Scene that stays with you even still

I don't know if this is the best example but what first comes to mind is when David, Keith, Durrell and Anthony are sitting around the dinner table and Keith announces future vacation plans for the 4 of them as a family (I think Mexico and skiing somewhere?).

As well it possibly being their first vacation (which is exciting in itself), it also let the boys know that after years of neglect and instability, that this is their forever home - the looks on their little faces really warms my heart :)

When Claire leaves LA and she sees Nate running besides her car. He keeps up, but eventually, he fades away as she passes him. Brings tears to my eyes.

>! when bettina is trying to comfort ruth after nate passes and she tries to convince her to take more medication and ruth says “i dont want more pils i want my son back” !<

“You can’t take a picture of this it’s already gone” That scene and that quote stays with me everyday.

Brenda? I know the scene and it hits me, too. Close to me is her and Billy trying to watch the terrible kids video and he goes from mild mania to crushing depression. He says "I'm so damaged." It's really haunting and rings true to a fellow person with bipolar disorder.

The scene where Nate remembers seeing those (Sicilian?) women weeping and wailing over a dead relative. It really made me think about the ways we express and repress our grief.

The episode where the woman dies alone at home and Ruth later that day has dinner all by herself, alone.

>! Nate burying Lisa. Devastating. !<

The scene where we flashback to Nate crying in his room because Kurt Cobain just died and the scene where he describes how the women on the island mourn their dead live rent free in my head.

Nate's/David's dream from season 5 episode 9. There's a really good essay about it here.

Side note: you should try mindfulness! I learned about it in therapy. Just start with five minutes a day observing and thinking about what you see. Or when doing any activity just focus completely on what you are doing with no distractions. It's very calming. I also spend a lot of time observing myself instead of really living.

Nate burying Lisa

Brenda’s dream about Billy. It still shocks me that they added that scene 💀

I always tear up whenever I remember the scene where Ruth is about to marry George, then suddenly Nathaniel's ghost appears to her, crying.

No one mentioned my favorite scene!

In the season 4 finale, David visits the car-jacker in jail. The next day, he wakes up and has a conversation with Nathaniel Sr. while they watch the rain. His dad says “you hold onto your pain like it means something … infinite possibilities and all you can do is whine … you can do anything, you lucky bastard, you’re alive!”

This scene touches me. My worst bully from high school died when we were 23. I’m 30 now and I’m still haunted by his terrorizing.

But I’m alive. He’s not.

when claire imagines nate saying "i spent my whole life being scared, and where did it get me?"

it really spoke to me. because i'm a 21 y/o who has always been too scared to do anything with my life

The death of Aaron Buchbinder ( the young man Nate was visiting ). It’s just really haunting

Season 1, episode 13 "Knock, knock"

Funeral for Tracy's aunt that got hit by the golf ball from the country club nearby (swung by Mitzie Dalton Huntly 😂), with the cute little corgi next to her. Towards the end of the episode when the actual funeral starts, Rico searches for Nate to tell him that Tracy is being weird and won't come down for the service. He finds her and she goes on about her story about how much she loved her aunt and such. She pauses for a minute...

Tracy: "Why do people have to die? " Nate: "...To make Life important."

Something about the way Tracy is so sad yet stoic as she asks such a rhetorical question, and somehow he intuitively replied. Despite her mostly being annoying in all other interactions with everyone, in that moment it's surprisingly easy to forget.

When Claire is looking for her dad’s grave and Nathaniel guides her to this party (carnival?). She then meets up with her dead ex boyfriend Gabriel Dimas. Later she meets up with Lisa and the baby Claire aborted. 

The scene where David is dreaming and Nate runs into the ocean and then he wakes up to the beeping and Spoiler. It just randomly pops up for me all the time. I think because I was thinking what a stupid scene it was because it was this light funny scene at the end of this dark episode and then BOOM. It shocked me and I think it is how that moment of depth of how death feels.

🎶 "Youuuuu ride up my thighs...." 🎶 Anytime I'm wearing constricting clothing 😂

I don’t know why but always loved the scene that was flashback to Rico’s dad’s funeral and he sees what Nathaniel did to transform his father’s dead body and Rico’s whole life path is suddenly revealed and the AMAZING subtle acting from Nathaniel, who Rico turns to amazed and he just holds his gaze. Love

The scene in the finale close to the end where Claire gets the new that the company was sold and that she lost her job. The entire way that scene was directed and flowed together just made it one of the best in the series. Plus the great music choice they used in that scene as well.

