Also, if we don't want you to do the clit part and want to do it ourselves, it doesn't mean you're bad at what you're doing or anything, women are all just extremely different when it comes to stimulation. There's no one size dick/finger(s), tongue, etcs. fits all vaginas.
My ex jumped off of me in the middle of sex and stormed out of the house because he was so upset I was touching my clit while he was in me. I was so traumatized it was hard for me to want to be intimate with him (or anyone) for a really long time.