Why does everyone act like a dad deserves a medal for doing the most basic childcare? Why do dads receive so much praise and moms just get criticism? I know that this is not a new topic, but today it really got to me just how unfair it really is.

We recently went on vacation with our one year old that also included his first flight that was quite challenging as it also was at night. So our son had trouble falling asleep and I tried nursing him to sleep, which didn't work. So my husband and I took turns standing in the airplane aisle with the babycarrier so the little guy could sleep. When we got home, my husband continued to tell the story with the words "and then I had to stand in the aisle with the baby carrier" as if it was just him who did that. The first time this happened I corrected him in a funny, not serious way. But he kept doing it and today when he told his mother and brother the same story, I got angry and corrected him in quite a harsh way. He apologised and acknowledged it, but his mother and brother promptly jumped in and told him not to apologize to me, because "he's always such a good dad and it really doesn't matter anyway". Well, it matters to me and I just feel like everything I do for out son is taken for granted but when dad does it, he gets all the praise. So yeah... I guess this is just a rant about an old topic, but I really needed to get this off my chest.

Edit: Thank you all for your comments and the perspective you provided! We just talked about everything after his mother and brother left - which I realize now would have been the more grown up way to deal with it anyway. My husband didn't mean to make me look bad with his way of telling the story, but for my ears he made it sound like I had a nice relaxing flight while he did all the work. Which was not at all what he was trying to say! I guess I got mad because whenever I complain about something baby related (which I don't do often) I get an answer along the lines of "but you wanted kids, that's just what it's like" and when he does he gets praise and sympathy - but that does not mean that he does not deserve it!