I cried at work today infront of everyone

I've been there. It sucks and I'm sorry about your family.

Does "don't be emotional" guy sign your check? If not, fuck what he says. Even if he signs your check, still, fuck em. There's plenty of work to go around and better places to be. And if I did have to say something to this dude it would be no more than "mind your own business."

We all have shit days. I've seen coworkers deliberately break their own tools because they were pissed off.

You have 2 bleed off valves for stress on your face and you used em. So fuckin what? A few tears is fuckin nothin and a hell of a lot healthier and cheaper than a lot of other stress releases.

But now that its over: just keep showing up like nothing happened. Tomorrow is a new day with a whole other heap of shit to do.

But maybe put yourself in for a PTO day soon and do something good for yourself.

I did this when my dog had just died. I was doing a very frustrating job, couldn’t figure it out, and I just randomly started crying full stop.

You’re allowed to have bad days. “Don’t be emotional” guy can choke on a dick

Did this twice last week because I was in a similar situation and I was stuck with a guy that was particularly being a hard ass all week. The first time, I managed to do it where nobody could see but the second time, I just snapped and couldn't take it anymore. Oddly enough, he's being super nice to me this week.

Do not feel bad or guilty. Everybody has extreme stress sometimes, people express it in different ways, throwing their hardhat, screaming at their coworkers, doing drugs at work, bossing around people who they aren't the boss of ("don't be emotional" is a bit of an outburst if you ask me). So you cried? That freaks guys out. They are big boys and will move on, hopefully they will learn from it. If you did this regularly it would be different but you don't. Everything will be back to normal soon.

Of course it's natural and healthy and should totally be normalized and fuck them and all that but it also really sucks to give them your vulnerability on a platter.

I've been there and it feels so bad.

But.

it's natural and healthy and should totally be normalized and fuck them and all that!

Girl, men are emotional all the time!!!! They may not cry tears like we do, but f anyone feeling you to stop being emotional.

You cried. It got awkward, yes. But crying is okay and maybe that’s what it was in that moment. I sat down with a male coworker who cried. Yes, awkward for a second but then human. Because that’s what we are.

Try hard not to get down on yourself.

It has happened to me many a time! Thankfully I have mostly worked with men who were kind and sensitive and not the “stop being emotional” types. I wouldn’t worry about trying to make things normal again. It’s not your fault that a lot of your coworkers are emotionally constipated. They probably all need a good cry too. They probably want to move on from the incident as much as you do. So don’t sweat it! We’re humans, not robots. It’s okay to have emotions. Maybe they need to be reminded of that

I got close, made my first big oopsie today and it's not a huge deal but it made me feel like butts.

Gonna have some beers tonight and try again tomorrow. You might like to do the same, though it won't resolve your family issues; you're doing your best, cut yourself some slack.

I cry enough at work that people are use to it. lol. Nobody gives me shit about it, I just do my job while I cry sometimes. I try to just do jobs that only require one person so I can cry quietly in my corner. Some days are just like that.

The guy i was working for was giving me a lot of shit and screaming at me in the clients house and it was something he screwed up i got so frustrated trying to explain to him what happened i just cried and cried and u just gotta walk away and be away from them for a sec. The fools who are giving u shit can sit on one, the ones who were cool got u. We cant suppress all our feelings all day long. Especially when theres some big shit like family. Itll be forgotten, you'll be okay, and someone is gonna throw a fit over something much smaller than what u got going on and the cycle will continue. You are ok i promise, and i'm sorry for ur family issues. That always feels like the heaviest things.

I cry soooooo much at work. I don’t even care or try to hide it anymore. Other people get emotional too but it’s harder for us criers to hide it. Because even when we pull ourselves together we have the signs all over our faces. And other forms of emotions are seen as more acceptable for some reason. I’m not hurting anyone when I cry. If it makes someone else uncomfortable that’s their problem

I’m sorry you’re going through family issues. Please vent here as much as you need to.

Men will throw their tools around and smash shit but a woman cries for a sec and they have a big problem with it. 🙃

I cry into my machine like, once a week dawg

I'm a cis dude and I've cried at work several times, at least twice when family members died and once cause I was listening to "The Road" and I just started balling cause it made me think of how much my dad loves me. Whenever I see someone having a hard time or even just feel the energy is off I stop to talk to them about it or just put my arm around them if they want. I don't think you should be embarrassed. If you're comfortable I think talking to any of the guys who were nice about it would actually build report and bring good energy.

I’ve cried a lot at work idc. Most of the guys don’t care or are understanding. I’m sure some of them wish they could cry sometimes tbh. The guy who said to stop being emotional.. tell him to stop being such a dick.

Men will forget, unless it directly affects them like if you had started throwing objects at their head. Time will sort it out. Keep struggling on. Know if they had same issues they would be angry and sullen and be shits to work with. It just comes out different.

