Posted by u/JannatKiSehzadi in r/meme
The comments are full of quirky boys. It'd be sad if it wasn't so goddamn funny.
Posted by u/JannatKiSehzadi in r/meme
The comments are full of quirky boys. It'd be sad if it wasn't so goddamn funny.
ME AND THE BOYYYYYYYYS*
*who never discuss our feelings or personal lives with each other
EDIT: I do not mean you specifically. Y'all gotta stop responding to this weeks-old comment
I wish I could upvote this 12 times
lol those Woke NPCs(Get back into Manbox)
The paradox of patriarchy
That really depends tbh. I had a friend group in college and we were the boys and we were supportive of each other but at the same time, I also knew that the group as a whole was not the place for some things. I had one friend in it that I was particularly close with and was the one I'd open up about my mental illnesses to and seek support from and I still do. He actually saved me during a suicide attempt even.
I've had friends who are women that are supportive as well, but didn't get quite as close I think. It's easier for men to make friends with each other, but harder to make deeper and more meaningful ones since we are taught to dial down our emotions and vulnerabilities. But when you do find meaningful friendships, they are very powerful. They're usually the ones who pick you up after a bad breakup too. But that depends on everyone and their connections and it's on you to try and establish a greater connection
Bruh IDK y'all just got to make better friends. I can't imagine not being able to tell my friends shit I'm going through because if I can't share that shit with them what's the point?
I'm bipolar and autistic with a history of severe OCD, it's unfortunately just not something most people can wrap their heads around or understand and I often face judgement due to it. I've spent most of my life trying to talk to people about it because it really picked up when I was 9 and a psychologist recommended I be institutionalized at 10 (a simplified version). But "get better friends" is a drastic oversimplification. I've had to learn to hide it from people because it has a good chance of it being used against you or you're fundamentally seen as deficient or even dangerous. That's also part of having mental issues as a man, I believe society is more ableist towards our mental disorders and are more likely to view you in a negative light due to cultural things. There's a reason you see fewer men be open about it. I've tried to make many friends over the years, only a handful have been able to empathize with it and very few properly understand it due to my unique case.
This is also not a rare thing. People don't like talking about the heavy stuff and don't know what to do with it. I'm capable of doing so, so people often come to me with it, but it's a rare trait. At its core you need to be able to understand suffering and despair in your bones and soul and some people can be empathetic towards it but unless you have learned of it yourself, you don't fully understand it. I'm usually the guy people talk to about abuse, assault, rape, mental illness, etc even as a stranger instead of close friends because they know that I "get it".
This is partly true. Only about 20% if men are like that. 60% will discuss serious topics with the boys but not in front of other people.
It isn’t like men get crucified by showing their vulnerability or anything. They should all be more sensitive and share their feelings…. Meanwhile the women start complaining about “where have all the real men gone?”
That seems like a huge reach lol
I wasn’t even being rude when I told another redditor to talk to their friends about their lives and their feelings. I got a bunch of guys telling me that they do.
So why are they so lonely?
I call it the "that bitch eve it's all her fault" phenomenon
They can never keep their bs straight
And get mad about women specifically not being the constant emotional shoulder for men because they need a woman to do the emotional labor instead of having a guy friend apparently
So there is something wrong with platonic friendship between men and women?
Just about to say that 😂
as a guy this hits different
I think it's because they don't talk to them about how they feel, or maybe these are just two different people?
They absolutely are, you just have to avoid all the dominance hierarchy dipshits which is pretty much impossible.
To be fair. The shallowness of male relationships means they usually last longer. There’s less to hurt and less to use against eachother. And less to live up to.
Relationships where you talk about deepe shit opens the door for bigger things to be used against you as ammo. Ergo more harm and more bad shit.
I learned one of my besties was actually a shitty friend. Only because he decided to make fun of me in front of women. That’s like the worst thing a shallow male friend of over 15 years can do to you. Break the bro code.
From a deep relationship perspective? That’s such a mild forgivable thing.
My deepest relationship used the fact my dad offed himself to avoid paying my child support as ammo to attack me. That’s a deep harmful unforgivable thing.
I think that’s where the misconception comes from.
And the need for shallowness because of the assumption that everything will be used against you leads to more shallowness and less emotional help
Who said that’s why we do it? We do it cuz that’s what guys do naturally.
