people on reddit who legitimately think this is the hardest time to be alive in human history.
Some people just have no sense of perspective.
Yeah. I think social media has been the key in all this.
Quite literally we've been pumping propaganda about how people think they should be living and comparing that to how they actually are living. It gives you massively skewed perceptions on what's real vs not.
I took the day off, went on a long walk, and read a book in the shade today. Life's good.
I’m a bit of a “Reddit nihilist” but you know what I’m glad that you are happy with your life 🫡
Fr,even tho i currently am going through a very shitty phase in my life,i tend to enjoy the small moments that make life worth living,i’d love to one day have children of my own. But everyone can have an opinion based on their own mentality.
Because I can’t get laid
on the contrary, this is the most peaceful time we've ever lived in. Just because your kid grows up in a trailer home doesn't mean they're living a bad life.
Parents try not to get personally offended when someone doesnt want kids impossible challenge
I dont hate your gremlins, i just dont want my own
I think most parents couldn’t care less.
It tends to be the people who make having/not having children their whole personality who are ranting on the internet. Most normal people are just getting on with their lives.
Typically it's the ones that don't want their gremlins, either.. That get upset.. At least in my experience.
I hate their gremlins, but only because they're actually little monsters that some of these dicks actually refuse to parent because they're too busy being offended about other people not wanting kids on the internet.
Yeah, I do hate the gremlins, but I have to remind myself that 99% of the time it's the parents that actually deserve the hate (the 1% of the time the kids are just born psychopaths)
why are so many people getting mad at this post lol
Because it's an idiotic take.
SOL has never been better in the history of mankind. Edge lords need to get a grip
Is your specific community fucked up? We don't live in the whole world, we live in relatively small communities around the world.
Not all countries and communities are that bad places to raise kids.
Then they'll claim your choice not not reproduce is selfish.
They like to turn that around, but where’s the logic in that?
Reproducing just bc they want kids is the true selfishness. This world is beyond fucked up.
I have too many health issues that might be passed down to have kids. It would not only be less than fun for the kid, but expensive af for me as a parent. I work retail, I don’t have the money to pay for another me’s worth of meds and I refuse to compromise on food or comfort just so I could have a kid.
Saying it keeps getting worse is just edgy. It DOES NOT keep getting worse. Look at the numbers.
okay buddy r/antinatalism is over there
Life has many subreddits Ed-boy
No, please, I don't wanna go over there again!
This is such a reddit thing lol. This fantasy that someone will randomly bring this up and they could le totally pwn them. If you said this to an actual person it would just be sad.
I mean the world is currently an aging population, so I guess some people must genuinely consider this. Well there is also the reason that there are less long term relationships and couples in this generation
I don’t understand why people are so deep into other peoples life choices. It’s not even just about having kids vs not having kids.
Phone choice, car choice, house choice, career choice, hobby choice, etc are all that, a choice.
If people took 5 seconds to care about themselves and focus on making themselves better, they’d probably realize how much of their life they’re wasting trying to involve themselves with everyone else choices.
In most respects, the world has been getting gradually and consistently better for a very long time.
Why not adopt then? They are already here, no changing that
Lol probably the best time to be alive, I’ll bring +5 kids into this world to enjoy life.
It's okay to not want kids.
It's not okay to be a pathetic doomer about the world because you can't stop yourself from doomscrolling.
If rent costs 76% of the monthly salary, how can I afford to have a child? Also, you need at least two people...
I'm also always a sickday away from not eating, paying rent, bills, etc.
61% of Americans are living paycheck-to-paycheck. You are not alone. The whole country is one missed check away from homelessness and one medical incident away from bankruptcy. Approximately one-third of the country is in medical debt.
The "at least you're not living through a plague so just have kids" crowd are out of their minds.
the world is amazing, stop pretending the world is falling apart.
get off the internet and touch grass
Nihilism is so fucking edgy and immature. I remember being 14 once though so I get it
Cool, just don't make it other peoples problem.
I would really like a mini version of me and my stupidity ngl 💅
r/antinatilism is leaking
Having to have something alive and growing inside of me for nine damn months creeps the absolute fuck out of me. Noooo thank you.
If this helps there are a lot of alive thing in you body growing you just don't think about it :)
that's preference though, it's not like you're pretending you're doing the theoretical kids a favor.
Deep thoughts with the 15 year olds
Way to win an imaginary argument buddy.
Not everyone is depressed like you, and not everybody thinks the world is all suffering.
Also I don't like kids
I make double what I made at my last job three years ago. I am living paycheck to paycheck. I would have to get 3 jobs if i had a kid. The child would never see me. And my wife would have to quit her job to care for a child. We would still be living paycheck to paycheck in this scenario. I would work myself to death just so that my child inherits nothing and has to work even harder just to survive.
I want children. But I also don't want to spend every minute of my life working. I don't want to die at 50. I don't want my child to die at 40. Capitalism and feckless politicians did this to us. Not to mention that come November the fascist will win in a landslide and turn the USA into a monarchy with the most worthless man on earth becoming King. What hope is there?
Some of you are such losers chronically online with a doomsday mentality. Life is great
Money, I got a licence in a renowned university and a solid diploma from an engineering school, so does my fiancée. Yet we can barely afford to RENT an apartment for two.
How the fuck are we supposed to support children ?
I'm financially OK right now with my partner. Not thriving enough to support a child without struggling.
I knew I wouldn't make a good parent, internalized too much of how I grew up. I did alright with my daughter, but it was super hard. just have to try to be better than you were yesterday.
My hatred for this world part hits deep lol
My parents divorced and then my entire adolescence was anything but a relax ride in one of my 2 homes. The mere idea of the risk of exposing myself to that experience again but from another perspective AND having to take care of a kid who could go through a similar thing i went is already a big reason to a no go.
yep, been saying it for years, “why would I wanna make more of you, in this world ?”
dumb ass 🎅
I never sat down and decided not to have kids. I've never wanted them. Too old now, and that's totally fine - i still don't want them.
The problem with this line of thinking is that the less people who are aware and care about the state of our world have kids, the worse things are going to get.
If you have a fish tank and the conditions are not really good, you'll notice that the fish stop mating.
This is natural. Cause the conditions are far from optimal.
Oh no my unborn children won't get to experience the joys of being...
Exploited at work
Exploited by landlords
Exploited by the government
Exploited by the Healthcare system
Exploited by insurance corporations
Such a beautiful life... missed out because of my vasectomy. Alas, they will have to just be at peace.
Couldn’t agree more.
I don’t even want to live on this planet 90% of the time, so why would I want to introduce someone else to a ever-worsening version of what I hate already?
one simple meme really upset the you should have a kid squad in the comments
You shouldn't need to explain. "Why don't you want kids" "I just dont" "oh okay"
L take
If you wanna have kids, have kids. None of my business.
If you don’t wanna have kids, don’t have kids. None of my business.
There, is it really so hard?
You won't have kids because of your hatred for this world.
I won't have kids because I am as unattractive as a colonoscopy.
We are not the same.