Yes the way to win here is to rag on the guy who told you stop until he wabts to punch you...then rag on him some more

Omg I love this thread. I’m a huge crier just because that’s how my emotions come out. I really don’t mean to cry but it’s involuntary sometimes. I’m really worried about doing this during work now. Going to read this over and over for moral support.

I had a full blown panic attack out of no where when I was having issues at home. It was embarrassing, but my coworker was there for me and no one said shit about me crying

I trapped myself in a closet once and cried for like an hour at work because my foreman was yelling at me. Haha. I didn't give two shits for getting paid to cry. They can lick my clit... "You stay here, I'll politely fuck off..."

i always just let myself cry. and breathe thru it. don’t feel bad & try your best not to care what any of those fools think, even though it’s hard. the guy who told you to stop being too emotional is not your friend. people like him are too afraid to cry, let alone in front of people. meanwhile i’ll go in the gas station with tears on my face to grab a pack of smokes not giving a fuck.

work is where you spend a majority of your time, so it makes sense that it’s not always going to be great. be gentle with yourself <3

I’ve cried twice at work. Once I was dealing with family stuff and my foreman let me sit in his truck for half an hour. The second time I was wicked frustrated and going through it mentally. The operator I was tagging didn’t want to follow the tags, I threw my hands up and walked away. When talking about it I started crying and made it clear my tears were out of frustration, not bc of these motherfuckers. Someone said “I don’t care about your feelings” and I responded with “I don’t give a fuck, I didn’t ask you to care”. But anyway, hang in there!

I'm a PM, so not only do I work with a lot of men, but many of them are technically direct reports. I cried and threw a tantrum a few weeks ago and some of them are still tip toeing about. They'll get over it. We're human and have emotions.

I went on vacation for a week. When I got back, I found that the executives covering for me thought they knew better and scheduled two projects that had a bunch of issues to begin. They also reassigned superintendents, giving me a brand new hire and a known jackass. One executive questioned my record keeping and began drilling me on the work after I've been telling him I need an intern or engineer for weeks. Hormones from PMS with the huge emotional swing of walking back in from a great time off to everything on fire just set me off. Unfortunately, I'm one of those people who cries when enraged. Won't be the last time I have a tearful fit.

I’ve cried around my bff coworker because a friend died. But I told him at the start “if you see me crying, mind ya bidness, friend hung himself.” V chill, not at all a big deal. I feel like my guys wouldn’t be shitty because I’m not emotional, I think they would just be concerned for me. But joking about it helps, if they give you any shit tell them don’t or you’ll cry. Or tell them to stop being weird or you’ll cry again. 😂

I cried during my first year schooling for sheet metal. I was having life issues and financial issues and forgot my material for school that day at home. The whole class of guys watched me uncontrollably sob during our math exam. It was uncomfortable and awkward to say the least. Despite the humiliation I found the humour in it and eventually all the guys laughed it off with me. I also got 100% on my test and the joke for the rest of the term was that crying was the way to get 100% on your exam. I say own that shiz, if people have a problem with it then that is their own internalized issues. It’s human to have emotions and we all have bad days.

I've cried 4 times on the job. The first time was when they fired my supervisor.  I was one of his favorites and he gave me the opportunity to learn wtf I needed to be doing. He got me a $4/hr raise and 2 weeks later was turning his truck in.  He was grumpy and hard to please but was there every effing day and cared about the job.  I was furious when I watched him unloading his truck and cried.  2nd, my foreman hated me because I wanted to work all day. He and my partner didn't.  He made me do things he didn't require my partner to do even after me getting him a raise because I myself, got one. 3rd I was moved to a different area and my new foreman didn't like that I knew more about a specific job that only myself and an engineer were trained to do. He treated me like shit for 2 days and I got pissed, cried and asked him to fire me. He wouldn't so I walked out. To bad for him though. I was called the next morning by the Laborers Super and the Job Super asking for me to come back.  And 4th was recently. I'm known for helping every single person, regardless of trade, in anyway I can. That's how I get favors when I need them. I walk up and down ladders all day and average 11 miles a day.  Carpenters kept cutting my hoses or throwing them to the bottom so I had to drag heavy hoses back up about 9 monoliths.  Again, I was pissed and wanted to chop their heads off and they denied doing it. Instead of physical violence, I made sure, when I worked the next Sunday alone, all their power cords had to be pulled back up the next morning. Men need to be reminded that we may not be dressed like a typical woman but we are still women. We are emotional people.  So what. Alot of them are some of the biggest babies and whine daily about having to do their job. They gossip like highschool girls too. Take them some homemade food and they'll forget about it.  Even the guy that made the comment. Kill him with kindness.  He'll get to feel like a piece of shit and everyone else will think he is too.