AITA for throwing how much my husband makes in my brother's face after my brother insulted his career?

NTA and your brother is an idiot for not realizing how much a master electrician can make. Your brother definitely IS the AH for saying the things to your husband that he did. He deserved to be called out. He owes everyone (especially your husband and mother) and apology.

NTA - Generally as a rule you are seldom wrong standing up for your spouse. IF you want to be petty "No. 3 would you kindly shut up about things that don't concern you"

NTA your bro embarrassed himself really. It kills me that people who work in white color jobs can not even fathom just how much a master electrician, plumber etc can make. Also with no student debt.

NTA.

You’d think a lawyer would appreciate that skilled a rebuttal.

NTA. Looks like the only person butthurt is the person who has to brag about what a success he is. People who have to brag about it, usually aren't, and I bet if you looked deeper, he has massive amounts of debt to afford all that stuff. Your mom or dad would have said something if they thought you were in the wrong.

'sorry, which number fiancé is this...?'

Massively NTA.

NTA

He should sit his ass down and be more "respectful. "Mother's Day is about mom, not you."

That sums it up really.

Kudos to you for standing up for your hardworking decent husband in the face of a militant ignoramus.

NTA - Your brother embarrassed himself. Hope this means next time he'll keep his mouth shut... also... his gift might've been more expensive but I feel like your gift was more thoughtful.. I wouldn't have even thought about giving hand massages as a gift to a surgeon. What a great idea.

NTA. Your brother should be embarrassed. You stood up for your husband, he appreciated you doing so, and you're totally in the clear.

In 10 years, after your brother’s 4th divorce and 5th engagement, all he’ll have to show for his “wealth” is watches and a run down Porsche. He’ll have his hand out for help, while you and your husband continue to live well.

NTA.

NTA.

Don't respond to your SIL. Imposing silence after executing such a perfect decapitation like that is best.

If they arrive at all of the obvious conclusions from this encounter, they will do so much more authentically if they are not guided.

If they never do, that's okay. It's not your job to change your sibling's adult diapers.

NTA but I really question your brothers level of intelligence. Who behaves like that? No normal person just brags on and on about their income like that unprovoked. He must be a grade A AH if behaviour is so normalized he does it in family gathering settings.

Apparently your brother went crying to his fiancé that OP was mean to him. I wonder if she does the same with judges that rule against him in court? People who brag about their "wealth" (and conspicuous consumption is a form of bragging) seem to be very insecure to me. Good for you for standing up for your partner!

NTA

Been a few weeks since this exact story was posted. What a coincidence that it happened again!

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I've read this before...

Nta. I know how you feel. My bf works at an autoshop but makes a very decent living. My cousin works at a different auto shop and always tries to boast about how much he makes and this and that. How he spent $10k to furnish his apartment for his gf. Luckily he's never said it to my bfs face, though, but it irks me to high heavens whenever he goes on these tirades. My bf, unlike my cousin, is smart and saves his money. I'm also 99% sure my bf makes at least 2x my cousin, but I haven't bothered to asked either the specifics.

Do you actually think you’re the asshole? I mean, you’re very, VERY clearly not. Obviously your brother and his third wife are turds.

NTA.

Honestly this feels fake it’s so so outrageous lol.

NTA.

Kudos to you for standing up for your spouse for your own family. This is how it should be. Also your husband is very mature for letting in-law stuff roll off his shoulder.

Your brother sounds like a tool and needed some humbling. Your parents didn’t seem to be bothered by it.

You guys seem like a model couple.

NTA - what everyone else says, but I wanted to add - I was thrilled to read about your mom telling stories on you at dinner! Your mom rocks! Sorry about bro, though. Jerk.

How many times has this story been posted on here. At least five times. 

EVERYONE knows electricians make huge sums of money.. it's a literal common joke. 

Yta for this 

Bruh these stories on here are so ridiculous sometimes. Like your brother sounds like the biggest asshole ever and there is nothing remotely close to AH behavior in what you did. Like I dunno how this is even a question.