Thinking everyone is going to be exactly who you think will stop you from knowing anyone
Ok but criticise those who make that point then? Responding to a meme about male loneliness by pointing at a completely different point in this way makes it seem like you're as much in the "boys vs girls" mentality as the men you're criticizing.
Men love to talk about male loneliness then refuse to talk about their emotions with friends but still insist male friendships are better
They make a big deal about how a single compliment is so meaningful that they remember it for years, but then you ask them when's they last time they complimented a friend and it's "nah we all just insult each other it's how we talk."
It's internalised sexism and homophobia. Social problems are more complicated than men vs women.
This reminds me how a woman at one point complained how it sucks how she felt like she could not not wear some glothes longer without feeling judged (she went more in detail but I can't remember much) and some "genious" answered "lol only women care about that. Men don't care if you do that".
Sexism is a double sided coin. If women are "emotional" it means that people don't take them seriously. Same rule makes it so that men are not supposed to show weakness or emotion. This kind of environment is abusive and it leaves scars that don't just go away when you leave that specific environment. You will internalise and opress yourself to think that you are only "supposed" to act or behave certain way even if you didn't want to.
And there is nothing wrong with it.
Because compliments from friends aren’t the same, idgaf if my friends think I look good im not atracted to them
Dude really just said the quiet part out loud. Poor helpless lonely boys are starved for attention and just want to be shown some kindness, but it only counts if it's from a hot girl.
Its more like a desire to be wanted, if one of your guy friends says you look good its cool and all but most guys alr know they are wanted for friendship yet much less wanted for relationships, also the girl doesn’t have to he hot just a girl
Men only want people they’re sexually attracted to to compliment them. whereas straight women love when women compliment them or say they look pretty… why idgi
Because women are be default objects of desire. Men want to feel desired and rarely if ever are
Girls compliment each other all the time. Do you think they all want to fuck each other?
Just learn to accept a compliment. It still counts if it isn't from a hot girl. Besides, chances are, if a random person thinks you have nice eyes or a nide shirt, then at least SOME hot girls will think the same.
Entitled
Also refuse therapy or even going to the doctor. Your girlfriends/wives can't help you if you're unwilling to help yourself.
Also refuse to be friends with females unless it’s to get in their pants
To add, I personally am not helping a grown ass man with childish mental issues. They gotta fix themselves before trying to date.
That's because alot of men understandably don't find therapy helpful for them
Men love to talk about male loneliness
To everyone except eachother
Hmmm ☕
Facts, to them “lonely” means not romantically active and/or sexually inactive despite wanting to be, nothing wrong with wanting or being interested in dating & sex with women, but the attitude and way guys go about it is very toxic, especially when they get into the whole “women never get rejected” nonsense
Totally
The entitlement of some of these men is absurd, they legit believe the universe owes them a girlfriend
And it's ironic the same people who complain about things like getting "friendzoned" are probably the same ones complaining about being lonely... like, they could have friends but they only value women for sex
I don't know most people that make an effort to put themselves out there get it reciprocated. Maybe it's just my vibe or attitude but I'm a very open person so people are open back with me. I have a friend that has a pretty underground degenerate job but he told me about it maybe 2nd or third time I ever met him but won't talk about in public to other people. Also I have observed women in friendships and I would rather be insulted to my face than behind my back but that's just me.
It's not that easy for some people, we've been told our whole life that it's wrong to talk about our emotions, that's not something that just dissappears when we realize that's not true.
And it doesn't help that a lot of people both male and female still reinforce that idea both purposefully and without meaning to
I never said it was easy to do, but often women end up being blamed for the male loneliness problem for refusing to date men. Some women can reinforce the issue, certainly, but women in general not dating men is far from the biggest issue with male loneliness.
I'm not sure where women not dating men came from, your original comment talked about men not talking about emotions with their friends and mine was also about that. I'm not even talking about loneliness, I'm talking about stoicism, which yes can contribute to loneliness but are not inherently related
If we are discussing the male loneliness epidemic that is a pretty important part of it to discuss. That is also why my original comment was discussing, the "not talking about emotions" part was just one throwaway contributer to the problem I listed for substance. I would have replaced it easily with "and they say how much they love getting compliments but never compliment their male friends" and make the same point.
