Getting rejected because I am skinny

This is a wake call for me. Thank you bro

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I already knew things like this happens and I have started to bulking up myself. I'm only 22 tho. Previous 21 years of my life I was underweight. I only recently got myself in normal weight category. I'm 5 10 with 67kg weight as of now.

I was 58 kg too just a year ago. So only thing I suggest is

"जो दिखता है वो बिकता है।" No one is going to ask how fit you are by your performance. Try to gain some weight too. Join gym if possible. Atleast start taking protein powder.

If non vegetarian is allowed then start eating them too as well. Remember Prabhas used to eat 40 eggs probably in a week to gain weight for Bahubali 2. He increased 30+ kg for that once in a lifetime role. Can't you increase atleast 10kg for hopefully once in a lifetime marriage?

Edit: Apparently it's 40 eggs per day lol.

The way you dress can really change your appearance. If I wear bad fitting clothes, I look skinny af. So, find good fitting clothes. Btw, I am 5'10" and 60kg, and hit the gym regularly. And, keep working out.

It would help if you started lifting weights with increasing intensity. That is ,the first month say 10kg second month add 5kg, lift 15 kg and so on: barbell curl, Chest press, Sholder press.

Also, work out 3 days a week leaving rest days. (say Monday, Wednesday and Friday)

Exercises like Running and bike riding only burns calories and make you skinny. (thin). Stay away from treadmills too

Aim for 70-100g of protein per day. (but not with eggs). But the most important thing is high intensive weight lifting

Hang tight my guy, you will find girls who are also skinny and like skinny guys. And if you can increase weight by even a few kg, it will change your looks.

Chill kar bhai.. If you like yourself then it's enough. If you think that you need to work upon your body structure then do it. But this shouldn't be done to impress the girls but it would be your own choice. If you think you are good enough, then don't do anything and remain as it is.

Vo gaana yaad rakh - Kuch to log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna !!

Koi samajhdaar ladki hogi to tere character ko bhi dekhegi, sirf teri body ko nahi.. and I think being skinny is much better than being obese.

I was rejected coz I am fat lol😂😂😂

Rather than advising you to gain some weight or mass, I think my main piece of advice would be to try building a rapport through your conversation. Talk on the phone attest 4-5 times before meeting in person. Let them have a glimpse at your personality before they glimpse at your skinniness. Loads of skinny men have partners, they use their confidence, wit and humour to win them over. You shouldn’t let this get in the way of your self-esteem

People do not want skinny, do not want fat, they just expect everyone to be fit. These people won't understand not that fit is not something that typical influencers show. It differs from individuals. So don't be so hard on yourself. Someday someone will come for you and love you the way you are.

I wish it will happen soon.

I mean you are actually underweight , and uk how boomers are they always assume that thin people are not “healthy” and “weak”. You can consult a dietitian or someone for a better diet and maybe get a mass gainer . See most men wouldn’t marry an overweight girl unless they are also overweight, so it’s similar situation for underweight also . It seems that you’re very physically active so you’re burning more calories than you consume. If you srsly can’t gain weight even after trying really really hard then it can actually indicate an underlying health condition also . Usually lifting weights and eating lot of protein and having a calorie surplus leads to healthy weight gain ( muscle gain)

Edit : I wish I could give you 5kg because my health condition made me gain 5kg 😭 Thankfully I was kinda skinny so the weight gain isn’t that bad

You are severely underweight for a 5'7 man, please get yourself checked up. You are not weak, but in AM the impression people have on us matters a lot. Not just girls, people in general expect men to look strong.

You can put on weight, start weight training with supplements, eat more to add weight. It easily takes a year to see results. This would be much better to do than compromising on preferences.

Bhencho hum yaha weight kam karne ke peeche pade hai, jyada kha nahi pa rahe hai weight ke wajah se aur inka dekho alag hi rona

Bhai kela khaya kar aur dudh piya subah sham, healthy bhi aur bulk bhi. Warna street food to hai hi weight badhana hai to. Beer se pet bahot jald bahar aa jata hai, try that if you can.

The best & healthiest way is joining the gym, go for weight training, maine gym weight kam karne ke liye lagayi thi yaha ulta badh gayi lekin sahi jagah pe, muscle mass badh gaya to koi problem nahi hai ab weight increase se bhi. Aur mass hain ke suupliments bhi milte hai wo try kar le gym join karne ke baad. This is slow process though.

Being a skinny guy myself, I know how hard it is to gain weight and be a hard gainer. There was a point in time when I had to eat too much to maintain my muscular body and that always used to result in an upset stomach.

