Do you ever feel it’s too late to become a mum?

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A five month wait between my last retrieval in April and first transfer in September because my clinic couldn’t fit me in!

I am turning 42 in September and even if everything goes well I would be 43 when the baby is born 😥.

It scares me to think that when he turns 30 I’d be well over 70! How much quality time will I have with him, will I become his burden when he’s just starting out his life and career? It’s going to be a high risk pregnancy and he’s more likely to be born with birth defects because of my age 😢.

These thoughts honestly makes me want to give up on the transfer and give up being a mum. It’s too late in life and I feel too tired…

in IVFby Intrepid-Athlete-729

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Age is just a number and future isn’t guaranteed for anyone. I’m 42 with a 17 month old. My cousin died at 37 leaving behind her young children. I could die tomorrow or live to be 90.

I love being an old mom and would do it again in a heartbeat. Never too late

Pancakesandmuffins

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Thank you for this. My husband is older than me (46) and TW: we had our first a year ago. I’d love to have another but his age is really making me second guess everything. And I needed to see this. Thanks 🙏

Intrepid-Athlete-729

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How’s your husband doing? My husband is 43 now turning 44. He crashed on the couch everyday after work. I just can’t imagine how we can look after a baby and raise a child with this level of energy…

Pancakesandmuffins

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He actually says he doesn’t feel 46. He forgets his age! He says she makes him feel younger. When talking about a second one he is the one that says please do not let my age deter you from wanting to do this. I want to do this if you want to do this.