That might be a part of it but it wasn't the part that I was replying to, I thought I made it clear enough I was talking about men not being able to talk about emotions
Well its complicated, women have better friendships as far as emotional solidarity goes but men talk way less shit behind eachothers backs and don’t ruin their friendships over small things. Also guys dont form weirdly close relationships nearly as much like girls will kiss eachother and call eachother their “other half” its just weird asf.
As a woman, I gotta say I have never kissed another woman who was a friend (I am a lesbian so I have kissed, like, a literal girlfriend). I don't know anyone who actually does that. I have no idea why dudes made that up. We like, hug more I guess.
Women also don't talk as much shit behind each other's backs as the movies would make it seem, with coworkers they don't like sure but not actual friends they are close with. It can happen but it's not common.
I haven't talked shining behind anyone's back since like middle school lmao, I can't be sure that my friends can say the same but they're not the type of people you'd expect that from
i grew up as a girl and was so unbelievably lonely the entire time so i really don't understand it when men claim that every woman has six billion friends
men think female loneliness is solved by going to a bar, getting fucked by a stranger, and ghosted by them the next morning.
Many men on Reddit also think that women are so lucky for being “complimented” (catcalled and borderline sexually harassed) so often
see how fast their view changes when a gay guy starts hitting on them from across the street
Drowned In attention vs completely starved of it
If a genie could stop all attention you get from happening you might do it but it's not a nice life either
That’s not positive attention though if I could wish to not get catcalled or harassed, yeah, I would do it in a heartbeat and that doesn’t contradict the universal human desire for companionship.
Sure but their point is that men don't get either. So would you choose both negative and positive attention, or no attention at all?
Everyone's answer will differ, everyone's got different standards and values
But the thing is not all women get positive attention so the choice is really negative attention or no attention
at least you can get someone to go home with you!!1! having sex with someone that sees you as a literal piece of meat and not a human being is better than being ignored because you don’t give a shit about your appearance and don’t have basic social skills!!1!1!!
yeah important distinction between being lonely and being alone
Atleast they still bang
But I’m gay so I don’t even bang.
Me too. I’ve been lonely my entire life because of really bad social anxiety, which some men also seem to think women don’t have as bad or exist at all
That really angers me as someone with severe social anxiety. Sounds like they just don’t understand what it is and think social anxiety is just when you feel a little nervous about approaching a stranger, when in reality it is debilitating.
Bu-but, that's impossible! Girls can't be lonely! This meme I posted is proof of that! You must secretly be a guy if you're lonely...
Yep. I used to regularly hide in my closet and sob wondering what was so wrong with me that no one liked me. It's permanently fucked up my life.
Meanwhile the few friends I have had over the years have loved me and tried to make me see myself the way they do.
Are you future me
🫂 Maybe?
I’m holding out for the friends who love me then 😩 because I already have the first half down lol
I don't have many, and they're online. I hope you find even better friends close to home.
Oh my gosh
You might be future me, bc if they’re online I do have friends like that currently
One of my dearest friends I met 21 years ago. Although we've never actually met living in different countries.
I don’t know y’all’s situations but you should try to meet someday
Life is short and the people in it are the most worth it
Same. I sympathize with men’s problems of struggling to open up n stuff but I immediately lose sympathy for the dudes that say women have it so much easier.
Right???
The male gaze is messing them up.
Men look at women more than men (at least that's what I've heard and experienced), so all that looking seems to convince them that they're observant or something. I don't think they realize how looking around most of your day doesn't mean you're not always looking at the same things. So all the girls they don't see are practically nonexistent to them (apparently men will completely be unaware of certain women they don't feel compatible with sexually.) They're the makers of their own false reality (?) Is there any hope for them (?) 😱
Also, they are so convinced that they know everything, and many think women aren't logical because they believe themselves to be perfectly logical and dictators of logical action, from logical thought. That leads them to believe the logical conclusion to be that - if women have logic, they must make the same decisions or choices that I do!" In my experience, they don't notice as much or consider as many things as women, so when women make decisions contrary to theirs they silently validate their misogynistic belief and there we are making better decisions than them and they dont even know. 😶🌫️
Thank you! 🥰
Yeah same with the awful stereotype of "women getting 10000 compliments a day and men get 3 in their life time that they will remember forever". Such bullshit. You know who gets compliments? Pretty girls because ugly girls area waste to them. And even the former only gets catcalled and shit most of the time. Nice "compliments" there. I remember almost every compliment, even ones from over 10 years ago because I received so few that didn't come from my family. I think it's either "Oh they already get so many compliments because they're a girl so I won't say anything" or "Nah there is nothing to compliment"
Yeah thanks to the magic of “the big A” I legitimately couldn’t figure out how to carry on sustained conversations with people until I was like 16, I was miserable as a kid
Same
Is your pfp from the Goshdarn Eltingville Club!?
