Night terrors. Had her first one a couple months into the marriage. She went right back to sleep. I of course was prepared for battle. The next morning when I asked her if she wanted to talk about it, she said “talk about what?”. I said, “uhhh you screaming like you are being killed in the middle of the night.” Her reply was, “oh yeah, I do that sometimes. 😑
I’ve felt the same way for a long time, but now I keep hearing about dudes who pretend they want to get married and then refuse to after living with their SOs for years. I feel like maybe I want to withhold certain things from a potential long term partner until I get married just for my own protection.