NTA. I love that your brother is such a weenie, he had his finance text you! He couldn’t even do it himself, hahaha!

NTA. How does someone allegedly as smart as him not know electricians make serious money? Electricians make the world go 'round. Bravo for having his back.

NTA - probably should refer to her as "Future-Ex SIL."

NTA. What your husband makes honestly isn't even relevant to the story. Your brother was being a dick - that would still have been true, even if he'd been correct about how much your husband makes. He needed to be called out and told that this behaviour isn't acceptable. That your brother happened to be wrong barely even matters, beyond the fact that it probably made it a little easier to make him shut up.

Nta- I wouldn’t worry about what she has to say, not if she’s wife #3

Sometimes, putting people like your brother in his place just needs to be done. It’s in poor taste to brag about things like that.

So your brother didn't stand up for himself but his 3rd fiance sent you a bunch of texts lol. We all know who won and your husband is awesome for letting you handle this. Also your brother is idiot!

Stop being disingenuous. It's annoying when you obviously know it's all on your brother.

Such bad fiction. Brother wa in law school at least until 25. And 2 divorces? Yeah right. Plus, he's buying a porsche, etc.? Yeah, makes more than an electrician. But the cherry? Rich parents allow for someone else to pay for their wedding anniversary trip? LOL!

Come on, can we not give trolls the attention? An electrician making twice a lawyer buying a Porsche? Come on, people.

I feel like these posts are just trying to get people into the trades. And who doesn't know that plumbers and electricians and welders and all the other people in this scenario I've seen three times, just this week,make serious bank?

I hate when people fight in front of others, I would have shut it down quickly and not gone on a tirade.

NTA, but... I mean, the whole point of keeping your wealth low-key is that you don't have to flash it.

Lawyers are usually douchbags

My sister did the same constantly. Belittling me because my husband can't drive. I pointed out how much my husband was making, she stfu quite quickly. Lol.

She did continue to boast about how much her husband made, however, my husband and my income combined was far more than theirs, same with my brother and his wife.

Some people just need knocking down a few pegs.

Nta. Your husband was happy you stood up for him and it didn’t upset your mom (whose day it was) so you’re good 👍🏼  And your brother is an idiot. “An electrician’s wage” he says to a man who owns his own business 🤦🏻‍♀️ smh  he embarrassed himself. If you want to brag then brag. Bragging doesn’t mean you have to degrade others. 

You are not obligated to share your finances with anyone. Just don’t do it. Ignore the brother

NTA for making your point about your brother’s boasting and ignorance. YTA for yelling it. You can’t yell the phrase ‘It’s not about you’ without actually making it about yourself.

You let yourself build up a steaming head of resentment, and got into ‘last straw’ territory. Don’t let things get that far. You can make quiet, smiley statements that put people in their place- and often sting them more, without the consequences on you.

Example: Bro shows off his new watch. You: ‘That’s nice, Brandon and I prefer to invest in property and other things that appreciate in value.’

Don’t tell people how much your husband makes just cuz

I'm pretty sure that I've read this exact story here before.

Fake.... Another master electrician? Making $500k at his age? Nope.

ESH - what a stupid thing to fight about. It’s a typical fight among siblings but like…. When they’re 10.

YTA for throwing how much your husband makes in his face!

Am I crazy or does anyone else feel like they remember this story before on here? NTA anyway.

Great... Another fantasy post... 🙄

I could swear that I had read this story like a few months ago. NTA

Why do folks use abbreviations and then spell out what it means.

This is such a bot post lmfao.

Is this real? These story is crazy

Not at all, as most blue collar workers we don't want to say how much we make. I myself have ran into family and friend trouble when I switched careers. Some people are dumbfounded by how much a skilled trained worker such as ourselves can make. Hence why keep it a secret and just enjoy. Never boast. It's more civil that way, only my mother knows what my income is. I'll never tell family.

*Insert ancient proverb about dick measuring contest here*

I could swear i read this exact story a few months ago.