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I find it weird how people have the expectation that the dating scene should always be great, and when its not people get all whiny 🤷🏿♀️
We got around 8 billion people, just cause one person says ‚but im a good guy/girl‘ doesn‘t mean others will agree
Imo the truth is people give up easily, they go through, yes horrible experiences, and then give up
I blame movies, shows, books and other medias who make it seem as though its all very attainable
I mean who defines what is ‚good‘, you say good guys/gals tend to be single, but what if they aren‘t that. I see posts where people say ‚i have been single and searching 5+ yrs‘ and i call bs on that, unless ofc you are just a horrible person, you probably didn‘t try and go out and talk to people, or at least not very often
I mean I go to cafes, bars etc. and everyone is on their phone 🤦🏿♀️ like what… don‘t expect to be approached if you are on your phone or have headphones in your ears constantly
And you cannot in all seriousness expect dating apps to be your answer, they work for some types of people and not all
Overall, my point is if you have been single for a longass time, chances are its your fault.
I mean hell i am 100% not conventionally good looking as in overweight and dress horribly with no make up ever. And I know being single is my fault bc I let those insecurities prevent me from trying, bc on the rare moments where I do try, it turns out you can meet some rlly neat people along the way.
Honestly I have no idea what dating is supposed to be like, but everyone but me seems to have done it by age 20 or so. Maybe I’m just made uncomfortable by some of the gendered aspects of it, but it just seems utterly impossible.
It seems impossible?
Yes impossible
Is your issue rejection? Or trying to find someone to not reject yourself?
I think I average out 1 rejection a decade.
In what way? You meet someone, they seem interesting, you have coffee or lunch with them, you go forward from there.
Don't be silly. You find it difficult. Maybe you're just not very good at it. It's a skill that takes practice. It certainly isn't anything like 'impossible'.