Why ugly people tend to cheat more?

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Bakit kaya kung sino pa yung panget sila pa yung malakas loob mag-cheat? (third party)

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base sa nakausap ko na panget feeding their ego daw

Insecurity. Honestly yan talaga ang main reason.

OMG HAHHAHAHA real po! I have a Korean friend na nagkaroon ng pinoy na bf (sorry to judge pero ang shonget talaga at ang liit pa) tapos turns out yung shonget na bf may ka long term na pala (5years). Ang ganda ng korean friend ko tapos gaganonin lang HAHHA

But tbh, mas marupok po mga Koreans HAHHAA nag cheat na at lahat binalikan parin ㅜㅜ

HHAHAAA para daw po may maipagyayabang na pinag aawayan sila. Yun kasi definition of pagiging pogi for them 🤪

cause they finally get the validation that wasn’t given to them for the longest time. 🤣

Kulang sila sa validation. Insecure.

insecurities talaga

They have this need to validate their insecurities

ego plus insecurities nila ewan ko ba they need more validation sa tao

kingwapo daw nila , ang aasim naman

Where is the idea that ugly people tend to cheat more coming from? Better question is: Dahil ba panget sila eh kaya sila naging cheater, or dahil cheater sila kaya sila naging panget?

its funny that I experienced the other way around haha some of my ex friends who were "maitsura" are avid cheaters. baka depende sa nilakihan? tho feel ko same reason lang din. they feel like they can manipulate every women/men and they feel more validated

common denominator ng mga ex friends ko, hindi sila katalinuhan

coz they need other’s validation. they crave attention.

True to, hindi ko naman sinasabi na super ganda ko, but I fell in love sa di naman ka gwapohang lalaki mala kung first time mo siya makikita hindi mo na lilingonin kind of look. Then super puti ko siya super moreno naman, then pag may nakakakita sa amin na mga ka kilala nagtataka lahat ba't ko sinagot, honestly wala naman talaga ako pake sa looks e, nakakatawang tao talaga siya, mala sasakit yung tyan mo kakatawa. Pero di kami nag tagal hahaha naiwan niya kasi na naka log-in siya ng Instagram niya sa phone ko, wala naman ako plano tignan kaso yung notif andami sagad2 sa phone ko. Hahaha ayun, madami babae si mokong. Daming inaaya ng lunch or dinner with sundo, or movies daw. Tapos ako, pa effort pa ng surprise gifts sa birthday niya pero di ako pinakain hahahaha inihatid lang ako pauwi. Then kwenikwento niya sa mga tao na ako nakapaghiwalay blah blah tas sinasabi na di ko daw sinabi ang rason ba't kami nag hiwalay. Wala, share ko lang. Hahahah di na ko uulit, kung masasaktan ako dun nalang sa gwapo para konti may pa kunswelo. Hahahahaha

Gusto yata nila na sagadin na panget na sila pati ugali nila panget

Kase nga panget sila. So maging feelingero nalang. Fake it til you make it daw. 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

sympre panget na nga sila ee para mag boost ego nila ikaw ba nmn kamuka mo si balmond e

True!! Yung nag settle ka na nga sa not that good looking tapos niloko ka pa din. Saklap sa part ko kasi kasal kami!!! I cannot!!! Hahahaahah

nakakataas kasi ng ego hahahaha ikaw ba naman mukhang ogre

Wala na tlga sa pagmumukha ang pagiging cheater. Lahat has the chance to cheat.siguro kilalanin mo na lang tlga muna yung jojowain mo.

Source? statistics?

mawhores and insecurity

Narcissim.