However, now I am content with my body type. I do have advantages which other guys with other body type don't have which is slow ageing. I made sure whatever I eat is healthy which ensures radiant and smooth skin. I have head full of hair where as my friends are all balding.

You should be comfortable in your own skin. You shouldn't change yourself just for the sake of fitting in to other's idea. I don't wanna spend rest of my life being on edge to meet-up someone's expectations. Think hard bro, do you really want such a superficial person as life partner?

Ironically my dating life has significantly improved once I started being more comfortable with my body type. Every woman has their own liking for a certain body type. You just need to find one whose type is yours!

2 year ago, I was 53Kg with 5ft6In height.
I have been a state level wrestler and National level TT player.
But when it comes to marriage, our appearance matters and skinny boys don't have the upper hand (In most cases).
I worked on myself, went to gym and now I am 64 and look decent.

My only advice would be, to get your lessons from these rejections and work on yourself. Good days are ahead :)

If you want to bulk up. I will give one guru mantra. Just do that for 3 months minimum and see the change.

First thing in the morning, have 1 big Jug of Lassi ( Home made from Curd without water mix) and either eat jalebi with it or add sugar. In your first few days it will take maybe 3 to 4 hours to finish it. But remember dont eat anything untill you have finished it. In few weeks you will be emptying the jug in 30 mins. And in few months it will take few minutes only.

Do it and your life will be set.

It will not only bulk you up but will also feel increased strength. It will also heal your gut. Many skinny people have Leakey Gut issue.

Dont forget to exercise daily 30 to 45 minutes.

Man, I think these women are insecure that you'll be thinner than them in photos.

It sucks that you're going through this man. But you can't control other people. Look for fitter and more active women maybe. Maybe look in other communities. 

I have faced this a lot , people used to say straight up me and girl won’t look good together as their girl is more good looking than me , and I was like wtf man you saw my photos initially why did you agreed to go further than that , well people may blame males and their families but honestly in AM process girls and their families are very brutal these days and nobody wants to speak up against this

Whats ur weight?

Buddy I’m 5’8/5’9 and weigh 60kg, I’m pretty slim and I do not feel I’m skinny but that’s subjective. My weight is just over the BMI range. I haven’t started the AM thing yet but when I do I’ll make sure to hit the gym and gain some healthy weight.

I was 53-54 a while back in 2020 but I hit the gym and gained till 60. My suggestion is buy some good protein mix, go for dymatize iso 100 it worked for me and it’s also the fastest absorbing protein out there and workout 3-4/week.

It's a shame that you have to experience this. There are enough people in the world that there will be someone out there who thinks your build is just right for them, but you may need to widen your filters. On the other hand if you want to work on your build then I strongly recommend you get some advice from a physical therapist or nutritionist rather than Reddit comments telling you to eat bananas with milk or a lot of sugar.

So I’m 28M 5’7 and 55kgs currently. 3 months ago I was 45 and I could only manage to gain because of what my doctor prescribed for weight gain. That being said 54 is not that bad for your height. It’s borderline underweight and normal. If you want to know about the doctor and the medicines then hit me up in private. I know the struggle of gaining weight! It’s not easy!!

Bhai take good diet and hit gym sab hojayega sahi, easy hai just show yourself

34M, 5"10'

3years back i was 68kgs. 1.5yr back i was at 39kgs and now i am at 54kgs.

When you give body situations where muscles are not required, the body will lose them. If you use the muscles daily and keep adding progression, they will grow for sure. All you need is good food and lots of sleep.

I was not underweight from the very start, so this change gave me a very different perspective. I lost people who thought i were friends with. No one wanted to hang around with anymore because i no more looked handsome.

Anyway, i also would suggest to wear clothes based on the body type. Hit me up in DM and i can share some examples.

Take it easy and enjoy life.

Hey, I gained about 10kgs in 3 months. This was about 6 years ago when i was in my mid 20's .Before this is was about 44- 45 kg and have been skinny all my life(i'm 5'4 F)

I took protien powder with milk every single day without fail and excercised for 15 mins( simple ones because i was scared i'll get weight on my tummy). I continued eating my normal diet and added an evening snack to it. Actually I also became calorie conscious and started elements like peanuts and banana to my diet and it worked wonders for me.

I stopped once i Hit 56 and lost about 1-1.5 kg afterwards. I have always been in bracket of 54.5-56 eversince.

A huge help to note here was that i met my fiance ( now husband) when i was skinny and he never had an issue. He did ask me if i wanted to gain weight and when i said yes i did, he helped me do it. Another huge help was my friends supporting me and pushing me to stay true to my diet plan.