Yup, makes me wonder if that’s why my ex was never there for me when I was going through depression. Almost as if he saw my depression as a joke because I was a female and attractive. But when he went through depression it was “I have nobody but you, I dOnT hAve aNy fRiends” and “plEase ComFoRt mE”.
death to nuance, i say
Crazy how men always talk about how fake female friendships are yet apparently can't even speak to their buddies about their problems.
I'm sure they'll still find some way to blame women for men being such shitty friends tho.
God you are so close, but apparently lack the empathy to understand other peoples issues
Yeah, no- As a woman, I’ve rarely received support for my mental health from people in my life, and when I do it’s mainly in communities for people who have the same struggles or the person is being paid ( and even then they brush it off )
When it comes to actual psychiatric illness that doesn't get better with a few kind words and "feeling heard" I agree, there's not a lot of difference in how we get treated.
Yeah I’m just told I’m crazy pretty much so 🤷🏼♀️
What
Stop what???
Men when they reap what they sow by reinforcing the status quo that they must be stoic and not open up to their bros otherwise that’s borderline homosexual. Further perpetuating their problem that they’re lonely wah wah wah
You don't understand woman. All men are rival males trying to deprive me of mates. I must distance myself from them, and fight them off whenever possible.
Well yeah lol its not like its just as easy as talking to people for everyone. Alot of people who make memes like this one are in a bad spot with emotional intelligence. This feels like “you don’t open up to your bros? Just do it lol”
That’s the most shit take on a social problem I have ever seen and I’ve seen some shitty takes. We aren’t allowed to talk about are problems and when we do we are mocked (unless it’s with the homies) it’s so bad that the majority of people who commit suicide are men we are more likely to not be diagnosed with depression and when we do say something we are mocked we do lose friends and then we don’t talk about its a vicious cycle that ultimately leads to death
Have you ever heard of a therapist…. It’s their job to take their clients serious so if you really feel that way you can invest in some therapy. “Aren’t allowed” lmao get out of here.
Can’t afford it
I dont know man if it is such a big deal it would be worth it. It is literally your health and life. I provided a solution but complaining on the internet is easier. You are making excuses to further prove this pity party you're throwing. "Not likely to get diagnosed" bruh because you can't invest in getting help.
Listen I have been in and out of therapy for the better part of the last 2 decades. Therapy is helpful, but it's not magic. There is a serious problem in our society with how we are raising me and it is having major impacts on all of us.
"Just go to therapy" is not bad advice it doesn't mean that all the issues leading up to the current crisis of male mental health goes away.
Most boys are actively discouraged and often punished for opening up or being sad as children. It is viewed as weakness. When those boys grow up to be adults they feel shameful for being sad. It is often easier to just isolate than to be open about how they are feeling so they do.
Additionally in relationships they are viewed as weak for being anything but stoic. Toxic masculinity swings both way and it hurts everyone
Personally, I’ve never been told to man up in my life, all of my male friendships have been emotionally fulfilling ones where I feel a sense of brotherhood and feel comfortable sharing my feelings. However, I HAVE had several women invalidate my feelings and call me soft or some shit, or like laugh at me when it looks like I’m about to cry. It’s actually almost never men, funnily enough. I still feel super lonely because just having positive male relationships doesn’t actually fully fulfill most men’s needs.
What
He's had the opposite of the stereotypical responses in reaction to him expressing emotions.
Well good for him he has friends but for some odd reason it’s still not enough . No only women can truly …. Truly , complete a man. That is exactly what is missing and i just hope he can find a woman that he can fill his full load in.
Is this sarcasm?
Eh, friendships can't fill that romantic roll for him. Hopefully he can find someone. Man or woman, I don't judge.
When the topic is literally about loneliness take what you can get, is what I think. As he stated, people can be mean. It is actually a blessing to find people in general who gaf.
I watched my dad degrade my brother for crying to the point that my brother would no longer open up to me and my sisters. It was sad. And my point in saying this is that everyone's situation is different.
