is dearborn safe for black people. i see its got a huge arab population but for all i know they could dislike black people too.
im a but sheltered, i was raised in okemos michigan and it ruined my life i fear and honestly am not comfortable around white people because of 15 years being raised around ignorant racist just notnice white people. i live in lansing mi now which for me seems to be decently diverse. im looking to buy a house. my family is black we have 2 small autistic children and my adopted nephew is 4. i dont want them to feel gow i felt growing up, i dont want them to feel uncomfortable in their own skin or have to deal with sly comments about their hair or justt ignorant comments. especially my two autostic children...i dont want us to get weird or mean looks because they kind of bounce back and forth i dont want them being made fun of or avoided because they are black and autistic.
im scared of people and i dont even loke leaving the house so i jusy want to be able to go to the market and feel comfortable, i dont want to be driving and feel like im going to get harassed or shot or my husband is because we are black. i just want to feel normal and safe with people worried about more important things than my looks or race. i dont want to get followed if i go into a store or my son does as he grows up. i dont like big cities but i ws looking in detroit because ive read its on the come up but its so big and it still just looks so dirty and the houses are half burnt up i just want a normal looking neighborhood and i know "normal" is su jective but hopefully you guys get my drift.
all the surrounding cities with like 40 mins or detroit are literally like 70-90% white. i want to live in a place where i see different types of people with a diverse mind set. i dont have experience really with arabs and im not religious. my family and i have a mindset of you have the right to do you and be you and think how you want just please be kind to others. my issue with wbite people is purely a result of years of basically abuse (non physical) from my interactions with white people. im very kind to everyone i have white people in my life both of my brothers married white women but i cant help but feel hinestly scared and uncomfortable which im working on but for now i just want to know that wherever we settle we are safe and feel comfortable. so with that being said is dearborn ok for black people in 2024?
i read its changed a lot for the better but loke 49% of arrest and tickets and stuff are still like for black people which is scary because the main population is arab right? is there a problem with arab people disapproving of black people or following them around the store or just kind of making mean comments and thongs loke that? my family honestly is very good with the idea of not taking thongs personally but i really struggle there and mean looks or bad vibes whe i enter the store or like ignoring my existence when we are the only to ppl on the sidewalk and i give as smile as im passing really really hurts my heart it stays with me for days and i dont really feel that here in lansing. here its just lime people of all races jusy making it through life nothing fancy not too bad vibes just peopple coexisting...
any thoughts or opinions? and i. sorry for my hurtful comments i truly understand that not all white people are mean or unkind etc and i know its not really fair of me to try and avoid being around areas with huge white populations, it cant feel good to read that and it can easily make people defensive ut im asking from a sincere place. im exhausted from house hunting and i dont know any of these places i really just know lansing and okemos and its made me very scared and u comfortable around most people it goes even beyond white people really but i struggle the most with that race because of where i was raised and had to go to school....
any thoughts or insights into dearborn or even other places that have just like decently kind open minded people would be great. thank you for your time and thoughts!