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What is a Bro code that you think should be followed internationally?
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Bro's sister is totally fair game, but you need said Bro's permission first.
Permission?
Damn, didn't realize we were in a world where our sisters need our permission for anything. I couldn't even imagine telling my sister that my approval is required for her to be date a friend of mine.
"Your bro needs permission to date your sister" isn't "your sister needs permission to do anything"
She can do what the fuck she wants. On the other hand, if he wants to, then he can either ask if you're cool with it, or have his teeth kicked in when he's shitty towards her.
Dating is very much a two person activity.
If your bro needs your permission so dare your sister, per definition that means that your sister needs your permission to date your bro.
Nope.
She can date whoever she wants. Unless it's my bro.
It's simple. Unless you don't want men to call out other men?
I mean that's what I'm saying. You are saying that your sister is not allowed to date your friend. That's what I've been saying all along.
Personally I find that attitude despicable, but at least now we agree on what we are saying.
So, you're twisting the argument to suit your own worldview.
Sure, we're all just misogynistic pricks. Instead of valuing our male friendships and relationships, we're valuing controlling women.
I'm absolutely totally fine with my mates asking "are we going to be cool if I date your sister?". That means they value me more than a potential relationship.
You seem to think that my friendships are less important than my friend's ability to fuck whoever they want. That's on you, mate, but I feel sorry for the men in your life if you value them so little.
What you're saying here is "I'm absolutely fine with fucking my mate's sister, because his feelings don't come into it." Would you be cool with hanging around with someone who'd fucked your sister? Even if it's the abusive ex who treated her like shit?
"are we cool [...]" is not the same thing as permission.
In general it's a good thing to ask for others thoughts and input on things, especially when it effects them as well.
Permission means a very specific thing though. Permission means that if your friend and sister ends up falling for each other, you have the right to tell them "no, I do not allow this".
There's a reason for why this wording is so important. There are billions of men in the world that do impose their "right of permission" on their sisters.
If you don't think that you have a right to tell your friend and sister that they are not allowed to date, then don't use the concept of permission. You are helping normalise these things.