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What is a Bro code that you think should be followed internationally?
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Bro's sister is totally fair game, but you need said Bro's permission first.
Permission?
Damn, didn't realize we were in a world where our sisters need our permission for anything. I couldn't even imagine telling my sister that my approval is required for her to be date a friend of mine.
Sister doesnt need the permission. The friend does.
So, if your sister wants to date your friends, but you tell your friend that he is not allowed to, what's the difference from you telling your sister that she's not allowed to?
Either way the outcome is the same. They are not "allowed" to date, because you said so.
Is there a difference between telling your child they cannot go to a certain friends house and telling the friend that they are not allowed to invite your child?
The difference is who you're asking to do something even if the end result is the same.
No.. I don't think there is a difference, aside from the second case sounding like you are trying to hide the truth from your child?
Either way the point is the same, you are saying that your child is not allowed to go to their friends house, and that your child's friend is not allowed to bring your child home. Of course, as a parent both of these are fully your right.
The difference is who you exert your influence over, which is a big difference even if the end result is the same.
That's a very strange way of looking at it. Imagine that turned around to you.
Your wife tells all your friends that they are no longer allowed to hang out with you. When you ask her "wtf!?", she says "what are you upset about? You can hang out with whom ever you want, these people are just not allowed to hang out with you. You are still free to do what you want!"
You’re choosing to ignore all nuance of social bonds and focus only on outcome. That’s entirely impractical.
Do you think your sister would agree?
If your sister wanted to date your friend, and you told your friend that he was not allowed to date her (and, he presumably accepted that) and your sister found out... Do you think she would accept the argument that you have not limited her dating rights, she can do whatever she want, you just say that her friend can't date her?
If the only practical difference is whether you are imposing your rules over someone to their face, or behind their back, I don't think there's a moral difference. Only real difference is that you are too scared to say it directly to them.
Idk it's a clear difference to me. My example was just to show that theres a difference in whom you ask something of. Obviously you need to have some right to ask something of them in the first place (difference between your example and the sister dating scenario).