People using our illness against us

You called them out and they are punishing you for it.

This emotional abuse is what sends me into an episode. It is not just invalidating, it is an attack. It is a an intentional smear campaign. This person is a crazy maker and they know exactly what they are doing, why they are doing it and what impact it will have on you. This is a person that will use anybody’s anything against them to manipulate a situation in their favor. You are just the latest target.

This is an abusive person. I’ve found blunt honesty shuts it down by acknowledging, dismissing and apologizing to the listener for having to have to listen to it. I leave it alone until it is brought up, my response is delivered with a weary voice: Oh, yeah, I called so-and-so out. So-and-so is having a temper tantrum. I am sorry so-and-so dragged you into it.

Sometimes it is just left there. But usually the other person will start griping about so-and-so too. You would need to modify and personalize it to work for you. I hope you find the solution that works best for you. Hugz