I know it’s not a gendered issue per ce but I’ve noticed that in my limited exposure everyone who’s claimed abandoning masking is easy has been a woman and it got me thinking if men and women have different relationships with masking
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What are you you all like when you mask? What are you like when you unmask?
I am a woman, but for me it's like that: When I mask I am very nice, very attentive, very agreeable and bubbly. And I smoke like a train. I am people pleasing like an idiot-champion. But that only goes so far ... When the mask inevitably comes off after a long time of masking I am kind of an asshole, very short tempered and utterly uninterested in people.
But since I make an effort to not mask I am weird, very kid-like and off-putting for many people. Too much and too little at the same time. But I feel so much better and the people that are really important to me like me way better without my "perfect girl" mask. I came to the conclusion that my mask was never really good with the people that are close to.me anyhow lol
But strangers loooooved my mask, such a pretty and nice little lady ya know.
Thanks for explaining things. That sounds exhausting, masking! To hell with other people. I think that most people will always be to judgemental, critical, picky & impossible to please most of the time, so unless you’re in a situation to where masking would help you avoid any problems like at work, then just be you. Your loved ones accept you as you are, so that’s good.