My mom made me a contract to sign, if i don’t i get evicted

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(re-upload cuz i accidentally leaked my adress)

This happened yesterday, i have people that are doing there best to help me through it. My boyfriend offered to let me stay with him, and i think thats what im going to do. I am not signing this, even if i did i wouldn't be able to follow it maybe for a few days maybe even weeks if i really try. But the rest of my life? No way. Im 19 nearly 20, Female, l'm "Ms. Gray" moms "Ms. Parris" I clean my room i get stuff around the house done. Maybe its not spotless or super mega clean but its never filthy or unlivable! Ive tried my best. But my best is never good enough.

She also tried to control How much time me and my Boyfriend (Rex, Green) would spend together when he flew dowm to meet me after i attempted to stand up for myself. She tried to take my devices and i just told her she couldn't do that very camley. And she lunged at me and tried to rio them outta my hands. I have them back now, but for how long? Idk. Me and my boyfriend had been planning this trip for four months. And she genuinly thought she had any control

She asked me while i was doing ACT Prep if i wouod be able to handle a job, thinking it was a choice i said no cuz i didnt think i could. Had i know she would pull this i would have told her i could try. I may have struggled but i could probably have done it. Instead when she asked she said ok and i thought that was it.

My friends and my Boyfriend and his mom are all telling me this is abuse and manipulation. That i need to get out, so i am, this has been building up for years. Ive tried talking and its gotten us nowhere. Im scared but im leaving. I'm done

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Liberteer30

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I see a lot of posts on this sub that are just whiny kids or young adults who do need to just get their shit together but this..I mean, yikes. For your own sake, get the hell out.

Core_Of_The_Random

That makes me feel less crazy, thank you.

ayoungad

-10

See I look at this differently. These reads as a kid who needs a push. You don’t put a contract about waking up in the morning, showering and spending time outside with a kid who has their shit together.

I have young kids. You have to set boundaries and make consequences.

Liberteer30

Setting boundaries and teaching your kids consequences are one thing. The “contract” posted is not that. The contract posted is controlling insane behavior.

hicctl

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did we read the same thing ? The mum that demanded OP´s phone, and when told no lunged at op is giving a reasonable push ?

codecamduh

Have fun in the nursing home when your kids go NC❤️

ayoungad

Yes because according to Reddit if you set boundaries with your kids you are an asshole and they will go no contact with you.

youpoopedyerpants

-5

I’m with you. This sounds like someone who has probably reached their wits end in dealing with an adult child who isn’t working, isn’t in school and is treating ADHD like it is a disability that prevents you from functioning in a daily basis and allow you to scoot through life without seeking. While I recognize ADHD as a valid disability that may make these things more difficult, this person is using this as an excuse to be lazy.

If any (most) high schooler can manage high school work, ACT or SAT prep/ test taking and college apps, work a part time job and have a social life, I can’t really get behind an almost 20 year old saying they can’t handle studying for the ACT and working a part time job at the same time.

If they can’t handle ACT prep and a part time job, how are they going to handle the pressure of college learning alone, regardless of anything else happening in life? Or just life at all, honestly?

If her disability is truly this debilitating, she should be seeking support from multiple channels.

She is an adult, but she is also still young and I hope that she is able to figure her situation out with both her ADHD and her familial relationships.

Dropdeadsydney

You sure are assuming a lot about OP’s ADHD. Did you see a comment where she added more backstory or something??

youpoopedyerpants

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Yes, the part where her disability is debilitating enough that she is incapable of working or doing daily tasks but she isn’t seeking therapy, medication, or a disability check.

I’m not being unempathetic regarding OP’s ADHD. I am being unempathetic regarding the fact that OP is a grown adult who is not seeking treatment OR attempting to manage the disability they are using as an excuse.