Nate, S1E9: “You can punch as many people as you want, it's not gonna change the fact that boy is dead. And your chance to be in his life is over. Did you use that time well, or did you just piss it away? Your own fuckin' life is a ticking clock too. Everybody's is.”

From the very beginning, Nate’s feelings about death disturbed something within me I had repressed as a child.. likely to cope with my own uncertainty towards death. Hell, the first episode being his father dying?? My first fear, ever—and it was the gateway drug to realizing everyone, and everything I knew would be gone one day!

No amount of consulting my friends or family helped. How could everyone?? Be okay with that??

This show, scene, or even episode, specifically, didn’t give me some kind of magical closure, either, but Nate’s being suffocated by death, irregardless of how many funerals he holds, for his friends or family, or for many others, hits home, to put it simply. No amount of justification satisfies the grieving process, and the fact of the matter is that.. we are all going to die someday. “Some of us live to be a hundred, some of us never make it through our first day.” You can cope with it, or not, but the grief will always follow (as represented horrifically well through the rest of the family, and community after Nathaniel’s death).

A final note, as it is a huge spoiler.. As someone who didn’t have.. a Great childhood, being present as an adult has taken a huge effort on my part, and I Still feel the Need to live a life I’m proud of. I want to do more, be more, all while taking better care of myself to make up for the neglect I dealt with… Thus, >! Nate passing so suddenly.. before his mother, his younger siblings, and the family he had previously fought so hard for.. !< It cemented the resolve, the true message of the show—memento mori. Every single moment is unimaginably precious, because at the end of the day, memories are stars in our minds. Some may burn out quicker than others, but sooner or later, everything alight in our body burns out.

So, live today. Live tomorrow, if you can. But don’t forget—you’re not entitled to it.

A lot of great ones listed here! There are so many impactful/emotional scenes that stand out to me (the scene with Gabe’s little brother wrecks me. That they don’t show anything makes it even more powerful)but two of the more comedic ones:

First time we meet Billy and he comes weeping through the kitchen looking for olives (pickles? I dunno) I burst out laughing and related oh so hard.

Also the Rapture scene where the women dies chasing after the blow up sex dolls. “Oh Lord! Why didn’t you take me? Why am I left behind?” (Paraphrasing) I laughed until I cried honestly.

They do humour with underlying sadness better than anyone.

Other than the final ending sequence — the scene that always stuck with me is Ruth bathing Nate’s corpse as he lays on the table in the basement. As a parent that hurt me to my core.

The episode where Nate has brain surgery and we see an alternate timeline and future for him where he has massive brain damage post-surgery and David is showing him flashcards with everyday images but he cannot form the words. It is so sad. 💔

You don't really like me.

You're not for me

Jesus, Keith I look at you and all I can think is I want you to be whatever it is you wanna be between now and the day that you die.

You look at me and all you see are problems.

And I'm so fucking SICK of it!

Why should I stand for this?

Why should this constant abuse be what I call love?

The soldier who still thought his time in the army was something to be proud of, rather than seeing the army as his slow torturous executioner.

Very first episode: David's imaginary scream at the funeral. I think about that when I'm feeling overwhelmed as hell and can only express myself in my head

Fish and Coop this fall on ABC

I love love love Ruth and Bettina - dancing at Ruth’s birthday party, shoplifting together, going on their hike and Ruth tells her about The Plan and Bettina doesn’t judge. And their horse riding in Mexico drunk and laughing

The scene with Tracy Monstrose Blair and Nate at the end of Season 1.

The “why do people have to die”? scene.

The finale sequence, for sure. Such an amazing song choice too. 10/10.

Random scene, but Claire talking about men and cunnilingus with her friends. It was strange in a realistic way...I'd seen women talking about sex before like in sex and the city but that was always over the top. For a minute watching SFU I felt like I was watching reality TV. And they were talking about sex in a way that was humorous and kind of innocent.

Another is Brenda sorta bonding and sorta hating on her mom when she attacked that woman outside the "tranquility" Spa...aside from the comic relief, it's a scene that shows Margaret actually has some deep insight into Brenda and knew exactly how to trigger her. "Once in a blue moon people bring out the best in each other, but mostly they bring out the worst."