The women who bullied you were probably taught by their own parents that men who cry are weak, and also that being weak is only excusable if you're a woman. It is the exact same reason that men bully men for crying. The real crime is the societal belief that crying is weak and feminine. Both men and women fall for this belief.
Both my brother and sisters bullied boys for crying in high school, because of what our dad had taught us. The only reason I didn't was because as a chronic cryer myself, I think I grew up seeing things from a different perspective and having more empathy than them.
All this is to say that neither men nor women are really at fault for men feeling ashamed of their emotions, but rather it is a deeply ingrained societal belief that is emotionally stunting all of us, just in different ways.
I've seen it with both. I find women are usually a bit more open, but sometimes that's Hardline the other way. When I was a young teen my friends step mom laughed at me and called me gay for trimming my ungodly armpit hair.
I don’t blame anything on the boys I’ve dated. And I’m 20, the relationships I’ve had so far were when we were teenagers. We are all stupid and crazy at that age. Live and learn and forgive.
I dont hate men, I hate how gender is constructed in our society.
I don't have much understanding in those relationships but here's my experience
I have seen women whom despised each other genuinely help each other when needed
And as a man I have had one group of friends for 3/4 of my life. They were the type of people whom shared this kind of memes "men have deeper bonds thant women ; men will go through hell for their homie" ect. Thing is when I went through a break up and then was not handling my personal life well. I did not get help or comfort at all. Instead they made fun of me behind my back. Even once one of the group started texting the ex girlfriend of another dude from the group just so he could make fun of him to the girl...
Tldr : people who post/relate these kind of mêmes are not acting accordingly, I guess
I have seen women whom despised each other genuinely help each other when needed
That's interesting, did they turn out to be friends in the end.
Nah still not
Oh damn I'm guessing they hate each over something that was serious and that wasn't petty.
For years I was a terribly lonely woman and it makes me so sad when men act like even this pain has to be exclusively theirs
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE BACK
Some people just want to be victims
I just see it as pathetic.
Wait am I a boy
No. You'd never understand what us men go thro- WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU EXPERIENCE THE SAME SHIT AS US?? THAT'S IMPOSSIBLE!!
No but the only friend who has ever been there for me is a guy lmao
its hard for me to care about the "male loneliness epidemic" when theyre so combative to help.
To all the dudes in this comment section: Talk to your homies every once in a while. Just see how they’re doin. Ask if they wanna hang out. I guarantee the fact that you even thought about them will make their day.
I asked my best friend to help me when I was suicidal, I lost that friend that day
So… they’re mad women have supportive friends?
The fact that most straight men are incapable of being friends with women without being weird is also part of the problem
Not true. It’s easy to see how it might be hard to maintain a friendship with someone you’re attracted to, but a mutually platonic friendship with a woman is just as easy as with a man.
I’m glad it’s not true for you but the women I’ve talked to about it have generally had a different experience
why is he a chad in this situation?
I don't know. No one knows. Maybe it's "cool" and "badass" to have no friends?
Also, I love your username. Canadian Geese are my second favorite animal. They're such adorable assholes.
I think the chad part is supposed to be irrelevant in this meme, it's just that he's a man
Gives schizophrenia meme vibes
You have to be a “man”. Shoulder all that pain alone, and look like nothing is wrong.
Instead of lashing out at women, maybe these men should see a therapist or something
I know a few therapists, used to be friends till they used to take the piss out of the male clients for being pathetic.
Well then those therapists that you definitely know should have their licenses taken away.
Meanwhile they complain women are emotional.
I literally have like no one to confide in. I also have a rare mental disorder so it’s hard to really find anyone who actually gets what I’m saying anyway. It’s so wack that people think human things are like gender exclusive, like just be human.
Im a dude and i wish my friends cared enough to genuinely be interested in me as a person, like asking how my day was and stuff
Same. I feel like constantly switching schools as a kid really fucked up how I get attached to people. Friends disappearing after a year or less has been ingrained in my mind so I think "why even bother getting attached?".
Boys refuse to date for love, only interact online, don’t open up, and try to fix all of this by complaining on Reddit
And men say they have more meaningful and livelier friendships
I feel like theres pros and cons to both women are more emotionaly connected but they also talk hella shit behind eachothers backs and end their friendships over tiny things
i don't know if this was a boy are quirky thing. it seems more like a cry for help.
