Always the 'ginusto' never the 'pinursue'.
What do you think are the factors that made you a "ginusto pero hindi pinursue" girl?
Hahaahahah he found someone on Tinder because I lived too far from him, I remember the words pa he said, “Oh I’m talking to someone on Tinder na, and malapit kang kasi siya eh, she’s from LP also” HAHAHAHAHAH
Maraming lalaki ang sinasampal ng katotohanan na ang buhay ay hindi parang Korean novela. Hindi pwedeng magkatuluyan ang isang hamak na hampas lupa at ang isang prinsesa. Out of my league, ika nga.
Ayaw ko daw mag bigay ng pera haha
based from his friends who confronted me ng wala akong laban, they questioned me na bakit wala daw akong effort na ginawa at kaya siguro hindi ako pinursue 🤡 literal clownshit kasi hindi naman ako ung unang nagkagusto?
haha tbh the guy wasn’t probably serious kung ganon and they just wanna collect girls AND only want the girl to make the move for them 💀 lmao excuses!
high maintenance daw ako
They simply can't afford you. Physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually etc.
I'm so good at being a friend that they don't want to risk.
Mataba
intimidating
Out of his league raw. 'Di ako nag ba-brag okay? But people always describe me as 'maganda' and 'visual' daw gano'n, matalino raw ako (kinda agree, I see the potential in me naman), tapos ayon they feel like 'di sila makakasabay saakin, lol. i REALLY like them pero ayon iniisip nila so wala rin hahahahaha. tsaka ayon I have strict parents din pala and I rarely go out.
high maintenance and brutally honest (naapakan ko ata ego nila 🤪)
Hay. Palaging ganito situation ko. Nakakatrauma na ayaw ko na.
They would always say that I deserved better after ako pakiligin and all HAHAHA.
some would end up saying, you're too good for me or you're too perfect I don't want to hurt you in the end , like ano ba gusto mo ginagago ka? HAHAHAH.
Intimidating daw ako. Matalino daw ako kahit sakto lang. Maganda daw kahit marunong lang naman mag-ayos. Di ako pinursue nung guy last week. Di na nagreply. Pero kung mababasa niya to. Ang laki ng chance niya. Like sobra. I like his presence, his intelligence, his voice. Medyo dominante ako pero napapasunod niya ako. Lols. I wish for good things in all his endeavors.
same OP! siya na napili ko eh tsaka gusto ko napapasunod din talaga ako kasi matigas ulo ko haha
Huhu. Being a strong woman is a blessing and a curse. Tatanda tayong mag-isa.💀
Relate much 😔🤭🤣
tanggap ko na OP! hahaha mag-travel na lang ako forever
True. I-travel na lang.😭
Relate sa intimidating part like sobrang bait daw nakakatakot na, na judge agad ako kahit deep inside gusto ko din magpabebe😂
Oo nga di nila alam abnormal ka din 😂
Di ba? All my Life babaeng spartan ako. Baka naman sa next life pa tayo pabebe.💀
I promise, it’s not a YOU problem. He’s just not that into you.
unless youre toxic and abusive ofc that’s an exception.
Pansin mo comments it’s always “too intimidating” “strong personality” “out of my league”. If yan yung nasasabi sayo, it’s not your fault. You deserve a person who likes you enough para magcommit sayo despite all their “what-ifs”, someone na brave enough na harapin yung nafi-feel nilang intimidation, someone who’s willing to step-up para maka-sabay sayo.
Huhu.🥲
Red flag, off sense humor, insensitive and being too comsiderate.
gusto lang talaga siguro, pero hindi umabot sa punto na nais na maka-piling.
Wala yan sa babae. It was never because of the girl kung bakit sila ginusto lang at hindi pinursue. It will always be because of the guy, may it be they're a coward, not ready, or whatever reason, it is on them. Stop thinking it's because of you. Deserve mo i-pursue ng taong kaya ka at may sapat na lakas ng loob.
Genuinely curious lang. Let's say may issue nga sa sarili and hindi naman mababaw like 'intimidating' bs. Hindi ba ito considered 'toxic'. Kasi harmful siya eh. It sounds like 'ganito na ako eh', parang kahit may totoong issue nga sa sarili, hindi na need maging better.
Sana lang wag nang manggulo ng buhay yung guy kung hindi naman pala kaya.
What if ang daming red flag pala kaya hindi pinursue.
Ang daming pwedeng maging reason kung bakit hindi tinuloy.
Torpedo!!!
Did u drop hints?
