Me 35 F Brother 38 M Could genuinely do with some advice. Have a family member who believes every repugnant idea you can name,. Recently going into holocaust denial, Jews run the world. Absolute opposite of anything we were brought up with, . extremely racist, homophobic etc. the whole q anon type beliefs. Have as little to do with them as possible.
We are a small family, just two siblings and parents. Our parents will always love him obviously. They try to fight back, but it is just a losing battle. Has used drugs heavily for 20 years, and they believe this is some sort drug induced psychosis.
He can not be spoken to. The most innocent conversation ends with him screaming and shouting. He can get quite threatening, hitting things, slamming etc. I am starting to really fear for my parents having him in their house.
Is there anyway to get through to him? I love and miss the person he used to be, but I'm afraid he doesn't exist anymore. I would also appreciate resources to provide to my parents if anyone has recommendations.
I'm so sorry you're seeing this happen to someone you love.
You can't fix him. You can't rewire him to be addiction-free or more amenable to intervention. And it sucks, I know the helpless feeling well.
You can just be that person he feels safe coming to, as long as you are safe around him. Your first priority needs to be you. Your environment, your mental health, your energy, and any other person you hold near and dear.
Your family may benefit from Al-Anon or a similar group who can give coping strategies without codependency. You're not alone.
I wish I had some easy strategy for you, and I'm worried for all of you. Please protect yourself as best you can.