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Women, Can You live without s_x in a five years relationship
BiologySo, you began the relationship when she was a 17-year-old school student, before she had the chance to fully develop her own personality and beliefs.
When people enter relationships at a very young age, such things can happen. She needs time to build her identity and gain the self-assurance that the relationship will lead to marriage. You need to let her mature at her own pace.
Do you want pity sex by coercing her or she willingly do it with you. Take to her about her fears.
Edit- I just saw your profile. Are you cheating on her by flirting with other women online? She needs to dump a groomer like you. She deserves much better and will be better off without you.
Ohh i didn't realise it, he was like 23 at that time dating a 17-18 yr old... Yuckyy 🙃🙃
Nah she was 18
That's bad, 18 and 23 is vv bad
Idk, we did not thinked it at any moment. We are okay with it. 3,4 years age gap is fine in my opinion.
Leave the teenagers alone they need time to grow up without an older guy influencing and asking for sex.
I never influenced her. She said ‘No’, that’s it. I smiled and accepted it on point at the moment. We never argued or fought for it either.
I have been in 2 long term relationships without any sex.Didn’t care for it much but my exes apparently did and in the end,the resentment led to breakup.So tread carefully.If it matters so much to you then talk to your gf about it and if you want but she doesn’t,then mutually part ways.If you force her,then she will resent you forever.
yes. Personal boundaries. Not a big deal to me.
Regardless of whether women can or cannot, clearly your girlfriend can. If you cannot, it’s an incompatibility, be respectful and break up.
The point she is making is that you need to commit to have sex with her. Marry her if you want sex. But if cannot commit, then don't waste her and your time.
He's committed to her for 5 years I think?
I have been doing everything that is required for 5 years. But I am experiencing vantage point. It can be a make or break this year. I dnt knw what can i do for my biological needs at this age. M feeling lonely, the fact that this is a long distance relationship. M missing real life compassion
You're not entitled to sex dude. If she doesn't want to have sex before marriage that's her choice that you should respect. Or leave the relationship. But pressurising her will make you a bad guy
I never persuade her. Its just that, my sexual frustration feelings are taking over this year. Wr are in relationship from last 5 years being loyal and happy
Where is the loyalty when you around flirting with other women online .
To be honest, you are right but I have been doing everything that is required for 5 years. But I am experiencing vantage point. It can be a make or break this year. I dnt knw what can i do for my biological needs at this age. M feeling lonely, the fact that this is a long distance relationship. M missing real life compassion.
You are justifying cheating without remorse. A long-distance relationship is where people show their true commitment. Looks like It was never about the relationship or the woman but about your own loneliness. You have no shame grooming a school kid, either.
Do you want this person to be your wife for the next 40 years? Then, accept the trade off and do it willingly or break it off to fulfill your physical needs.
Grooming a school kid? Am I missing something?
It was always about the relationship. I said ‘It was’. But at some point of life. I have to choose me as well. This age ‘28’ is not for fostering a 5 years old relationship where I am not getting assurances for marriage yaar. You know what is India in terms of marriages ? See it from my point of view as well. Though i respect your point too.
None of it justifies cheating on her. You learnt a lesson the hard way. Don't date teenagers. As they age and develop as a person, their desires and goals in life may change from what they wanted before when they were teen with an undeveloped brain..
Then end it dude. No one is asking you to stay in a relationship you clearly don't like. But you aren't going to get pity for persisting and cheating.
Sorry to be honest here, but this isn't working for you mate!!
I was in 3.5yrs relationship without sex. Similar situation, we had makeout, but that's it; and everything else was fine. Looking back I realise I was still getting off to horn. That used to cause mood swings for me, cause I wasn't creating that deeper bonding with her; that was going somewhere else.
The missed ‘deeper bonding’ is what’s the main point here. And the mood swings as well. It gives a sense of incompatibility.
Personally, No sex is perfectly fine with me.
other Indian women can not pass a judgement over what your gf wants, while I personally dont see that for myself. I think your gf wanting to not engage in anything sexual is valid as hell. In a society where a woman is shamed left and right for even breathing, women who participate in having sex even have it worse types of shaming so I can understand where your gf is coming from, respect her boundaries, or if it becomes too difficult you know you both are not for each other due to different outlooks on intimacy
The point she also made
Then why don't just listen to her ?Â
She is not doing sex, she is not marrying me either at this very moment. The point she is making is, she needs a govt job or something that society approves as breakthroughs. We have cast differences plus its a long distance relationship too. The things are way more complicated in this relationship.
A woman should obviously be financially stable before marrying anyone, you can't just marry for sex that's a recipe for disaster. Like I said agree to her terms or if it becomes too stressful for you then choose what suits you the mostÂ
I am ready to marry at any moment but she gets afraid about the idea. I can support her future as well. But even If I have a great grand successful life, her great grand successful life matters too(in her words). She clearly said she will not talk to her father if she don’t clear any paper or whatsoever. She will marry where they want her. Only clearing a govt exam can lead to our marriage.
Good luck with whatever you do
Her reasons are clear she doesn't want to have sex till she feels safe that her family will accept you. For that, she believes she needs to prove her worth to her father. Indian society has put families' pride in women's vagina which is not her fault. Do virginity of men and women seen the same in society?. You both are victims of generational trauma and caste system.
I guess you got it very right. I understood. Thank you
You are having sex though. Just not penetrative sex. Some women don't like penetrative sex. Or may not want to do it for some reasons.
If sex is important for you then have a conversation about it with your girl. If she still doesn’t want to do it, and you want to, then it’s better to just break up and find someone who’s into it like you are.
Why do you have dating apps and why are you looking for advice on how to match with girls and sliding into their DMs on snapchat? Would you be comfortable if your gf did the same? Honestly just breakup, this way you won’t be cheating on her and she can find someone who won’t cheat on her.
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This is her first relationship in which she is doing foreplay, doing romance.
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"marry her for sex" how low can men go lmaooo how fucking sad. So just ruin a woman's life because u cant keep ur dick in ur pants?
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Its not a question for all women.There are around 3.6 Billion of us.The question is, is YOUR girlfriend comfortable with sex? Clearly she is not.And she definitely does not want to have sex and hence,surely can live without sex.Many women dont want to ever have sex,many women want to have sex.Depends on her I can understand ur pov as well, u should communicate with your girlfriend regarding this very politely and the safe/best case scenario will be to end the relationship.You want sex,she doesn't,it's not compatible