Guy perspective:
Pero eto ilan sa mga experience ko kung bakit di ko pinursue yung ilan kong nagustuhan na girlies:
Religious sila, ako hindi - ang laking difference nito kaya ang shitty din i-fake and you shouldn't be faking stuff like this kasi importante yan talaga sa ibang tao.
They want kids in the future, ako ayaw ko - I'm not a family man, kaya misaligned agad yung goals namin in the future if we ever got together. Syempre mahirap na kung di ka upfront agad dyan, malay mo pala, gusto nung partner mo mag ka anak.
I didn't know how to handle my feelings around her - awkward high school years, but I will say she was my first love, hindi ko alam kung paano ihahandle yung feelings kasi it tangles me up inside. Maybe teenage angst lang or not, but that person that I loved will always be someone who I will still think fondly of, she meant a lot to me, pero umabot na sa point na masakit yung being around her as just a friend.
Waaaaaaaaaaay outta my league, in a good way! - this amazingly smart and beautiful girl I met in college naman was someone I really liked din. Super bait niya, matalino, funny, really pretty at masipag! Lahat lahat na! Ang kaso, she was all that, tapos ako bulakbol sa classes kasi demotivated na nung nagsipag abroad na yung mga naging barkada ko sa klase. I will forever thank her for reaching out to me in a bad time.
I love and value her, but don't want to lose her in my life (probably as much as my current gf, but not in a romantic way) - you sometimes meet these special people in your life, that will give you the strength to do amazing things, wala na sa kung romantic feelings yan or just platonic love. I will forever be grateful I got to meet this person.
If you don't mind me asking, bakit ayaw mo magkaroon ng anak?
Wala naman, I just don't want the pressure that comes with parenthood. I've seen my parents bicker wnd fight financially over the years para maitaguyod kaming magkakapatid. We're all able to study and finish/about to finish our studies - but I don't want the mental toll that comes with having kids.
Open naman ako into foster parenting one day if my girlfriend would be interested, pero having my own kid is something that isn't on my mind.
I see, interesting.
We were friends and I was already ina relationship at that time haha. We're still friends tho and he's happily married.
“Intimidating and too smart.” I still remember my college crush (immediate uncrush) telling me these exact words. But years later, those words stayed and haunted me. It even hurts when a handful of ‘almost’ brand me as the one that got away.
Hanggang chat lng kasi sila kaya laging di natutuloy.🥴
Intimidating and i have rbf, plus pa na I’m kinda tall. Also mejo mabilis ma turn off and mawalan ng gana (pero pleeeassee pursue nyo naman na ko pagod na ko sa laging gusto never pinursue HAHAKSHA 😭😭)
Too independent, high maintenance and boyish kumilos daw 😂
Intimidating. Masyadong mabait. Masyadong mukhang untouchable.
a HS classmate was trying to hit on me on chat and then nabanggit niya napaka professional ko daw kausapin ba't daw ako ganon T_T I asked why sabi niya lang feel niya daw ang mature ko samantalang siya daw (IDK DIKO RIN GETS)
Making yourself too available to the point there is no longer need for him to pursue you.
High maintenance and intimidating daw hayz
Sakin Sabi I'm the bestfriend type daw like I have a good personality daw na gusto nila pero hindi worth it ipursue
Same! I was told na I’m comfortable talking with opposite sex. Kaya eto tuloy haha
Too pretty for me. Resting bitch face lol. May boyfriend. I really liked this girl back in college. I met her during my 1st year. She was so nice, pretty, chinita and her smile captivated me lol. Few factors why I never courted her, Her friends said she's committed, I was still in love with my highschool ex in short hopia hahaha. I prefer playing online games than getting in a serious relationship. It came to a point that I wanted to court her. I even planned ways to get her attention lol. Fast forward like 10 years, we are still in contact but I no longer liked her the same way so I did ask. She said if I did back then I have a high chance and she was actually available that time lol. So guys pluck the day! Carpe diem! You will never know :)
Agree. Tsaka mahirap manligaw ng maganda. Asahan mong marami kang karibal dyan.
Haha she actually liked me apparently during that time but maybe I was just dense or still fixated with someone else. We just laughed about it when we talked about it. Kaya dapat tlga sieze the day, you will never know.
Tsaka nakakapraning din pag maganda gf mo kasi mag ooverthink ka na baka may lumapit at makipagkilala na lalaki eh hahahah
Haha thats up to you. Ok naman for me. I have a beautiful wife and people say im good looking. Trust is key in any relationship.
Luhh so married ka na pala. Happy for you. Yung babae ba na crush mo dati may asawa narin ba sya ngayon?
She married my teammate but now they are separated.