Sad that most characters ended up proving this maxim.

S5E11 'static' The scene where Claire is at Nate's gave grieving and talking to him. He tells her to 'Stop listening to the static'. It was a turning point in Claire's life. I personally also took a lot from that line.

The scene in the pilot episode where Ruth loses it at Nathaniel’s funeral and David tries to calm her and Nate says no, let her grieve.

Prayer circle in the ‘Familia’ episode. “Lord bring peace to them in their grief. As you have in ours.”

The dream with Nate’s dad, god and Satan was interesting and sticks with me

David seeing Lisa body…what’s left of it…

Some scenes that I randomly think about all the time:

• "WATERWORLD! WATERWORLD!"
• Rapture lady riding Nate like a pro
• "There... Barf" engagement ring toss
• Rico saying "Ecotone"
• Barb's beautiful eulogy for Lisa
• NARM
• Ruth's epic freakouts
• Bettina mocking Arthur "Uh oh! I swallowed my tongue"
• Claire's "What a little moonlight" number and the pantyhose song
• The crazy tattoo on the serial killer's daughter

Clair driving west, and everything else happening in between the scenes where she's driving. Ugly cried the whole time. Perfect song too.

The scene with David on his knees by the bed praying for God to fix his gayness.

The entire family that died in a car crash in the opening death scene and the completely numb look on the surviving teenage son's face while planning the funeral of his parents and siblings.

There are so many! But I always think of Brenda visiting Billy in the hospital after he tries to cut her tattoo out. He’s just sitting looking out the window as he apologizes and he says “I hate that my blood makes me crazy”… I like that line and he just looks so crushed and lost, beautifully acted

Just yesterday I flashed back to the scene where Nate is out running and a bus passes by. His dad is looking out the window at him with the saddest look on his face. Richard Jenkins is an amazing actor.

After Keith and David break up they meet up at church. Keith tells David when he first saw him he thought he was beautiful. David gets embarassed and says "stop." Then Keith says (paraphrasing here) "Don't you know I find you beautiful and funny and sweet? Well I do."

When Claire gives David a picture of himself in front of a fire after he was basically taken hostage by a meth addict. There has never been a more affirming gift for someone with PTSD. He’s seen hell, now.

As a first time watcher who just recently finished I have a few that really just stuck with me

I appreciate just the scene of Nathaniel Sr death. The pilot comes out starting with a bang. The impact of it shaken me honestly even still thinking about it, makes you even more cautious driving. Ruth’s and the entire family reaction. Making me realize that how much we all remember exactly where we were when we first hear the news of someone’s death.

Claire walking through the carnival heaven with her father. Specifically, her ex Gabe’s younger brother telling him he has to go to the restroom. It’s innocent and so cute it made me laugh because he’s passed and the fact that he has to go to the restroom still? lol like they really live and function normal up there huh? I instantly remember his passing literally making my heart sink, he was so young. Gabe having to tell Claire that he’ll see her later, Claire coming to terms with him being crossing over just like his brother, her father, her aborted child.

The lady who commits suicide in her car by turning it on in the garage. The events leading up to it were so heartbreaking.

Nate burying Lisa was beautifully depicted

In the episode where the biker passes away and has a funeral. There's a scene to close out the episode with Nate riding his motorcycle down the freeway, while 'Don't Fear the Reaper by Blue oyster cult is playing.

That scene stuck with me. Made me remember just how short life really is, and how important it is to make memories and make the most of our time while we're here.

When George got David the Netti pot.

Ruth seeing her sleeping self in the afternoon and she's chiding herself to wake up!

Write what you know. That’s the formula that works for Brenda’s team it doesn’t work for us anymore.

The finale segment where they all die

One funny, one heartbreaking

Ruth to Nate after Lisa died (I’m paraphrasing) ‘I’m trying to pull you up but it’s like you’ve strapped on lead boots’

And ‘Jean Tripplehorn’

The end of S2E2 when Nate tells David about his AVM diagnosis.

At the end of The Plan, Claire finally comes clean about Gabe. Kieth is just so patient and kind with her. Making David fall for him that much more.

I was shocked nobody said this yet, but when Nate goes to confront Hoyt about the picture of Lisa and he offs himself. This scene made my jaw drop, from his wifes face to realizing what happened to Lisa, this scene will always stick with me.

"A lady wears red, she means business...."

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