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I’m proof you can be ungrateful and have a horrible attitude and still be successful
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Well yeah. I’m “successful” but my entire life was constructed around trying to prove my abusers wrong about me. I’m miserable on the inside. None of it is worth it. I hope you find peace. And maybe explore your diagnosis a bit more. Might be more going on for you.
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Hello FunnyGamer,
There is a lot to unpack in your post. Firstly, you should be proud of finding any positive effects from your abuse and trauma.
Unfortunately, like all super-powers, there is a downside, a kryptonite. We developed the trauma-given super power of closing our hearts and souls to others - even those that really care for us. When someone hurts us, we slam the internal metal door shut and absolutely do not give one shit about those on the other side of our metal door. The metal door is our kryptonite.
This may seem trite, but are you happy? Does your monetary success fill your heart with joy?
True success after abuse and trauma is learning to feel valued for WHO you are, not WHAT you do or HOW MUCH you earn.
You are right to feel proud of your accomplishments given the circumstances you’ve faced. But sometimes our “strengths” can become our weaknesses.
Peace to you my friend.
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Why do you assume that people are suggesting things like positive thinking as a solution to a lack of success? Could they perhaps be trying to help you with that hating yourself part? Why do you measure success as solely material and monetary? And if that's the measure of success, why do you hate yourself? Shouldn't you love yourself if you've met your own expectations of what success is? Or is your utilization of the word success perhaps a veiled cynical and sarcastic slight against society's expectations? (If so, bravo, but let's bring it into a conscious perception if you want to be understood..) Do you see no value in the potential to actually feel good about yourself?
Believe it or not, most people who recommend things like positive thinking or manifestation are people who recognize that most people are struggling fundamentally with their perception and are making an effort to adjust theirs. The goal is not material success, the goal is spiritual success. They're trying to stop being miserable, stop hating themselves, etc... I can see how if you assume they're trying to preach to you how to attain material success then your smug attitude would be justified. But these methods are fundamentally vehicles for emotional poise and mental mastery, not financial or material success. Some people do try to utilize these tools to attain financial and material success, but that doesn't mean they can shortcut past the very basis and focus of these teachings. No one's saying you should do these things so you can attain what you've obviously already attained. What a weird flex it is to say, "HA, YOU THOUGHT I WAS POOR BUT I'M RICH" when anyone recommending these things to you probably saw your shitty attitude and wasn't questioning your net worth. You've missed the point entirely because you're preoccupied with defining success as monetary. Like it's the end goal of all pursuits. But you've already attained it and aren't any happier for having done so... One would think that would make you wonder if there's more to life.
Isn't that the story of our society? The most miserable, spiteful people tend to end up on top?
Of course, if you have a conscience, or you make the wrong enemies, it all comes crashing down. If you're a narcissist, you become a CEO or even president.
I want to puke in my mouth. This is so dirty and low vibrational
Never heard anyone say anything like this, but true.
I’ve never said that before. That how visceral I felt reading this
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I used to own my own business and speak on stages across the country in front of hundreds, sometimes thousands of people. I should have felt like a success, but I would go back to my hotel room and cry because I felt like such a fraud. Like if they knew the real me, they'd never stand up and clap for someone like me. Eventually I self sabatoged my way out of it and ended up with nothing.
Now I have very little, but am grateful and happy for what I do have, and more importantly, I realized that close, meaningful relationships were the answer all along. I'd bet you could use a couple too.
Processed trauma is a superpower, until you burn out. Depression is a deep valley and once you’re there it’s no easy way out. Watch out for burn out symptoms, they come late.
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