This Personality qualities include thinking very highly of oneself, needing admiration, believing others are inferior, and lacking empathy for others. Hence, the betrayal.

cause they don't even love theirselves? kaya they want to fulfill that by finding someone to give love to them kaya nagdagdag pa ng iba para to fill that, cause they always expect that someone can fix them

Na realize nila na "Looks and Status" only play a factor initially. At Aware sila na basta Maniniwala/Gusto ng babae ang sinasabi nila Makukuha nila regardless. Kaya dito pumapasok mga "Bait Baitan"/ "Manipulative Soft Boi"/ "Broke Boys na Viral Sa tiktok". Kung Pano Galawan ng "Ugly Cheaters" Ganiyang ganiyan ang tinuturo na diskarte ng "Dating Coaches"

Low self esteem and the need for validation and attention?

You do more shit if you crave more validation, I guess?

Everyone cheats. Good looking or not. Kaya lang naman mukang totoo yan kase nga good looking means better looks than the majority of people, meaning mas kokonti. Added to the fact na kapag nagcheat ang isang average looking person, tatawagin mo talagang pangit.

lakasan lang ng loob hahaha

I think. Hindi sila initially pangit nagiging pangit lang sila kasi nagcheat sila HAHAHAHAHA Yk behavior is always equivalent to appearance.

yun ang coping mechanism nila.

Subtly seeking validation. Mga magaganda/pogi naman kasi di na kailangan yan eh kasi kahit saan naman sila pumunta na a-appreciate sila.

Bro its not all about the face, ilan ba kilala mong pangit at sa may itsura? Para igeneralize yan

Insecurities & Validation. Also Compensation of the lack thereof.

Bihira may pumatol, so might as well grab any chance you can get?

Because they seek validation. And as for men, to prove masculinity (*toxic mindset).

Insecurity, validation, makes them feel good bout themselves ig. I wonder why too.

worst thing could happen is them saying no. you miss 100% the shots you dont take.

that's what goes into their heads.

Pstt hindi ah..POGI ko kaya☺️

pag hindi tlga kagandahan yung babae naghahanap yan ng validation sa iba

kasi na feed yung ego nila na akala nila super gwapo nila kasi sobrang nabaliw tayo sa kanila kaya akala nila super gwapo na nila HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Para siguro masabi sa self nila na hindi talaga sila pangit kasi may pumapatol pa din?? Hahahahaha

di naman ako artista sa ganda but I am far from ugly. I once dated a guy who was ugly but I gave him a chance dahil matino sya nung nanliligaw pa lang. lol lumaki ulo ni gago but not one of the women he pursued even gave him a second look but boy did he try to cheat on me (taena sobrang kawawa no one even wanted to cheat with him hahahaha) so I left

good looking people on the other hand are only wanted but seldom pursued

Validation

Daig ng malandi ang maganda.

Daig ng mapanuyo ang gwapo.

Kahit sini ka pa basta feeling mo lahat ng attention ng isang tao nasa iyo eventually ma-fall ka lalo na kapag malungkot ka.

Dahil malandi/mapanuyo sila, they crave the challenge and the attention their target gives them.

If I am wrong then I am wrong.

Kasi porket sinagot/pinatulan sila kala nila above average na sila. minsan di sila aware na nagustuhan sila ng tao dahil sa ugali or sense of humor and hnd sa itsura nila. Madalas sakanila e lumalaki ung ulo lalo na kpag sinasabhan sila ng mga jowa nila na ang pogi/ganda nila when in fact hnd naman kaya ayon, pag may nagustuhan na iba, todo landi na agad. ew

Maybe, our fault din? Nafeed natin ego nila nung sinagot natin sila? 🤣🤣

To feed their ego and boost their confidence that they are desired by many and can bag someone other than their partners.

Kasi ggss. Akala nila kapag nagka-jowa na sila sobrang gwapo/ganda na nila kaya maghahanap ng validation ng ibang tao maliban sa jowa nila. Gusto nila maramdaman na maraming nagkakagusto sa kanila.

shuta. may kilala akong ganito. ang tigas ng mukha hahaha! the audacityyyyy!

Para mapataas ang self esteem. Feeling nila ang ganda at ang pogi nila pag may mga nhuhulog sa kanila 🤣 kahit in rel.

