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You’re not entitled to the likes, man. No one is. Work on yourself. I see you’ve only replied to one comment, and it was the one that called you ugly. Read the constructive advice that was given to you and things will look up. Your other option is to feel sorry for yourself eternally.
Lol Easier said than done. You never know someone's life circumstances unless they explicitly list them point by point. OP could have Autism for instance - or another mental or physical disability - and the "helpful" advice you're recommending is worth jack squat.
The vast majority of people these days are shallow, they avoid commitment and meaningful relationships, they don't care about what's inside, only whether or not you look like a Greek god or goddess and are an easy lay. No wonder the people who aren't like that are lonely.
You are not entitled to people.
I don't believe the OP said he was, you just felt the need to demoralize him even further on /lonely Reddit. You kick puppies to get your jollies, too?
Lol see how far this attitude gets you in life
My oblivious friend, I have been discriminated against all my life for being arguably below average looking, born with a congenital heart defect leading to transplant, Autism, Hypothyroidism, and the medical/physical inability to lead a normal life and work a full-time job like everyone else. I have lived with a proverbial "kick me" sign on my back for 32 years, despite doing my absolute best to succeed and live "normally". People like me do work on themselves, even in spite of disabilities. Try as we might, it doesn't make a difference, especially when looking for companionship.
Oh man. I too have a congenital disability. Mine is a mobility impairment , very visible and unusual looking. Went through a lot of abuse and prejudice and ableism growing up. Still experience it from time, usually when meeting new people. Lots of very hurtful and damaging experiences being different like we are. Able bodied people just don't know, man. I think"work on yourself" is the low hanging fruit of self improvement advice. Of course it's true and everybody in the world can always stand to improve themselves in some way. But, it's gonna be different things for different people that are most in need of working on, and no stranger from the internet is gonna be able to guide you further than the initial advice. And then in yours and my situation, a lot of the obvious things ppl bring up ("work out" is a good example) aren't going to be as accessible of an option as it is for normal ppl. Ive tried joining a gym, it was too difficult for me to navigate with my disability.. most places I can't go actually. So really, "work on yourself" doesn't always work for everyone. I think the important thing in the moment is to acknowledge the person's feelings as valid and not shame then for feeling down on themselves. Everybody gets there sometimes. Then moving forward try to explore what might be most helpful for them in their own unique life to try to tackle.
OP, that does apply to you. The way you're feeling right now is understandable. Lots of people have felt like you feel, or feel that way now, so your not as alone as it may feel like. I personally have had your EXACT issue you described with the dating apps. And man at the time. I felt REAL shitty about myself over it. And honestly, the way I got through it, was just to get through it. I deleted the dating apps and told myself those were not the right thing for me to be pursuing.....right now, anyway. That helped a bit. Knowing I didnt have to even think about them anymore. It didn't take too long to not feel the hurt on a regular basis anymore. In that time period, I was good to myself. Let myself do stuff that I like to do, and had fun doing it. Because, I tried to remember l, I deserve to have fun and feel good and be happy just like everyone else. I'm not bad. There's nothing inherently "wrong" with me. Can I improve? Fuck yes I can. And I will. Right now I'm trying to get in tune w myself and decide "what I can work on to be a better me?" It's not as easy as it sounds. There are bad days. And what i try might fail. But I try to always stay kind to myself (not easy) if I can't do anything else. And that's all I've figured out do far. Might help you since our inciting event was almost exactly the same. And if I can help hit me up anytime. 😊
You think you're so cool dont you. I bet you believe everything good i your life has come to you because you "worked for it". Wish I was that naive.
Yep. Puppy kicker.
Why are you so toxic why OP just ranted about his experience and youre like "oh actually no ones is entitled to likes and you did not get some so you dont deserve it" and now youre bashing some other internet stranger away. Guess what no one is entitled to anything anyway. But you can still complain about it i mean this is a sub exactly for that and youre just playing the bully here.