So lumalabasa inggit lang mga friends nya kaya sinabi nilang committed sya dati
Hmm apparently she had a bad breakup. But yes, everyone that I asked said shes commited hahaha. Maybe they thought im just a player 🤣. Funny thing, we met again after college working for the same company. I was commited that time and shes in a relationship with a team mate. Fate can be playful at times.
As someone who always liked but never pursued, they said I’m intimidating and knows what she wants. Kaya natatakot sila magtake ng risk.
I look intimidating, there's this one guy before ahm actually classmate ko siya noong SHS habang gumagawa kami ng research bigla niya nasabi na "alam mo ba gusto ka ni Ivan gusto ka ligawan no'n dati pa mukha ka lang daw masungit" not exactly like that but the context is parang ganyan huhu. I'm very vocal din kapag may gusto akong itanong or sabihin, itatanong ko talaga without any hesitation and I sometimes don't care if ano iisipin ng kausap ko as long as nasabi or natanong ko yung gusto ko. And siguro dahil first daughter and ate ng family ako naging sobrang independent woman ako, and may mga bagay na kahit i-offer na ng kasituation or kadate ko dinedeclined ko kasi feeling ko kaya ko. ><
if i were the guy ewan ko na lang din paano ko ihahandle pag ganyan ugali e chariz 😂
same with my case lol nung prom namin, a guy I’m dancing with confessed na he used to like me daw but did not pursue ‘cuz he feels like he doesn’t stand a chance because of my rbf siguro 😭
INTIMIDATING DAW AKO
I look intimidating. Miski ako sa sarili ko natatakot ako hahaha!!!
Vocal ako, staightforward. When something’s bothering me, sasabihin ko agad. Direct to the point magsalita and siguro naaapakan ko ego nila. boyish din🤷🏻♀️
Same. Lagi napag kakamalang maldita pero deep inside mabait at thoughtful naman ako. Promise. Sadyang direct to the point lang.
I have the tendency to make everything platonic unless may direct confession. Kahit sobrang obvious na may attraction sakin, I won’t think much of it.
There was one guy I let in but he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship yet. Andaming excuses but I feel like he just doesn’t like me enough.
-Intimidating -Strong Personality -Smart
I have an attitude of speaking my thoughts out, and I’m not scared to fight you if you did me wrong. Probably that’s the reason why, hanap niya ata sa babae ung iintindihin siya kahit magcheat siya eh, ano ka pinanganak dito sa mundo para maging bobo???
I don't know but as far as I've noticed people assume that I'm in a relationship. At the same time I think it was because I'm kind of boyish.
Maganda sana kaso mataba
Mas matino akong kaibigan kesa karelasyon
Matangkad ako. Kaya nakakaintimidate. Most of the guys na nakausap is hanggang leeg ko lang 🤣🤣
i look intimidating. Mukha akong maldita. and at the same time i look happy in love daw kahit single. Nandun narin yung pinapangunahan nila yung sarili nila na "hindi naman ako papasa sa standards niyan."
Intimidating, strong personality, have financial freedom. Lalo na ngayon na maganda career ko and done with post grad. Wala na talaga 😂😂😂 pero ok lang 💸💸💸
To the wrong guy, they’ll see it as being strong willed, stubborn or too much to handle, but to the right guy, they see it as a challenge. After all, it’s easier to ride a horse on the ranch, but it’s rewarding to tame a wild one.
hard to get
Kasi I'm too intimidating daw and I look mataray always and also super busy ko sa acads (dati to nung college) Ngayon ewan ko wala pa naman nagkagusto. 😂
“I don’t deserve you” is just an excuse
strong personality and high maintenance.
i have a strong personality and medyo intimidating daw ako pag hindi ako kaclose. straightforward din masyado
Ladies, let's cut to the chase and be real for a second here. Unless there's absolutely -- objectively -- something wrong or off with you as a person, if a guy had already -- without a shadow of a doubt -- expressed interest in or started to pursue you, and suddenly quit because...
- you're busy with your goals and he's incapable of waiting
- you have a strong personality
- you have a kid
- you have high standards
- he thinks too highly of you 🙄
- you're always available
- his family is not into you
- you're younger than him
- he's unstable
- he's not ready for a commitment
- he thinks he's not good enough for you (🤮 gimme a break)
...he's bullshitting you. He's just not that into you. Cliche but true. None of these things -- I repeat -- NONE of these things matter to a guy who's REALLY into you, especially if they've already expressed they like you knowing these things beforehand.
There may be exceptions, sure, but 99% of the time? He's just not that into you to begin with.