It’s a cry for help while being sexist at the same time. He’s multitasking
I had a male friend I knew for months and I never even learned his name. But we would talk about tech like 40 minutes a week. I genuinely have no clue what his name is. Male friendships can be so vapid and based solely around common interests. Women will have nothing in common with you on the surface, but everything matches underneath on a deep level and be your best friends
Im a woman and I don't have any friends
"Impossible"
I feel so bad for men uwuwuwuwuuwuwu
I, too, feel bad for people who don't have emotionally-supportive friendships. That's something everyone deserves, regardless of gender.
This meme captures the irony of the “male loneliness pandemic”
And who's fault is that 💀
Aweh you’re right. Men should be there for each other like women are there for each other. Do better, men.
I wonder why boys never communicate their feelings, maybe the societal norm that they’ve grown up with that’s told them they need to be strong, provide for a family on their own, and never show any emotion
What Ive seen alot is men trauma dumping about getting rejected in hs non stop to the point of harassment in hopes of being told a secret to do list on how to get a gf and then when said friend cuts them off for the constant traumadumping, these men say “oh so when I open up, everyone abandons me, well I’m gonna bottle everything inside so people will like me” these men need therapy
We can’t do anything for these men either because these types also are the types to think it’s impossible for women to be platonic friends with men because they only view women as romantic/sexual objects, so why are they blaming us?
It’s kinda crazy that men still can’t see they’re making their own bed. Almost like friendships don’t fall into your lap, you build them.
In the same moment will never make any attempt to form meaningful friendships with people.
Most dudes have friends that are like "bro you can come to me whenever you need it." Then when you actually do they can't handle it or they just get upset. I've settled into a group now where I'm allowed to vent but in reality it's just the nice thing to say and most guys can only handle their own emotions and feel burdened when other people bring up there's.
This is just my experience. Glad I broke away and became more of myself.
@ when some guys get lonely they harass others - mainly women - and that’s the major diff
men insist they're so lonely
men insist their friendships are better than women's
These are two different types of men
I really need to get off of Reddit today. This brain rot is killing me slowly
They did this to themselves with their obsession with being robotic coom brained women hating idiots. Only male exceptions are those who loudly speak against the patriarchal self-oppression and women-oppression plaguing every society to varying degrees.
Hate is learned. Stoicism is learned. Humans of all genders and sexes feel emotions and want deep, meaningful connections.
Love when men shit on the patriarchy as if they didn't create it in the first place LOL you only have yourself to blame babes
That's what happens when they are more afraid of being seen as weak or girly instead of just talking to their friends, family or therapists about their problems anyways. Not our fault if they choose not to nor can we force them to, it's up to them to share their problems with others.
Us women just don't care that society sees us as too emotional as we're used to hearing that (really we are not, just more open about our feelings) and share our problems more often as a result as we aren't afraid to talk to others.
Just wanted to share my experience, I was told starting from like birth that I should hide my emotions, which I think played a part in me being a loner for much of school. I’ve tried reaching out to fellow classmates, but nobody cared. I was told to “man up!” and “make friends!” which is very hard when you’re being told to actively shut up about your feelings. Literally, I was told by a middle school counselor that my feelings were unwanted and nobody wanted to hear about it. I was the butt of many dares, like “oooo I dare you to talk to him!” or “ooo, I dare you to say hi to him!” by both boys and girls. It culminated when a girl asked me out one time, and I accepted, only for me to have my hopes dashed, my phone number blocked, and the voice memo of the conversation posted to social media.
I attempted suicide. I would have succeeded, if not for the moldy rope snapping under the weight of my fat, stupid body. I was rushed to a hospital by a passerby that noticed me lying on the ground unconscious (I had taken sleeping pills beforehand to try and ease the pain, I wasn’t very smart). Oh yeah, the girl who posted the video took it down quietly and last time I checked she’s a single mother making conspiracy theory videos on TikTok. Very cool. I’m in therapy right now, and I’m not suicidal anymore, but this experience fucking sucks man. To think that I would have died if I was just a few pounds lighter is unsettling, to say the least. I’m glad that I have hobbies, but it’s still very hard for me to speak out about my issues. Honestly, I think the part that was hardest was no one ever caring. I have a job interview after the New Years, and I really REALKY hope that I can make genuine friendships in work, and not where I’m a burden. Thanks for reading my glorified traumadump, it wasn’t easy to write this. Idk why I did this in the first place, but I felt like this post helped me vent.