Validation at the surface maybe. But, if theyre more than just cruel people, they may also be suffering from low self-esteem. I read somewhere that these can be people who don't think they're worthy of being loved. So, what happens when somebody loves them? They think, "Why does this person love me? They might not be good for anyone else." And, so they search for somebody else's attention.

Doesn't make cheating less wrong, but it's a pretty interesting perspective, don't you guys think?

Tignan niyo ang post and messag history ng threadstarter/ OP and puro kalaswaan, FWB, cheating, alasjuicy, and sex ang posts. So ang dinedescribe nya ay sarili nya.

Thinkers are doers.

Validation of their attractiveness

Correlation does not imply causation, even if you look like a thumb or pleasing enough it really depends. Too many variables to consider on why.

Nah kinda based op, although i have seen my fair share of ugly mfs cheating, i have also seen attractive people cheat. Just like my ex hahahaha oh my gosh potang ina mo(literally), talking to three guys behind my back fuck you

Women who are perceived as unattractive are more likely to cheat on their partners, while the opposite is true for men, according to a study that identifies predictors for whether your Valentine will be faithful in a long-term relationship.

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A person's own attractiveness was negatively associated with infidelity among women but not men - meaning less attractive women were more likely to have an affair. 

https://www.business-standard.com/article/pti-stories/unattractive-women-more-likely-to-cheat-study-118021400477_1.html

Mga babae na panget ang may tendency, sa mga lalaki, the more pogi or attractive, the more na may tendency.

Pano kaming pangit na ang chineat? Dasurv ganun? Hahahah

Same reason as why little people drive big cars. Tiny dudes drive sports cars. Fat women wear tiny shorts

to feel attractive/wanted kasi alam nila panget sila. also low standards since unusual for them may mag approach

AFAM here - I think ugly people find it hard to turn down an opportunity, so they go for it.

pansin ko rin. ang kakapal ng mga mukha. ayaw i-akto sa mukha ang ugali. 😫

validation haha

Insecure people tend to look for validation sa iba

Validation

Hindi sanay sa attention, kaya kapag pinakitaan ng motibo, ayun, sasamantalahin para mas mafeel nila na may taong attracted skaanila (kahit may bf/gf/asawa na)

ang mga tunay na pogi, di need ng validation from bebegurls masaya sila sa sarili nila and just wanna share that with their significant other. speaking as a tunay na pogi.

Kaya wag kayo makipagdate dahil may nakikita kayong potential lang over a person. Kung may realistic standards kayo stick kayo dun. At least siguro hindi nakakapanglumo for you people na pangit na nga, nang-cheat pa oh diba hahahah jk lang po

Uu nga OP, ngaun iba na panahon hehe. Actually, basta may insecurities kahit ano pa itsura, malaki chance na mag cheat kc they feel validated that way.

Insecure kasi sila, they need that validation from different people to function.

Ugly people might cheat more because they’re surprised anyone else is interested! It’s like they think, “Wait, I have options?” Still, cheating isn’t about looks—it's about character.

So I dated this Guy back in 2017. Hindi syang kagwapohan and for almost a month after ko syang sagutin, he makes me feel like I'm the ugly one. 3 months of dating, he cheated on me reason nya para daw I boost self esteem nya. Kaloka ka Not Cool Zaldy, Not Cool.

EDIT Hindi rin pala sya mabango

“Ugly” is subjective though. Ano ba ang “ugly” sa standards mo? Also, people cheat because they can and because it’s their choice. May kulang ata sa pagkatao nila kaya need nila ng something to feel good about themselves. It’s sad na ganoon sila.

To validate their self esteem. Hindi daw sila pangit 🤭

I agree most of them lakas pa manlait..di Kasi sila confident and they get some kind of validation when they cheat, na madami pala nakakappreciate sa kanila

insecure, gusto ng sense of “achievement” na kesyo pangit DAW sila e nakakapingwit naman

More like the good-looking ones ang mas may tendencies to cheat. They have the upper hand to attract someone with minimal effort and get away with it easily.

