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Being real honest…depends on how your weight is distributed and if your face/hair fit the bottle girl aesthetic.
I’m dark skinned, so not the ideal. I’d need a wig as well.
Girl you being dark skinned has absolutely nothing to do with this or this comment. It's about being evenly distributed, heavy top-small mid-heavy bottom. Or curvy, or well porportioned, you get it. Alongside, do you have confidence, is your make up good? Are you pretty? All of these has nothing to do with your skin tone.
My makeup is okay. I mostly do natural looks. I’m around average in looks. I’ve been rated a 4 on Reddit. My body is okay. My measurements are 40-33-44 so I’m bottom heavy and wear a 34DDD.
Why do you want to be a bottle girl other than paying off debt? Do you aspire to be sexy and gain attention for your looks? There are other high paying heavy tip jobs, bartender, waitress, server, food delivery and cleaner.
For debt payments, maybe you can consider the debtfree sub and get some suggestions there. I am in the same boat with student loans and business loans so I get it.
OP, this is the comment I really hope you see.
If Reddit rated you a 4 your probably at least an 8, if this is something you want to do find a stylist you like on styleseat, get a great outfit and go for it
Plenty of dark skinned bottle girls with natural hair.
Don’t down yourself. There is nothing wrong with being dark skinned and it doesn’t make you less attractive than anyone else sis.
It depends on your proportions honestly. If the weight is in your hips, butt, and boobs you’ll get a slide. Master hair and makeup as well, it’ll bump you up to a solid 8. Lastly look into Afro clubs, they’re usually more inclusive.
Afro clubs is truly sending me 😭😭😭😭😭😭 what
Just my personal experience. When I go to African clubs, the bottle girls look very different. I can’t say the same for other clubs.
You’re not wrong! Def more inclusive……but It’s the name that’s so……..idk
idk if this is what you meant, but afro is like an actual term lol like…afro music, afro beats…that’d be the type of club it is
like people refer to certain clubs like a hip hop club or rnb club, etc. just specifies more
Afrobeats club. genre club. Afro club doesn’t make no sense. No one calls it that cause it sound off. I know what she meant but yeah afrobeats club
I’ve seen both/both are used…one is shortened, saying afrobeats isn’t necessarily necessary in this context
Got it. But yes African spots are more inclusive.
When referring to African-American clubs we say Black Club not Hip-hop Club. You’re being obtuse on purpose. Just because you don’t know a word doesn’t mean it’s not used.
Aht aht I’m black (African) and I’ve lived in multiple states in the Us and have never heard of Afro club. (Was my only point - I did not say it doesn’t exist. If you call them Afro clubs wherever you stay well and good. News to me but noted 👍🏾) I’ve heard of black clubs yes I’ve heard of afrobeats club, hip hop club, reggae club. I’m not being obtuse and I listened to what the other person had to say. The downvotes don’t bother but let’s not act like I’m not making sense either…nonetheless not the point of the conversation so I will not be commenting further. Have a good day!
Ooo Afro clubs I’ll look into. Are those African, like Nigerian or Ghanaian ?
I’m bottom heavy and medium sized boobs. My measurements are 40-33-44
Yes, Ghanaian and Nigerian clubs,. You would definitely get a job quickly in a city like Houston or Dallas. Maybe even Atlanta. But the women in Atlanta are solid 10s, you would definitely have to put your best foot forward 😭
Danced and was a bottle girl in the A… can confirm!
I dunno if a 33DDD counts as "medium sized boobs"...
Only if it’s distributed like a coke bottle. Big hips, butt, and breasts. Definitely will have to meet their beauty standard since there is a superficial hiring criteria.
Hair laid, make up laid. Otherwise look into serving
I can do my makeup well enough and I can always go get a wig. I’m not extremely curvy though. My measurements are 40-33-43, so I’m more of a pear and wear a 34DDD.
That sounds curvy enough. If you want more, perhaps look into shape wear?
def curvy! pear shapes and hour glass shapes are considered “”ideal””
Based on your comments, you really don’t sound like you’re in the head space to work in events/nightlife, especially as a bottle girl. It’s a hotbed for creeps looking for insecure & impressionable young people.
Baby there's someone for everyone. Go get that money!
Sadly, anything based around satisfying the straight male gaze and patriarchal beauty standards is most likely going to lead towards high discrimination against anything that falls out of that image. Toxic really.
That is a lot of debt at 28 though, student loans? Have you looked into the financial subs around here? They’ve been decent advice honestly
Only 20k is student loans and the rest is from a lot of bad decisions and health issues.
I imagine it’ll be pretty toxic to get into that line of work. But it seems to fit my requirements at this moment.
You can in Texas. Especially dallas & Houston! Most of our bottle girls are thick
And in a lot of Atlanta clubs too.
The answer is yes. The question is where.
Look for a place who serves clientele who would be into you.
Rule #1 Camouflage that insecurity right now. If you don’t then the first time you make an error in front of a customer that is the first thing they will zero in on.
Keep in mind, in some places “thick” is not sought after.
There are also additional ways to rid oneself of debt.
Go for it! I don’t know if you must audition but do everything you can to succeed. You’re a bootstrapper. I admire that.
Do you know anyone who has done this before? If so, then please ask them how they made it.
I have a few friends who are strippers but they’re very thin.
Not to worry.
Some clubs have different nights for different body types.
Also, thin is subjective.
Have any bartending experience? Why not go that route?