I'm so very sorry to hear that. I can't imagine being told by everyone that your feelings don't matter, especially from a school counselor. You're doing the right thing being in therapy, and I hope that it's helping you.
I've struggled with (and still am struggling with) suicide a lot. This year has been the worst year of my life and I'm being abused by my father after moving out of my mother's home where she abused me too.
I also have no friends at all like you. I've moved so much that my status quo is "Get into a new job, make friends with everyone, and then vanish without a trace when you need to move". It's very hard, especially when I self sabotage and don't keep friendships up.
You'll make friends at your new work if you try. But don't make the mistake of ditching them if you have to switch jobs or something like I always do. Your life is looking up and getting better, and while you'll always hate the bad parts of your life, know that it can only get better. Keep on fighting.
There is a tomorrow, you will be there to see it, and the world is a better place with you in it. So please stay.
Yeah because they're so toxic to each other on purpose and don't get to express any emotion that isn't anger or a joke within their friend groups
Live with the consequences of your actions/words.
They may not have created the patriarchy etc from the beginning but many of them sure are encouraging it on purpose
idk.. this one kinda has a point...
men are really discouraged from expressing certain things. Its really hard to be seen the same after you admit some weakness even if its amongst people who have good intentions and say you can open up about anything.. Its a social problem we havent really tackled yet.
not saying its harder to be a boy or anything. Dont get me wrong... just that all the social incentives are there to prevent you from opening up about anything that could make you look weak.
Bro it's literally true, we have nobody. We try to tell anyone, it makes them uncomfortable, we tell our mates and they care for a while, but it never really does anything. Downvote me if you want, but men have no support, and from experience opening up to a female friend, she laughed in my face. Nobody cares, I saw a comment saying that we uphold these beliefs, that's because of the constant mockery and fear of rejection from others, we have nothing because we have to be everything.
I'm a man and I have a little sister, and my upbringing was exactly like this; it seriously damaged me emotionally and I'm know it happened to a lot of my male friends...
but why the fuck would any one blame women for this? In my case, the reason was 100% Toxic Masculinity -- that my father was convinced by propaganda to emotionally abuse me so that I "grow up tough" or some bullshit. The fact that men do this to each other and then blame women is beyond irrational.
Aww, dont make fun of this, I think they were just sad that its ok for girls to be vounerable with eachother, but not for boys.
OP's either a girl or a catfish. The username means "Princess of Heaven".
Why is she posting this lmao
JannatkiShezadi? Is OP a woman or a weird guy?💀
Maybe men and women misunderstand each other.
Y’all fighting these “all women” posts with “all men” comments is just putting y’all on a pedestal instead of acknowledging that we’re doing the same shit.
Men are conditioned to be surface level in their emotions just like women are conditioned to only show the emotions that society deems as acceptable.
I know i’m in a really bad subreddit to preach this, but if y’all want to enjoy relationships with people regardless of gender, we have to stop making shit up about others and pretend we understand.
It's not 100% wrong. Many guys are raised being told to man up instead of talking about their feelings. Including me, but I don't think that im lonely personally. If I ever have any emotional issues I just talk to one of my girl friends.
Women: How do I make this about me
Jesus Christ y'all need help. Everyone in the comments trying to rip men over things like this is ridiculous. Toxic masculinity exists for everyone. And it's difficult to break away from for everyone. The same people here complaining that men don't talk to anyone sound exactly the same as the people who would lose their minds over men crying. Don't believe me? Don't care, you're part of the problem not the solution. Women don't understand men the way they think, and men certainly don't understand women. Mental health and keeping things to yourself is a terrible epidemic for far too many people. How about instead of bashing people over nothing we all agree that there is too much stigma preventing people from being open and vulnerable?
they probably deserve to be alone in experience.
wtf does being lonely have to do with "deserving," it can happen to anyone lol
Well if the choice is between loneliness and you..
We are, I mean boys are lonelier than they have ever been according to the studies.
*everyone is lonelier than ever before it’s not just a boy thing, not drastic it’s about the same a little more
You’re misinterpreting what he said and picked a vague article lol
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And in the same breath will claim men have better friendships than women.