Wala naman sa itsura yan eh. People cheat because they can. And will keep doing so hanggang sa mahuli. Ung mga goodlooking di nacocallout pero pag panget makucrucify talaga eh.

Badge of honor daw sa iBang di pinagpala. Lmao.

Sorry

Actually the good looking ones tend to cheat more, except that theyre just too attractive that they often tend to get away with it.

The ugly ones dont have that luxury or 'privilege' for people cut them slack.

kasi baka dun sila nakakahanap ng validation and confidence sa sarili hehe opinion ko lang

One word: Overcompensation

Hmmm sa tingin ko di naman ugly people but insecure people. Naconscious tuloy ako gumamit ng “they” kasi may nabasa ako here na parang nagmamaganda if ganun eme. Eniweys I think it’s to feed the cheater’s ego ganun kasi the cheater is aware of what they lack or baka kasi di parin sila convinced na sa dami ng options ng partner nila eh sila parin pinili.

para pakainin ego at pride nilang hinding hindi nila makukuha sa mukha lang

Kasi mas maraming panget kaysa gwapo kaya mas mataas Ag porsyento ng mga panget na nagche-cheat kumpara sa mga gwapo.

Wait may stats ba neto?

They get rejected more.

They get discriminated more.

They get verbal abuse more.

They get the opposite treatment againt good looking ones.

Again..

The chances of ugly people to cheat are slim. But when they do, questions like this occur.

Mas nag checheat ang maganda/gwapo. Wag kayong hipokrito.

Mahiya ka nalang kung nag cheat pa yung ugly person sayo 😆😆

hahaha truevalue lol

Because may kailangan silang iprove sa sarili nila 🥸🤷🏻‍♀️👀

Trut, tapos pag nahuli "iwan mo na ako panget ko kasi huhu" tngina

to boost their self-esteem and ego. I guess.

Yung iba, sdyang kupal lang ung iba naman in fear na lolokohin sila.

To negate their thinking na pangit sila.

Insecurities and they want validation .. validation .. validation. 🤮

Low self-esteem, need nila ng validation from other people, sama mo na yung low IQ and low EQ na rin lol minatch nila yung ugali sa mukha nila

True!! These dudes na hinihit up ako to have "fun" with them na may mga jowa. HUY ANG PAPANGIT NIYO TAPOS GANYAN KAYO SA MGA GF NIYONG DI KO ALAM PANO NIYO NAKUHA

I love how confident people here are with their looks by saying "they".

Anlaki ng confidence nila sa sarili nila ano? Kung sino pa yung di kagwapuhan, ang lakas ng kalokohan.

Idagdag mo pa, magaling magdeny yan at paiikot-ikutin ka.

Insecurity. Seeking validation.

Bes, sa totoo lang, walang scientific basis na ang pangit na tao ay mas madalas mag-cheat. Ang pag-cheat ay choice ng tao, regardless ng itsura. Madalas, ito ay dahil sa lack of self-esteem o emotional issues, hindi dahil sa looks. So, hindi totoo na ang chararat ay mas cheater—depende yan sa ugali at values ng tao, bes.

Why UGLY (galing na sayo op.) Panget kasi sila. Insecure. Attention seeker. Feel nila ang sarap kapag may nagaagawan sa kanila kasi nga pangit sila. I think lahat na yata ng kapangitan nasa katawan nila kaya kapag may nagparamdam sa kanila kahit alam nilang may jowa na sila eh sige pa rin ang grab kasi sayang.

Syempre kung pogi/maganda ka. For sure sawa ka na sa mga pagpursue ng iba, eh sila kasi pangit. Kumbaga minsanan lang yan eh kasi nga pangit sila so why pa nila palalagpasin di ba?

Believe me, mas nagtataka ako na may nahahanap pa silang mga maloloko nila. 😅

Insecureeeeee mofo. 😂

Mas pansin kasi pag panget nag cheat, parang wala silang karapatan mag cheat compared sa magaganda/gwapo. Parehong mali, pero parang mas malaking kasalanan pag panget ka na, nag cheat ka pa.