Hey 👋🏾 girl. Quick warning ⚠️ I know social media has made sw and sw adjacent jobs look easy and come with fast money, but it is neither. It's not just a hustle, it's a job that requires some hustle. Moving right along...I work in an adjacent field and what I'll tell you is, you'll never know unless you try. Don't be afraid of rejection and check out the places you're interested in working. Go on their social media page. What type of women do they post? It'll give you an idea of the aesthetic they're looking for. As well, try a small place until you get your bearings. Please remember, being a bottle girl is sex worker adjacent, so expect to deal with the same bull shit as strippers. If you've never touched this industry at all, I'd advise you to do some lurking on reddit and make sure you've a thick skin. Most places prefer white/ thin or latina/ thick, but that's not saying there isn't a place just for YOU. And if you can bartend, that's a major plus. Good luck!
Edit: I know the light bright aesthetic isn't popular everywhere. I'm from NYC and that's all they are checking for. And by they, I mean club owners. The patrons on the other hand, they love it all 😆
It really depends on the club. I’ve noticed a lot of white clubs want super thin, big chested, fair skinned women. The black clubs are more likely to have bigger girls but it really depends on how you look and what they want. Just do some research on the clubs in your area and see if there are any girls with a similar body type
Not if you have an apple, rectangle, or triangle body type. Skin tone has absolutely nothing to do with whether someone is beautiful or not.
Tbh, as a lifelong nightlife person, it doesn’t sound like you really have the confidence for that job. You’d make more as a stripper.
Post a pic
You'd probably have an easier time and make more money either cocktail waitressing or bartending. Weight aside, you're kinda aging out of being a bottle girl. Most stop by 25-27.
Depends on what age they look like.
I definitely look early 20s, if not still in high school. I’ve had a security guard at the mall ask me where my parents were two years ago.
I’m 39 and could easily pass for early 20s. You’re probably more than likely just fine.
Eh, not true. In both stripping and bottle service the 25-35 range is where you make the money if you still have the looks.
The hell is a bottle girl and why does everyone know but me?!
160 lbs is fat to you??
Shes 5'2" ... im not going to call her fat at all but I can see why she thinks she's a little bigger according to her height.
Yeah I am 5’1 & used to be around the same weight && used to consider myself fat as well. But girl you’re THICK!!
Everyone says I’m thick as hell or phat (old school !)
Period, bc you are.🫶🏾‼️ && I think you’ll be a great bottle girl. Hopefully size doesn’t matter tbh!
I think so. My stomach is so big to me
My stomach is big to me too. But after seeing a pic of myself from a front view, it doesn't look big from that angle. Other people would probably have a flat stomach bc my waist is defined compared to my hips. You put your measurements and said you're an hourglass/pear shape and that seems about right based on the ones you posted. Do you think maybe ppl don't notice you have a stomach bc of this?
That sucks if weight is a problem for getting hired for that occupation.
I swear I had the same thought 😭
No literally when I was 5’3 170lbs, I was barely chubby. Not even close to fat
Because we're all built differently, the weight is distributed differently.
True
Don't let these fake as hell beauty standards control how you see yourself. 5'2 160 isn't fat and you wild for calling yourself a 4 or 5. Fuck that 1-10 rating system. You are as beautiful as you feel and there is no quantifying that. Don't let these filters and fake bodies have you thinking crazy. Develop a budget, call the people you are indebted to and see if they will work with you.
Can you reference a well known person (celebrity, influencer, w/e) that you may favor in physicality?
I’m sorry if I sound lame but what’s a bottle girl
just be a server
Im 5’3 and ~170 lbs and im no where near fat. It just depends on how you carry your weight
I told my (ex) boyfriend that I felt like I was fat. He laughed and told me it was all in my ass.
I would say I’m bottom heavy and have okay boobs.
5ft2in at 160 is not fat. You’re going to look back in your late 30s and 40s and realize how beautiful you were. Besides, I would think the south would like a thicker woman. (I could be wrong)
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$20,000 is not a lot in student loan debt. I have ten times that from an unfinished grad degree. Have you looked at the new student loan payment programs available like SAVE? Also, there's the public service loan forgiveness program. You have other options. There's so much hiring going on and you have at least some college education, if not a degree. You can find a remote job. Or you could teach English in Spain and only work 14 hours per week. Please look at ALL your options. 🙏🏾
Nah
Why not
I just wonder if it’ll affect your money. I am absolutely sure you’re slightly confident and won’t let comments get you down but that line of work is very visually oriented. Even if girls don’t say anything, they’ll give you looks. If your face card is ridiculously beautiful you can get away with anything. If you have the full package your size doesn’t matter.
If you don’t have unwavering confidence, I wouldn’t recommend. Women can be horribly mean POV: worked as a bottle girl, brand ambassador and hooters girl in the past
Nah, I’m alright looking. Not especially beautiful but I can clean up okay.
Then go for it.. fuck what anyone says
Yes
Hey friend, I think it depends on the establishment and what aesthetic and vibe they are going for. Apply and see what happens! Good luck! 🍾🥂
160 isn’t fat at all girl! Ur thick! I’m ur height and used to be 150 and would always get complimented on my body. Lost a lot of weight due to stress and now I miss the ass I had. Sounds like you got it so go ahead and flaunt it if you want to!
Simply lose weight
It’s a work in progress. I was 180 last year and wearing a 34H bra and that was hell.
Oh sorry op if I sounded rude lol I was just suggesting and yeah ofc it takes time and progress
This is such a strange comment
This person always has something sus to say
Why she’s asking for advice and stating she’s fat so what’s the logical solution?
Y’all just like to sugarcoat, sorry op
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