Point is you can do it but dont do it for others. DO IT FOR YOURSELF. If you already like who you are changing yourself for others would feel wrong and an unsurmountable task. You won't like it and most likely will give up.

All the best to you!

And I am 27, skinny and bald. Lol.

If you like the way you look, stay. Focus on finding a person to appreciate the way you look and feel.

Don't change simply because random people you're meeting have opinions.

Being "not skinny" won't magically you not rejected anymore, there will be something else that people will reject/unmatched you for.

Dekh Bro let me give u a million $$ advice.

"NEVER EVER STEP DOWN ON POINT 1 AND POINT 3 OF YOUR CRITERIA" if these don't come out of understanding but compromise which is clearly the case here.

Believe me your soul wouldn't let u be in peace if you do it just for the sake of it. Every day u will die piece by piece due to insecurity.

Better stick solid to the basic criteria that u have mentioned.

If u don't find anyone fulfilling it, then only loosen up a bit.

If they aren't physically attracted to you, then they aren't, that's the way it is. Most men are not attracted to overweight women, most women are not attracted to underweight men. It does not matter how fit or strong you are, women are visual too and skinny guys just do not look attractive most of the time, unless it's a handsome tall male model but that's typically not the case. If you want women to be attracted to you, start bulking up, and choose a healthy oil that you like that is high in omega 3-6-9 fatty acids and take a few spoonful each day, plus add it to dishes. You'll definitely put on weight, there's no such thing that a healthy person cannot put on weight from increased calories.

Doesn’t matter how strong you think you are if you look sickly.

Join a gym, get a personal trailer.

hit the gym!

Men like skinny/slim women and women like men with v ed bodies. Looks do matter in this world. But be patient someday you will find someone great.

skinny people are healthier than obese people.

sadly, people have the misconception that having body fat is healthy.

Buddy, I've had similar stats. And I did manage to gain decent amount of weight in a span of 3 months. Started at 48kg and and reached 60kg by the end of third month. 60 may not sound much, but if you work out and you have a lean built, 60 kg for 5'7 could make you look fit and attractive. Speaking from experience.

However, I used to workout in the past so my muscle memory served me well in working out properly.

But you can do it too. To gain weight, working out isn't enough. You have tk eat just as much. I used to eat until I'd feel like gagging, 6 meals a day, less roti and more of bhakri, rice, peanut butter, protein supplements, salads, paneer etc.

So it is achievable, but one size doesn't fit all. All so get started and stay dedicated. You will see results if you do it right.

I’m 26, 5’4” and 54kg, I better start hitting the gym from next week.

For every guy to who wants the bestest partner meeting all the parameters, should do one of the following -

1- Either get a high paying job more than 40 LPA

OR

2- Get a group A government service, a powerful post

OR

3- Get a really good physique which makes you look like a MAN

Yea you’re gonna have to bulk up. AM is a brutal place to be in and there’s no way around it, unless you find someone who’s willing to overlook (this is very rare so you’re better off looking to do what you can to improve your odds).

I’m 6 ft so I know this pain even more. 6M of gym with proper diet should show you a change. Being vegetarian may be a challenge, not sure. All the best.

What’s your salary?

Yes, Welcome to the Gym.

Starting bulking up!!! Make a routine for yourself, workout regularly and add more diet. Being skinny is not good in long run be toned instead of skinny 

Eat protein, join GYM, work on looks. Hoeflation is too much these days.

You will be a changed man in 6 months, also take care of hair, most likely you will get bald in coming months/years.

Rejected is a much serious word. Your vibe did not match.

show a pic lets see if you really skinny ......eat and gain weight

Relax - you sound fine. Your sample size is too small. I bet you’d want a girl that likes you as you are - and she’s out there searching too, be patient and let time do its thing.

Don’t change your perception of yourself due to someone else’s comments; those same girls will go to a heftier guy and say he’s fat.

Also, unsolicited advice: don’t compromise on the 3 qualities you mentioned. Those sound like non negotiables, keep them that way.

Obviously, looks are important. But, you seem like a great match for any girl. Women in my life (mostly over achievers) who are in AM dating scene put a significance on non-drinker, if they can get them. It’s a big selling point, leverage it!

i assumed you wanted a non-drinker partner because you don’t drink too!

More than skinny I think it is your height, most women want someone 5'10 or taller as of now + rich and handsome too.

Only problem is your compromises...cmon man wtf embrace rejections 

Try adding ghee to whatever you consume. I was underweight. It did it wonders for me. But make sure you hit the gym as well.