Because they needed validation from other people. Hindi enough sa current partner nila. Sad.

kasi gusto nilang maramdaman na kailangan sila, mindset nila “i’m needed by more than one person, gosh, ang galing ko.”

pang taas lang ng pride, the truth is they don’t feel good about themself and is dependent on other’s opinions so they feel validated and worth something. Mga kulang sa pansin.

Omg is that a personal attack?!!? (Sa pagkapangit, di sa cheater just so we're clear)

Pangit or not, mayaman or not, a cheater is a cheater. They have a lot of insecurities to conquer kaya they cheat.

They got nothing to lose. Ika nga: “Okay lang na ma-basted kasi pangit ako.” Or: “Diskarte lang ‘yan tol.”

they seek the validation and attention they never tend to receive

"Give an ugly guy a chance and he thinks he rules the world." - Bellie Eillish

Kahit naman sino pwede magcheat regardless of the appearance. If they want to, they will. Mas pinadali kasi ng technology ang way para makapagcheat ang isang tao.

Define/describe pangit

Mga mukhang katol este eksotic lapitin kasi talaga yan lalo na ng mga forener haha

Insecurities sa katawan.

Kaya nga. Noon nag nagloloko lang gwapo, mayaman, professionals… ngayon, jusko kakapal ng mukha! Pati panget, hampaslupa, walang savings, tambay nagagawa na rin manloko.

Huh? Napapansin ko naman is yung mga may itsura. Ay basta, kahit anong itsura pa yan, pag cheater, cheater.

Deep down insecure sila. The attention they get feeds their ego.

Not me 🥹

Insecurity. Craving validation.

Kapag patay na ang mga ilaw you no longer see the ugly

Pangit lang nakikita niyo kasi negative. Hahah. Pag maganda niloko naman. Nasa ugali wala sa ichura.

Pogi/maganda/panget nagchi cheat. Siguro yung mga panget lang pinapansin mo.

insecure kasi sila sa itsura nila...and pag nagchecheat sila with chipipay girls/boys and pinatulan sila, feeling nila ang pogi pogi/ang ganda ganda nila HAHA

Naobserve ko din to, pretty girls get cheated on. Imagine Kathrine Bernardo, Lj Reyes, Jelai Andres and Zeinab? They got the fame, the face, the body, the money and yet ... nakakaloka nalang talaga.

because they have low self esteem and getting more attention gives them some sort of validation and boosts their ego

After my previous relationships ending with my exes na magaganda, I've decided baka ang taas ng standards ko so I lowered it and ended up dating this girl who isn't "good looking".

At sa pangit n'yang yun s'ya ang unang babae na nagcheat sa akin. Mygod. 

At dahil doon bumalik nalang ako sa paglandi sa magaganda. Ikakasal na ako sa crush ng bayan ng department nila in college. Hay salamat. 

Wala naman yan sa itsura. Pangit, maganda o guapo, kung kupal ka, kupal ka.

More to prove.

Because they're insecure and need an ego boost.

Insecure

ego + insecurity

finding someone na nasa level nila

Ego boost probably kasi pangit sila, feeling nila gumagwapo/gumaganda sila lalo pag nanlalalake o nambababae sila.

I agree.

Theory ko nasanay kasi sila to pursue more to compensate for the feeling na pangit sila. Feeling nila kinakagwapo nila yun where in fact mas nahighlight pagiging pangit nila.

For their ego.. Prng sa mga kabit lng din.

Kasi panget, mahirap dumating ang palay na lumalapit. Kaya kapag may lumapit, tuka agad. Sayang ang pagkakataon.

and to rape more.

To boost their ego ig.

Gusto kasi nila madaming nagmamahal sa kaniya, dahil di niya yon nakukuha dahil panget siya HAHA ang harsh.