💯💯💯💯
Louder please jusko
Thank you ha this comment made me feel validated kase ganito ako 😘
Medyo introvert ako at tbh wala rin ako ma-share na topic sa chat or talk siguro outgoing on average. Feel ko depende pa rin sa kung san circle of friends ko lol. Pero alam ko rin na need ko mag open up so nagiging talky at tina-try mag humor on point para di boring tapos snob lang reaction. Sad. Pero tina-trabaho ko pa rin ang communication skills ko
Intimidating daw masyado. (Kaya wala din ako masyadong kaibigan). Ayaw yata sa strong independent woman. Char.
- different priorities
- mismatch of lifestyle
dahil sa mental health ko
I think it's because of my openness to him and me wanting him more than him wanting me
I have a strong independent woman character.
we lived different lives! i was always the "aral muna" girl while they were the "young and free" typa guy. i valued my firsts a lot to the point na i was scared to admit my feelings and get into "serious" things.
Single mom kasi ako. #1 priority ko kasi anak ko and hindi siya sure kung gusto ba niya talaga magka-anak. Ayaw ko din naman magbago yung isip niya about kids just because I have one, feeling ko kasi magiging issue din yun long term. Nung napansin niya din na hindi ko mabibigay sakanya ng buo attention ko umayaw na siya.
estado sa buhay and my standards
I was young and stupid. I didn't know what i want
taas daw ng standards ku T^T
Kasi pinaparamdam kong ayaw ko pa talaga mag commit and nagiiba na ugali ko pag umaamin na sila wews haha akala mo maganda e 🤪
Guy 1: Babaero and ayaw niya daw akong isama sa listahan ng mga babae niya.
Guy 2: Kampante na always available ako, naghabol naman pero ayoko na.
Guy 3: Pareho kaming from Break Up tapos naging sandalan namen isa't isa, nagkabalikan din sila pati kami nung ex ko after 3 months. We never dated but I was at peace pag siya kasama ko. Very wholesome lang. No kiss, hug, holding hugs or whatnot pero sakanya ko naramdaman yung peace.
Guy 4: The guy was cheated by his gf tapos gusto niya na makipaghiwalay pero boto family niya dun sa girl kaya di din ako ma-pursue. They broke up din after a year because the girl was a serial cheater, he's married na din to another girl.
I wanted commitment, they wanted to mess around with other girls, but keep me at the same time
Only years later they realized what they lost 😂 they tried to win me back. 1 was saying that he's finally ready to be in a serious relationship with me and that he can't imagine his future without me. Max effort suddenly (flowers, gifts, random visits), even if I blocked all his numbers and socials. The other was also very apologetic that he treated me that way in the past and if he could change things, he would. I heard he just got married too. What a load of bull lol
May friend ako na super gusto ko and pinagbalakan ipursue, friends muna para malaman ko ugali, etc. then nalaman ko chronic two timer/three timer siya kaya ekis.
Strict parents and 1yr younger ako so baka dahil sa mindset ko back then.
Case to case basis naman yan, esp when it comes to getting to know each other stage expect na may epiphany sa other party or sayo na di kayo aligned to some things, that would eventually be a cause for some to not pursue nalang.
Iba itsura ko sa pictures and irl. Photogenic kasi ako and I know my angles. So matic I look good sa pictures. Idk lang in person but nagagandahan naman ako sa sarili ko. Baka sya lang hindi HHAHAHAHAHAHAH
mentay unstable si guy
💅🏽Happy cake day 🎂🥂🎶
happy cake day!
May mas malandi sakin eme
bukod sa fact na magkalayo kami (physical proximity), sa tingin ko factor din yung personal thing niya na hindi siya prepared for a long-term relationship.
also, teenagers pa kami hahahaha
LDR daw kaya di maibigay ang 100%
same reason I got recently 😅 then others say I’m so intimidating, timid, smart, serious, mahirap lapitan (ano ako artista haha), tahimik (sa una lang talaga), high maintenance (gagiii oras nga lang niya gusto ko sana eh).. mga lalaki talaga ayaw pa aminin na hindi talaga gusto ang isang tao, mas madali kaya mag-move on kapag ganun
Hayyy ;(((
Dama ko to!!
Nung una ginusto d pinursue kase naintimidate sakin , may baby ako tapos siya immature pa ayaw sa commitment.
Maybe that's for the best din po for you and your baby.
true
What if pinursue pero di pala commited? I deserve more daw when the fact that I did not ask for more. True kaya yung ganung reasoning ng tao? Hahaha
Baka reasons nya lang yan tas gusto nya lang talaga mag back-out. Daming ganyan eh.
He thinks I'm too good for him and he said he doesn't have a car to take me out on a date. If he ever comes back, I know I'll fold and accept him once again.
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